How have your opportunities to flirt changed as you’ve gotten older?

[capriVib]

Back in university, it was rare to find someone who didn’t flirt; most people had a boyfriend or girlfriend. But as you got older, into your 30s, 40s, or 50s, did your chances to flirt decrease? Or did some of you actually find more opportunities later on? How has that process been for you?

I'm especially curious about men

[OneViewpoint]

To my complete surprise, I’m getting much more action in my 50’s than I did in my 20’s.

I don’t even have to initiate the flirting now. Women flirt with me. In fact, I’m almost never the one initiating these days.

Why? I’ve changed. Confidence. Sophistication. My clothes. I have experience. And a lot more knowledge. I can carry a conversation. I’m not afraid of getting rejected. I’ll say anything to a woman (in fun) and truly not give a damn.

And especially in my age range I’m in better shape than 95% of men 45-55.

[AviatorTom]

Now that I am older, I can playfully flirt with anyone I want, whenever I want. It sometimes gets us better service at a restaurant if I flirt with the server.

When I was younger, if I playfully flirted, nothing more in mind, I would often get bad looks.

[AviatorTom]

Thanks for MHO

[Finchie40]

I still flirt but not as much as I use to , especially compared to when I was younger , Nowadays I am very selective with who I flirt with , mainly because of my own experiences with girls’ that all turned to shit basically , so I tend to keep to myself more unless I come across a beautiful girl that catches my eye , I am not shy , so I will take a shot at her if I am interested, I tend to approach a girl more on a friendly level over just flirting with her , to get to know her more personally then just trying to get into her pants pretty much , if she approaches me first I will still talk to her on a friendly level , but if she hints to me that she is interested, I will flirt back if I am interested in her. It seems when a girl approaches me first , the outcome is better , because most girls’ know what they want , and if she wants you , it’s easier lol

[capriVib]

Yeah, that's right. women chooses relationship. I wish I had given you the "MHO" you're such a flirt expert. There's no one more experienced than you in these matters, king 😉

[Finchie40]

Thanks for the compliment man, I just consider myself wise when it comes to things like this, mainly because of my own personal experiences and things I have witnessed through the years but I know I am not perfect , and trying to fully understand females’ is impossible , their brains are wired different from ours, if females’ thought like we did , this whole world would be an orgy pretty much lol. One thing about girls’ is it’s ok to flirt with her , only if she is attracted or interested in you , but if she isn’t , then you will be considered a pig in her eyes , Just like catcalling , if a guy catcalls a girl , and she turns her head and c’s him , and she finds him attractive, she will love being catcalled by him , but if she finds him unattractive , she will be disgusted and think how dare he catcall me. If I am catcalled by girls’ or a girl , whether I am attracted to her or not , I still smile and think thanks for noticing me , and smile. I can’t say all girls’ are this way, but most are , why I watch what I say because I don’t want to cause drama over a flirty compliment. So if you see a beautiful girl that catches your eye , just talk to her on a friendly level and if things are going good between the both of you , then you can flirt with her and tell her she has beautiful eyes and bear smile , or compliment her hair , Girls’ love when you acknowledge her hair , because most times she takes a long time combing it and making it nice , so that’s a compliment most girls’ will smile about , it’s going me laid a handful of times lol

[Tarifa]

During most of my teenage years, flirting was awkward because I was unsure about a lot of things. That changed during my years at university. It was a place to meet great friends, gorgeous girls and have sex. Mostly no questions asked.

Later on, your social circle narrows because you enter the professional market. You make up for it during holidays.

Flirting was something constant, but only during those periods in between relationships. It completely stopped once I got married. No need to date or flirt.

[Zionne]

For most men, the type of flirting shifts more than the amount. In your 20s, flirting is everywhere because everyone’s single and social. In your 30s–50s, opportunities don’t disappear, they just move into different spaces: work, hobbies, gyms, social groups, travel, dating apps. Many men even report more flirting later because they're more confident and selective.

