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When someone who has a partner goes out of their way to flirt or build an intense connection with a stranger, do you think they genuinely find that stranger beautiful and interesting? Or are they just using them as a temporary boredom fix to boost their own ego?
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When someone in a relationship flirts intensely, is it genuine or just an ego boost?
Anonymous
(25-29) 
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I’d say anyone who can cheat on their partner, whether it’s emotionally or physically, is a disingenuous person, and quite selfish.
Shut up holly
How are you doing Chels?
And be honest! We are internet sisters after all. according to you☺️💛 you don’t hate me so stop acting like it.
I hate your gutttssss lol but I’m good…
I found out I was right about my cousin all along.. at my grandfather’s funeral my cousin who I had fallen out with years ago came… I had actually said something rude to her because she is also trans and she and the “cousin” talk… this cousin lives in my grandparents old home and she pay rent to my mom and my mom said that we should make up… so when she came to the funeral we hung out and she was drinking… I didn’t want to talk about the situation but she knew about it… she kind of said it out of nowhere but we ended up talking about it and she said that the “cousin “ told her that it all had happened on the internet and that he liked her but she didn’t like him. And I told my cousin that she lied to me and told me and my mother that she never reached out to him and that she didn’t know him.. I only gave her his @ to see if she thought he was gay.. so I explained to my cousin that she was in fact not being honest and she gaslit me and no one believed me
Stop it, no you don’t lol you just don’t like what I have to say, but a genuine person is gonna keep it real with you Chels! I’m not afraid to hurt your feelings, someone fake absolutely will be. I care about your overall wellbeing.
I do not remember two cousins, just the trans one and that whole situation with the African guy. I read through this and tried differentiating which cousin is which, but I guess it doesn’t matter much if they’re both trans. Anyway, I’m not trying to upset or trigger you when I say this, hell you don’t even have to care what I think. But unfortunately I have a hard time believing all this. Not the entire story, but just the whole breakdown of this drunken confession.
Before you get upset, let me explain. I’ve known you for about 3-4 years now, I believe we first spoke like at the end of 2023 but feel free to correct me. The whole thing with your cousin happened in about mid 2024, even early 2024, but for you it feels like many years, even though it’s been like 1 1/2. Based off previous experiences, I’ve already gathered that time works differently for you, and as it passes you seem to step further away from the facts of a situation. I’m proud of you for slowing down all the posts about the African, your coworker, your old camp counselor, and the waiter, but you adjust and alter the stories almost every time you posted. You excluded important details, switched up the narrative, have spoken from another person’s perspective, and essentially said what you needed to say as to garner the validation you very much wanted. I have seen it. So for you to come forward with this whole scenario that you feel will warrant agreement from me, makes me feel like it didn’t happen.
I believe you may have gone to a funeral and spoke with your cousins, even the drunk part, but not the rest. Don’t get upset with my response bc like I said — you don’t need my agreement. I’ve just experienced too much with you babe.
I know you struggle with mental illness that not many can relate to, and unless things have changed then you’ve been avoiding getting help and mainly just take the medication as if that fixes everything. No, it just makes you sleepy, or foggy, or whatever the side effect may be, but it’s not helping fundamentally. I really hope you are reconsidering finding a therapist who works for you, and focusing on starting a career as a nurse. Otherwise I fear that as you just rot away at home, your mind will work against you. It’ll convince you of narratives and things that simply aren’t true but you will profess them with conviction. You’ve got a lot of trauma, and too much coping in the form of lies. You have got to deal with this shit Chels. Someone who hasn’t been here from the start wouldn’t know any better, and if I didn’t know better I would fully agree with what you’ve said. But I have a hard time with that. It’s ok if you respond cussing me out, I do not give a damn and I tell you that often. But it’s because I care about your overall wellbeing, and would love to see you do better. You CAN do better.
This other trans cousin I hadn’t spoke to! But she told me what the trans cousin I feel betrayed me said… I’m telling you the truth!
You are such a fucking enemy… I regret saying anything to you!
I’m not an enemy at all. You just don’t like what I have to say and that’s totally fine, you don’t have to agree with it and I’m ok with that.
The usual temper tantrum, Holly you’re so this, Holly you’re so that! Alright lol.
No because I feel like you don’t understand how it makes me feel when I’m actually trying to tell you something… it’s hurtful it triggering…
I’m telling you what was said to me and telling you that my cousin was actually in contact with this guy based on what my other cousin had said… so what now?
I’m never trying to hurt your feelings or trigger you which is why I repeatedly put those disclaimers out. If I was entirely brand new, meeting you today or something then yeah, I’d believe that. But there’s just way too much history and it’s like you’re mad at me for remembering it. Tell me this, have you or have you not been professionally diagnosed with a mental health issue that on paper, affects your way of thinking? Have you or have you not found a new therapist over almost a year of not receiving any sort of help aside from medication?
What does that have to do with what I just told you?
Like I’m not understanding… those questions were just ways for me to cope on hard days and disassociate not real. I don’t talk to anyone else about this
You know what nvm. Good day
It has everything to do with what you told me, because you’re completely in denial. The problem IS that you don’t talk to anyone about it when you really should. Anyway yeah, have a good one Chels.
Sooo just ignore the fact that I actually provided proof right? I never brought up that other trans cousin because we weren’t on speaking terms! But we only reconnected after my grandfather recently passed away and my mom wanted us to reconnect.
So you have nothing to say about that but you still have everything to say about everything else.. the same thing.. I ALREADY KNOW. And I’m working on it.. I just feel like no matter what I say regardless of what happened between me and the guy.. that you stick to the same script about it. I don’t feel like I can talk to you and it feels triggering because I actually am telling you an important piece.. that it wasn’t in my head.
Chels, a story is not proof. I say that because you have come on here telling many stories. Are you really going to treat me like I just envisioned seeing you come on here time after time, tailoring your stories, even telling them from different perspectives? Those things happened so excuse me if I have a hard time believing yet another story. I don’t want you to be upset with me I’m just telling you where I’m coming from. If it’s to triggering then I guess don’t tell me.
I think that could easily go either way depending on the person. I bet there are a lot of people that genuinely mean it and are sincere. Could even be the way their personalities are.
On the flipside, I could easily see those who do it to boost their partner's ego. That also makes complete sense. I am not sure that I would find that wrong in any way. Might be doing it out of love to make them feel good even if it is faked.
Either they want an ego boost or they want to hook up with you. The odds that they really want to leave their partner and date you exclusively are very low.
People that flirt with others while in a relationship aren't emotionally healthy and seek unhealthy validation
It probably depends entirely on the situation. Is this new person someone from the past or new?
If I care about someone, I focus intensely on them during sex as well.