How do I actually figure out what my dating league is?

[Anonymous]

Been approached twice. One of them made the effort to at least converse with me before asking but later they admitted they were just lonely and were talking to other people. Second guy just cold approached bc I was sitting alone (also sitting down when first guy spotted me) and gave a pickup line after seeing front profile (don’t know if he was disappointed seeing my side profile). Don’t know if it’s just bc some guys are desperate bc it’s hard to find people who want to date and they ask below their league but yea. I knew another guy who was conventionally unattractive (overweight, no haircut and neckbeard) and he was’t excited at all seeing me but was really excited/touchy/hitting on more conventionally attractive girls. So kinda confused on what’s my league

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Yeah yeah I know I appear shallow

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Oh and my age range thing is wrong. I’m in my early 20s

[SueShe]

There is no such thing as a league when it comes to people.

Those categories have been created by people to categorize humans into castes, just like in India. The leagues don't say anything about the people at all but are an artificial construct to make someone look more or less important.

There are millions of examples where people of different leagues have met and found each other without any prejudice to either person.

But people want to create those artificial leagues because they believe that a person must fit into a specific category. This is a silly way to attempt to segregate people and to make them believe that they are better or worse than others.

[Nikki1989]

For the millionth time—there are NO leagues.

[DragonDan444]

If you put yourself into a league you just limit your options. Go after who you’re attracted to and setting for someone you’re not into not only hurts yourself but hurts someone else as well

[Iron_Man]

Do you know how a league of good looking is you can tell by that.

[Asker]

Not sure why it’s that bad to want to know where I fall. No I won’t post my photo. It’s not like I’m saying a guy can’t have preferences but it’s not like he knew any of these girls either. He was purely going by looks

[Iron_Man]

I’m talking about in person when people see you every day if you get a good looking guy that’s real good looking and then you can tell by your league
instead of an average Joe league

[Asker]

Well I don’t know though. I can’t really tell. Again bc like I’m never shown interest in aside from like two approaches which might have been a numbers game, I don't know where I fall.

[Iron_Man]

OK, what’s the best looking actor that you have a crush on? Now you find a guy in person that looks kind of like him or good looking like that then you’ll have your league. If not you’ll have just a chubby average. Joe

[Asker]

Well I did think the two guys who approached me were attractive but again numbers game like in general, men have trouble finding dates. But yea definitely I’m not someone a guy would be excited to see. It sucks bc I have zero curves and have an androgynous face. I am skinny tho. Idkk what to do like no guys are ever interested in me (I didn’t like the approach stuff bc it was just them lonely and it wasn’t that I was important). But tbh I do have bad social anxiety I don't know if that’s a dealbreaker or it’s bc I don’t look feminine enough

[Iron_Man]

Well, then, just be glad you’re getting dates but don’t give away your having sex with them because they will leave you and
won’t respect you if you don’t give it away if they stick around that means they are a keeper

[Asker]

Yeah it never went physical. Rejected them bc I don’t wanna date someone who doesn’t like me. So the harsh truth is I’m probably unattractive/below average?

[Iron_Man]

I’m sure you look good. You’re young. Don’t be so hard on yourself.

[Anonymous]

Find someone who loves you unconditionally.

[jahaims]

A mirror and common sense

[Anonymous]

Shallow shit.