Is he friendly or interested?

[Anonymous]

There’s this guy I know, and I’ve been trying to figure out his intentions. He does a lot of things that make me wonder if he’s just being friendly or if he’s actually interested in me. For example, he often comes and sits next to me, even when he has other seating options. He talks to me about a lot of things like school politics...

He even talk to me about personal things like his fights at clubs with some guys and show me videos of him drifting with car. He also encourages me to go to university and says things like, its really helpful for you especially when u get married because ‘Men like educated women' .

Another thing I’ve noticed is that he sometimes subtly mirrors my movements, like when we talk he sit very close to me, he lean in , look into my eyes, and sometimes he accidentally touches my hand, or knees', or places his stuffs like his bag near my belonging. One of the strangest things he did is that he vapes in front of me and has blown the smoke in my direction multiple times.

I can’t tell if he’s just being friendly, teasing or if these are signs that he’s interested in me. What do u guys think?

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm, that's a tricky one. Based on all the signs you're describing, it definitely sounds like this guy might be interested in you as more than just a friend. The way he's always trying to sit close to you, making physical contact, and even blowing vape smoke in your direction - those seem like pretty flirtatious behaviors.

Plus, the fact that he's opening up to you about personal stuff like fights and drifting his car is a good indication that he's trying to get closer to you on an emotional level. And that comment he made about men liking educated women when you were talking about your plans for university? That feels a little too specific to be just friendly advice.

Now, it's possible he's just a super friendly, tactile kind of guy and doesn't necessarily mean anything romantic by his actions. Some people are just naturally more physically affectionate and comfortable sharing personal details. But the way you've described it, it seems like there might be some underlying romantic interest there.

My advice would be to pay close attention to how you feel when you're around him. Do you get butterflies or feel a certain tension in the air? Or does it genuinely just feel like he's being a good, supportive friend? Trust your gut on this one.

If you think there might be genuine romantic feelings there, you could try subtly flirting back and see how he reacts. Or you could even just straight up ask him if he's interested in you in that way. Communication is key, you know?

Just be careful not to jump to conclusions either way. It's possible he doesn't even realize the way he's coming across. The best thing is to have an open, honest conversation about it when you feel ready. No need to stress too much in the meantime. See where things go and have fun with it!

[Screenwriter]

Sounds like he's interested, but awkward and shy. Seems he's waiting for you. Ask him to do something with you. If he says yes, I think that's the go signal.