How can I give men clearer signs if they seem totally clueless?

[Anonymous]

[HollyK21]

I feel like if you can find the courage to show signs, and willing to show stronger ones at that, then you should definitely consider just approaching the guy. Each act takes a certain amount of courage, the only difference is that one route gives you a solid answer while the other relies on hopes of him catching hints and signals, along with him choosing to act of feelings that you aren’t even 100% sure he has.

[DragonDan444]

Be direct even if you’re rejected you’re not wasting your time on a dude whose never goin to make a move and you’re also not watching a guy who genuinely likes you move on to another girl.

On one extreme a dude may not be clueless he may be completely aware of what you’re doing and just not be into you therefore making him uncomfortable potentially creating a more awkward situation then rejection. On the other everyone flirts so differently but people also move on - attraction comes and goes. It’s best to be direct before someone else comes along.

[OneViewpoint]

Giving men "signs" is dishonest and cowardly. Why do you think your cryptic bullshit is gonna get you what you want? Just admit you are too cowardly to do exactly what you expect men to do, put themselves out there and take all the risk. I have zero sympathy for women who spend 10 years of their prime waiting for guy after guy to pick up on their vague "hints". And then at 33 to 40 they are online wondering what happened to them. Your own cowardice happened to you. Own it.

[Nikki1989]

Good luck with that. The problem is men still expect the woman to do all the work. You will see clear evidence of that in this thread before too long. Remember in the minds of many men, the woman is always to blame for everything.

[OlderAndWiser]

Clearer signs about what? You want him to ask you for a date? Kiss? Have sex? Casual? Serious?

[Anonymous]

Work on it. I know you like to think men are totally clueless. But the reality is you simply do not want to put yourself out there. So you have a tendency to do LESS than more. And men read that as MINIMAL EFFORT. As the saying goes, "if she wanted to, she would".

[jamesgoldman]

My second girlfriend spent 2 months flirting with me to the point where our colleagues had told me that she was interested and well in the end I didn't fully get it until I woke up on her dad's couch with her mid blowjob

[Anonymous]

You don’t give clues. You tell them. Women supposedly are better communicators, so please communicate. Don’t give clues or hints. Most men aren’t raised to give clues or hints when it comes to expressing what we want or don’t want.

[slatyb]

Just invite them to a meeting: coffee, lunch, dinner, whatever.

[Anonymous]

Clearer signs? How about you stop thinking in terms of "signs" and just be straight forward, like guys are? Just a thought.

[Sunshinelips]

Men don’t like signs. Just tell them straight up.

[Spencer10]

Talk to them. Men are not mind readers.

[Anonymous]

Directly communicate with them.