How good are you at picking up signals when someone is interested in you?

Question

I’m honestly not that good at it.. I tend to think someone is just being friendly, even when there might be obvious signs.. What about you? Do you usually catch the hints, or do you realize it later?

OneViewpoint · Accepted Answer

I can pick up women's subtle (read vague and cryptic "obvious") flirting signals pretty easily. I spend most of my time reading the room and watching other people interacting. But it generally turns me off when a woman is so evasive, indirect, and frankly cowardly in communicating her interest. Interacting with someone who needs to maintain plausible deniability at any cost is tedious and I seldom have the patience for it. The approach screams insecurity. Will the conversation be as shallow and nothing but small talk? Sorry, I'm not stepping into that trap. I'd rather enjoy my drink and my meal with my own thoughts.

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

Sometimes I feel like I am but there are many many times where I mean if you don't come straight out and tell me I don't know it's because I don't look at people like that you know I just look at everybody being friendly and yeah I really need to be told sometimes and it's better that way for me too because then I don't make a fool out of myself by thinking something that's not there but yeah that's kind of funny me having to say it but that's just me

KBird · Accepted Answer

I would say Im pretty good... until I went to/lived in Europe for a bit.

Im Canadian, and I would say Im pretty good at reading the signs (eye contact, body language, minor flirting, etc.), I feel like I have generally good spider-senses for these types of things.

However, when I moved to Europe, my radar was OFF. It depended where you were, but I found that people there were generally more flirty by nature. But I was also told that, where I was living, love is more fluid, "everyone is interested in everyone", and that flirting is just a friendly way of greeting someone. Which was quite the concept...

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

I would say I am not very good at detecting romantic desire, unless they make it obvious by asking for my number or inviting me for a date or treating me with social favouritism or giving me more attention than everyone else.

I had guys judge me for rejecting them and telling people I lead them on and pretended to like them, when I did not even know they were pursuing me or interested in me.

And I met guys that I thought were hitting on me, and then discovered they were taken and there had never been any dating interest from them.

TrueConfection · Answer

Terrible!!!

I don’t think anyone is interested unless he looks at me like I’m a juicy steak and then I’m uncomfortable. There have been a few times that I was told a guy is attracted to me or that I was being, “checked out,” but I never saw it.

Finchie40 · Answer

I guess I am pretty good at it because I can read body language pretty well , but I am definitely not 100 percent

AviatorTom · Answer

I'm a typical guy. We don't get subtle hints and signals. Be blunt.

ManOnFire · Answer

You are a rare woman to think a guy is just being friendly. Most women think almost everything a guy says or does with her means he likes her.

I'm pretty good at it because I'm good at reading people and vibes in a room anyway. One way I know someone likes me is that they proactively not just ask about me, but they even try to engage me in conversation. Female friends don't really do this, they're just casual with you, but chicks who are seriously into you want to know about you, and they don't hide it that they want to see you and talk to you more.

Lionman95 · Answer

I´m awful, the chance of me picking up a signal is likely as other people winning the lottery. But I also know the reason for that: I´ve never been in a relationship. I´ve had female friends in school and youth activities but those friendships were school or activity related and mostly developed by other factors not my iniative. That´s why I sometimes have moments where people tell me later: "Oh that woman must have really like as she did etc.", and I´m like: "Oh I thought she was really friendly."

Zack-Bann · Answer

I found it better to pickup signals of disinterest instead.
Assuming attraction until shown otherwise is a much better way of getting the most out of knowing people…

As for my own signs.
I might be friendly but I’m not that friendly 😉
If I show interest. I’m interested.

Friendlybro79 · Answer

It's a little difficult for me because I'm very extroverted and like being friendly when I meet people and I try not to assume because a woman smiled at me or said hi, means she wants me lol.

I have been told I'm sort of clueless but to your point, it can be difficult to pick up on the difference between I'm interested in you and general kindness.

Anonymous · Answer

How interested are they?

When a woman is TRULY interested in a guy she will move heaven and Earth to get him. But on the flipside that seldom happens. Most women, most of the time have mild interest in most guys. Well, sorry. I'm not interested in doing some little dance to stoke some flame that'll likely go out anyways. I'll wait for the woman who has legitimate genuine interest.

So to answer question i'm VERY good at picking up a woman's signals. And also when the signals are just BS.

P. S. it's good you're "honest". Most women are not. Most PEOPLE are not.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Partly, not very but that's PARTLY because I don't want to "pick up" on signals that aren't really signals and end up disappointed! You'd practically have to rape me before I could be sure and act upon on it!! ESPECIALLY THESE DAYS with that fucking insane "me too" bullshit movement where you can't even THINK ABOUT asking a girl out without going to jail!!!

