He also spoken about her a fair bit
Be careful. It sounds like he's not yet emotionally free of her, and that means he's not really emotionally available to you or anyone else. Rebound is a real phenomenon. And it causes people to start a new relationship, to latch onto someone new to comfort themselves. The new relationship is like using the new person as a band-aid. But then when they're feeling better, they are likely to discard the band-aid, and that could really hurt the new person. I've seen this happen several times. This is why they tell someone coming out of a divorce or a breakup to NOT DATE ANYONE for at least six months, possible a year, as long as it takes them to grieve and mourn over their loss and to heal.
Don't be a victim. Maybe you should tell him, "I think you're a great guy, but I don't think you're ready, and I don't want to be your band-aid. Call me when you're really over her and ready to focus on me!"
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If He is in contact with His Ex because they have Kids together then chances are You don't have anything to worry about, otherwise I understand Your concern.
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People should not have any contact with an ex unless they had kids together and need to for custody reasons. It is almost always harmful to their future relationships.
There are men without these complications. I recommend moving on.
He asked you that on the first date? that is weird. A first date should be getting to know each other. Not asking about previous ex's. That is a red flag for me
Of course that's a red flag. At least he's telling you though.
yeah , u are mostly likely would ended up become rebound
Didn't you previously date a dude who was super into his ex? Or is this the same guy?
Yes red flag, he is still hooked on her.
He’s not over her
Pass on him.
Yeah, red flag
Boy bye
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