Why does he flirt with me but change the topic when I flirt back?

[Anonymous]

Like.. He frequently flirt. But everytime i flirt back, he ignore n choose to reply to other statement instead

[HollyK21]

I hope you’re not one of those to take disagreement as a personal attack and lash out, because my opinion is that maybe he wasn’t flirting. Your generalized idea of what flirting looks like may not apply to him, and that’s something you should be able to consider without it poking at your ego or self esteem. If you were correct, he wouldn’t make an effort to show you otherwise each time.

[Asker]

No, i dont take it as personal attack :) But then, if he frequently compliment me like, u are very beautiful, u are gorgeous. And sometimes he would say “i wanna take u our for dinner” “im being serious, i really wanna take u out” “you’re making it hard not to like you” and many2 more things like that.. maybe if that doesn't call as flirting, then I don't know whatever that is being called as, but yeah he did all of that, but when i try so, he ignores

[HollyK21]

Sorry for such a late response, I was out doing my Sunday errands. There’s no need for sarcasm, you didn’t provide ANY examples of his flirtation, which is why I said your idea of flirting may not be what’s going on. Mind you, people very frequently use smiling, walking to the car, or sitting together at lunch as flirtation on this site at least once a week. Asking you out on a date repeatedly is obviously would quality as flirtation, but to repeatedly do this and then not follow up on it is weird. It makes me think that he just wants to keep it in the office but does a bad job at just doing that. I really think that only he could answer for something so specific, but if you aren’t comfortable asking then I would just put a stop to it altogether.

[LC75LC71]

Stop playing his game. Act like a real woman and pretend his flirt didn't even count!

[Anonymous]

He’s a bad flirt