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[Texaskid1]

They have increased but...

Many of the women who flirt with me are younger than me ( I am 48). Many in their 30's but a few ladies of college age seem to check me out and give me that look ( I don't know how to explain it but with experience you recognize it). Of course, I take of myself with diet and gym time so that helps!! Lately, I don't really flirt that much as it feels useless to me, superficial. As I get older I find that I have less tolerance for women's bullshit and superficiality. Also, I have become more skeptical of flirting - I had a bad experience with some women who who would flirt heavy with me but when I would bust a move she would shot me down. I pretty much keep to myself now and don't pay much attention to women anymore since I just assume their flirting means nothing. Just smoke and mirrors.

[Abbycado]

I agree. I’m in school and there are no shortage of opportunities. I’m not single currently but it would not be hard if I were.

[capriVib]

I can clearly see that most guys in engineering who aren’t socially active end up staying single.

[Abbycado]

I dunno. There are a couple of guy in the mechanical engineering program in the adjacent hall we are friends with. They both have girlfriends. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[Nikki1989]

Older men are the biggest flirts of all, so not sure what world you are living in.

[capriVib]

Yes, I’ve noticed that many older men, those over 30, tend to flirt more; but what really matters here is the success rate.

[Twodogs0525]

I've been a flirt my whole life! It was one of the funnest things to do while going to school and I never stopped unless I wasn't single. I'm currently married, so I keep the flirting to a minimum.

[Justneedtokno]

Staring is considered in women’s hand book and macho is considered for the other.

[capriVib]

Is that handbook you mentioned from the Polished Stone Age? :D

[Justneedtokno]

Men don’t like mystery, or showing too like they for everybody. Not a woman shoot they shots directly

[blackeagle007]

I have to disagree. Some mystery is exciting. No one, men or women likes boredom.

[Anonymous]

No, I nevere flirted, I don't even know how to flirt.

I guess the lack of that skill is one of the reasons why I never had a relationship, never had a kiss, and still being a virgin.

[capriVib]

Yes, I think part of flirting is an innate talent; some people are naturally more inclined toward it.

But what I’m curious about is this: on this site, there’s a member between 36 and 45 years old who answers every question but stays anonymous — no one really knows who they are. And that member is you. Why are you so reserved, and where do you live? I’m curious.

[Opinion Owner]

There are two more guys of the same age (36-45) who are also always anonymous.
I also don't know who they are.
I'm often not anonymous on the questions asked by some of my friends.
I was on this site several years ago, and I had problems with some trolls and spammers.
That's why I'm so reserved.
I live in South East Europe.

[capriVib]

You're the same person, I've asked one more time. You're always being so secretive. We love you.

[Opinion Owner]

Well, I'm not sure if I was the one you were talking to before, but thank you, people usually tell me that I'm the most polite anonymous in here.

[Ironco]

I wouldn't say they decreased, I just noticed I have to flirt with younger ladies more.

Ladies my age are either taken, discouraged in men, or out to fix a man.

Also, I'm a widower so if a woman knows this they act different around me.

[msc545]

I stopped bothering. It has become too legally dangerous if the woman doesn't like it.

[capriVib]

It's not dangerous. At most, if the woman doesn't like u, she'll say, "Go, I don't want u". that simple

[msc545]

No, at most, she will complain to police that you harassed her. It happens.

[capriVib]

If you are forceful and try to make physical contact, of course she will report you to the police. However, if you are in an environment you frequent and you simply want to meet her by saying hello and starting a conversation, she might ignore you or say, "I'm not interested." What else could happen?

[msc545]

Keep doing it and find out what can happen

[mysteriousNicholas]

Im basically semi retired to just about retried from it now at almost 32 😏😋

[MJVillarama]

Flirting definitely changes with age. it’s less about quantity and more about quality. In your 30s+, it’s more about genuine connection than just fun banter