MrChinaski · Answer

I just assume that every woman is interested in me. It saves time.

Iron_Man · Answer

I am very good at it. I can tell when the girls looking at me and the way she moves her eyes around and the way they glow And she keeps looking over. It’s very simple very easy. And I can tell she’s talking to me with her face wanting me to come over.

Staximus · Answer

I’m pretty oblivious, especially in my younger years. All that subtle mysterious bullshit some girls do is a waste of time on a blockhead like me

Mark_Est · Answer

I dont care about hints. I see stuff women do and try to do. Either say what you want or keep wasting your own time. I got a PC at home, if i want to play games.

Anonymous · Answer

Above than average I guess. I've spent enough effort reading and learning about this, also did some experimenting.
Plus took a course in body language too (includes general human behaviour, as well as love language for each gender too).

Levin · Answer

I figure it out, about 6 months later. I had the worst kind of leftist/feminist indoctrination growing up.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

I guess I'm only good at that when I'm interested in her, and/or if her personality is easy enough to decipher?

queenofcardio · Answer

Sometimes I just know especially if it's obvious

gasman70 · Answer

not very good, I'll admit, I've read books, talked to people, women, been on forums, watched youtubes to try and get a handle on flirting by women

WhitneySnow · Answer

Pretty good, but occasionally I’ve been wrong

rapfan107 · Answer

Im horrible at it 🤣there had been many times I had friends come tell me she's been dropping hints and I never catch them

Nikki1989 · Answer

I'm not sure if I'm terrible at it or if I'm simply blocking out what's going on.

Spencer10 · Answer

I think I am pretty good at it. But I am careful also not to jump to conclusions.

DonaldDarko · Answer

Not too good sometimes. Other times it's easy.

Chayce · Answer

If their body language is positive I. e. pointing towards me, smiling, wanting to be engaged in the conversation and the touch barrier gets broken and it's not met with disgust but it's accepted or reciprocated those are the telling signs.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

Not early. But spent most of my adult life not looking for them

Anonymous · Answer

I'm pretty good at it. I can definitely tell the difference between friendliness vs flirting. I'm very intuitive.

goaded · Answer

Terrible. At least it hasn't happened recently. Or has it? I wouldn't know.

zagor · Answer

Not good at all. It really bit me in the past. Though these days I just don't think anyone is interested in me.

MysticDevice · Answer

I realize so long after the fact that it's too late.

TonyMetal___1986 · Answer

I'm good at it but sometimes i might mistake it with someone just being nice to me...

Darkest-Knight · Answer

I realise much later (after it's way too late). Actually no I don't realise. Someone has to tell me what's going on. Even then I don't see it.

thegreenyogi · Answer

I've got better in recent years...

Melissa19s · Answer

I’m pretty good at picking up signals, but sometimes I second-guess myself 😂. If I’m interested too, though, I’d rather be direct than keep guessing.

scott04sa22 · Answer

nope, I'm always clueless because i don't read women's minds or read their hints.

Guyneedsfeedback · Answer

So bad, I’ve gotten better as I’ve gotten older noticing women finding me attractive though

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Good. Her eyes and body language clearly shows she's interested in me.

Still-alive · Answer

sometimes i think im ok at it, other times i got no clue lol.

damaster · Answer

Not the best. At times I can tell & would notice eventually, but other times I'd think she's just being friendly

Anonymous · Answer

Terrible, other people used to tell me and I'd just ignore it because I must be being set up as the butt of the joke

Stone_30 · Answer

Not good, I even confuse great customer service as flirting 🙄

Laulenke · Answer

I’m not good at it at all because hardly anyone even flirts with me because I’m to old lol

Fshadye5 · Answer

I'm not the best at picking up on the minor clues. I'm better at women just saying it straight forward. No need to be bashful.

robocop666 · Answer

Very very good. Women can hide nothing from me.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm really, really bad. If start to accumulate interest, I begin to overthink it.

Malwi93 · Answer

I wouldn't say they are "interested", they prolly just wanna screw me

Abbycado · Answer

Kinda 50/50. Some people are too subtle.

exitseven · Answer

I am really clueless.

Alex-Snow · Answer

I'm fairly good at it. Body language say a lot.

rgb008 · Answer

I’m really good at it

MainCharacter6 · Answer

Pretty good, especially in person.

Paige2006 · Answer

I am very good

thund3rlight · Answer

terrible

AgentG111 · Answer

Not the best.

agaba · Answer

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