After only dates a guy offers a trip abroad. The chemistry is intense but I almost don't know anything about him. Is it a red flag?

[Anonymous]

how do i react?

[Summeroflove]

Well if it feels weird that’s normal you don’t know him super well so if it’s a red flag…. It’s probably a red flag. It’s okay to say no… You don’t have to be a asshole or a bitch about it. I’m sorry I don’t know you super well, we have good chemistry I’m interested in getting to know you better but am not ready for this

[slatyb]

Why don't you know anything about him? Is he not sharing? Don't go until you know who he is and what he's doing with his life. How does he support himself? Is he single? Does he have friends? Who are they?

[DishLady]

He's probably going off the chemistry. Some guys gt very enthusiastic. It's not specifically a red flag unless he's giving off other predatory vibes. It's sweet.

A guy's "job" is to suggest the next move. A gal's "job" is to allow it.

So the balls are just in your court. ;)

[WhitneySnow]

That’s a huge red flag. Get to know each other first.

[OlderAndWiser]

Imagine that you have a daughter, she is the one in this position, and she comes to you for advice. What would you tell her?

[MisterPandemonium]

Probably a bad idea.

For all you know, this guy is a member of the Elite Hunting Club.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hostel_(2005_film)

[Yannae]

I would decline that offer, that's too soon.

[Asker]

yes it's been only
two dates and he is not consistant.

[Yannae]

Stay safe out there.

[DonaldDarko]

This is a red flag, it's how human traffickers operate. The offer of a trip abroad is a huge red flag. That gets the victim to the country where she will be exploited.

[Anonymous]

Wow you really are dumb aren't you... haven't you ever heard of sex trafficking and sex slave trade. Are you that foolish to go abroad to a different country with a guy you barely know who could kidnap you drug you up chain you up and force you to have sex with multiple different men and get physically abused beaten raped and possibly near death... use your head before talking out of your ass with questions like these and before putting yourself in literal grave danger.

[queenofcardio]

A trip abroad when you barely know each other? I wouldn't.

[Mariogirl09]

I can tell you its for sex. he's moving too fast!

[Asker]

i thought it as well, cause we were only on 2 dates.

[Mariogirl09]

You should reject his offer to take you on a trip. Tell him its too soon and see what his intentions are and make him wait!

[Asker]

he dissapeared

[Mariogirl09]

He did the dirty work for you... sounds like he's ghosting. NEXT!!🗣

[Asker]

Thank you! 🫶🏾

[Mariogirl09]

No problem girl!!

[Ava-ryday]

i dont know about red flag. but its forsure a security issue. tell him that you want to know him more. maybe its normal for him which is fine until he listens and tells u its fine too. if he doesn't or inisists you. run

[DextroShade]

Sounds like the plot of Taken

[LiamS95]

That sounds like a plan for him to get the sex he selfishly wants from you, without any regard for your feelings.

[Nikki1989]

He sounds desperate.

[CountryWanderer]

I'd be very cautious

[Bloodparadise]

Is it a to a place that you like

[Daytoday79]

It's a bit fast, in my book.

[Anonymous]

After only 1 date? HUGE RED FLAG.

[Opinion Owner]

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