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I think I’m pretty good at it. I wouldn’t call myself pro at it though.
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I think I'm decent at it. I don't want to say I'm a pro because most of my partners haven't been the most subtle about it.
But there have been plenty of times where I can tell someone (who definitely isn't my type) likes me.I voted E. But I'm sort of between D and E.
I never err on assuming this. And I can almost always paint two equally plausible pictures (one where they don't, and one where they do.) So when I feel that way, I proceed on assuming they don't like me that way.LOL, NO. I tell people upfront that if they like me, tell me upfront: no games, flirting, subtly... any of that crap. Otherwise, I'll just assume you're being nice to me.
Especially where I live, it's common for men to be polite and well mannered to women (in most cases). So what most people might assume is flirting, in reality he's just being friendly or a gentleman because that's how he was raised, or he just enjoys your company.Yeah, I’d say I’m pretty good, but it’s not like I’ve called out the women that were giving me signs, saying “hey, I know you’re interested in me” and then them subsequently agreeing or affirming my statement. I feel like I’m good at detecting whether someone is giving me signs that they are attracted to me in an intimate/sexual manner. These signs are things I’ve read about and heard about, but also, I think we all have this instinct/intuition about how someone may feel about us due to evolutionary biology. Since humans spent a lot of time amongst each other in tribes communicating via language, sounds, facial cues, and other ways we have developed a sense on people’s emotions towards us. If people are mad at us, sad, etc.
I'm really shit at it I've had a few hard times with friends one who kissed me as a proclamation and I never knew until then. One who never told me but after over hearing a heated argument between him and his friend I overheard them arguing over me and then later whenever he got drunk he got handsy. Another guy who I practically thought as was guy (used to say he was pansexual) but we always talked about guys together and which ones we thought was hot etc and then he said he liked me yet another girl in our friendship group and then kept saying he's not gunna date me cus he's gunna have a hard time keeping his hands to himself at uni (this was last year at 6th form), not that I even remotely liked him in that way.
I am very much option E, I just assume I’m tolerated and leave it at that,
it does surprise me when someone actually likes me, actually it surprises me when they think I’m okay lol.
Having my current girlfriend blindside me and ask me out, is very clear proof I just don’t have a fucking clue 😂😂Yes, I can definitely tell if a guy is interested in me, I mean sorry, but you guys aren’t exactly subtle about it when you like a girl! Where I falter is in knowing if a guy is really into me, for me, or if he JUST wants some “pussy”! Because if it’s the latter, keep moving on to the next girl. Plenty of women are happy to just get laid! I’m just not like that!
Very good at detecting but annoyed if it takes em too long to admit
No, what i am pretty good at is obsessing in my head that someone likes me and i wished they did but knowing that's not true then get annoyed at myself for feeling envious for someone i cannot have.
Then sometimes i feel like they actually do like me but they won't make a move and neither will i so stalemate. Or it gets even more complicated as in they already have a boyfriend.
Safe to say i just sit here with a lot of thoughts in my head and confusion.I often only found out years later. Its pretty bad actually. People almost directly told me without telling me. Like women started saying "hey, you are looking at Anna, must be because you like her." then she would randomly "forget" the textbook and walk around the entire class to sit and share with me instead of like 5 other people she likes to hang out with. Afterwards she would get up and say to her friends "he didn't even talk to me, what should I do?" I did not get the hint, ever.
I'm a bit 50/50, sometimes it's obvious and other times it's not so obvious. I'm actually going through something at the moment and was thinking of posting a question about how you'd deal with unwanted advances from someone you though was a friend and completely missed the signs.
I am pretty good at it, because i pay attention to details, like body language, enthusiasm, green flags, red flags, how they react, their actions, how much out of the box effort they put. Observation is the key basically.
To gauge their interest, i usually set a bit difficult / inconvenient timings for date (saying my schedule is preoccupied, which it really is), because i really want to see how much effort they are putting towards me to meet me.I actually suck at that kind of stuff when it comes to myself. I can totally tell when it's someone else tho.
E. I think? The only way I know that I've been "checked out" or a guy was ever interested in me without telling me outright is that friends have pointed it out to me. I still can't see it, I just take their word for it so I don't sound annoying.
Admittingly I'm pretty oblivious when it comes down to stuff like this, I'm way more of a direct type of person. If someone straight up tells me they like me then I get the picture, otherwise I don't initially know if they do or don't.
There have been a few times I have looked back and realized that the girl I was interested in really was interested in me too. I just missed it at the time. lol
I’m usually pretty good with it but sometimes I second guess it if there’s a confounding factor like me not knowing they’re in an open relationship or something like that.
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at this point of my life, yes... I can tell when someone's interested or curious more than "the usual/initial intrigue" with enough time and attention the signs are always there to be noticed
Not at all. But i can clearly see it when someone likes someone else
Depends how much I have on my mind. I have some embarrassing stories which I will keep to myself. : )
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