Are you the clingy type on day one?

Question

My bestie who is 37 just met a guy for the first time that we thought would be the perfect guy for her because he has no children and never married and around the same age but he was way too clingy for the first time of meeting. He was pretty much all over her and wanting to be touchy feely which she didn't like at all and I don't blame her.

So are you the clingy type on day one of getting to know someone or do you keep your distance?

7Phoenix7 · Accepted Answer

Definitely not on day one lol, that’s just weird and a turn off to me. When I’m in a relationship with someone, I’ll admit I can get really affectionate and even a little clingy sometimes because I just love being around my person, cuddling and all that….

But being overly touchy and all over me in the beginning would definitely have my red flag alarms going off

lilBigPotato · Accepted Answer

On the first meetup that's a bit of a red flag. You can be touchy but you need to slowly work your way up there and see how the other person feels about it and not be pushy and desperate.

ohsheeT · Answer

No im not on day one or day two but I am a butt head because by day too I would understand that she doesn't like that and that's just way too fast anyway but I do like to laugh and I would sit down next to her and Scoot my butt my hips towards her and smile and act as if nothing's happening if she move that we move closer and at the same time I would be saying I hate girls that are clingy I kind of wish you would stop sitting right next to me I mean we can sit across from each other and that would probably kind of sit up on her hip on her thigh and ask her what do you think about that I'm glad you're not that way I don't know what I would do but no I would hold her hand maybe if we were going someplace doing something or crossing the street even I would just grab it real quick and say come on come on but I would let go once we got across the street and in time in my own way it wouldn't be clingy but there would be a touch of some sort whether it's shoulder to shoulder and if I filter get uncomfortable I would just look at her deep into her eyes and put a face on my face and say would you please stop

I would probably move about 8 inches away by lifting my hips moving the 8 in my butt hitting the seat and then going back the other way 8 in right back where I was with a smile on my face

AviatorTom · Answer

No, I am not clingy. But there is a difference between clingy and touchy-feely. I have been on a few first dates where things got physical pretty quickly, with consent of course.

molonski2 · Answer

He sounds just desperate , not clingy..

Clingy , in my definition is emotional clingy , which personally I can't handle , going for what you want is a different matter altogether.

Were they alone? On a date? Or just meeting for coffee? It's circumstance dependent really.

OneViewpoint · Answer

I'm clingy on day NEVER. It's not a good look for anyone. Nor is hovering over anyone. You're not going to keep them honest, you're gonna drive them away. Be chill but be no one's doormat. Give people their freedom. Demand your own freedom occasionally. And appreciate that time away from each other, we all need it.

Amy10223 · Answer

I don't think that "clingy" means you are touchy/feely with people you like, I think it means you need to be called everyday, or texted 24-7. You can't stand being apart and have to be together all the time. I don't think that man is good for your friend, either. Way too forward for a first time meet.

ElenaLena · Answer

On day one? Nope
And honestly, if a guy is very clingy at any point.. not even just on day one.. it’s a big no-no for me.. I like being the clingy one and all that 😄

That said, I wouldn’t mind if he wants to act like a cutie patootie after we’ve known each other for a long time…at that point, it’d actually be pretty charming..

Likes2drive · Answer

Seems like he doesn’t have much dating experience and should know women do not like that on the first day of meeting, but he must’ve been really attracted to her to be acting that way, but unfortunately men are not allowed to show those things to women, especially on the first day or ever it seems so he doesn’t know how to hold back how he feels. That’s why I said he probably doesn’t have much experience so no wonder he’s never been married or ever had kids

Anonymous · Answer

No, I take my time getting to know and understand a woman before I try to abuse her body.

Seriously, on a first date, I like holding hands when we are walking somewhere, and a good night kiss at the end of the date is a plus. I am attentive to her but never clingy.

Still-alive · Answer

Not on day one but if im really into a girl it might happen to me faster than usual. I try to keep my emotions in check for at least 90 days though so i can feel a little more confident she's right for me

throwmeaway1111 · Answer

I'm not clingy even when I've known you for awhile. I had a guy that was like that with me too and I hated it. I told him that I didn't like it and he basically said deal with it so I blocked him lol

Nikki1989 · Answer

Nah, I am not the clingy type. I enjoy having space.

WhitneySnow · Answer

No I’m not. And he probably just wanted sex. He wasn’t really being clingy the way a girl can be clingy.

Iron_Man · Answer

where did they meet? that guy was desperate for sex or desperate for her attention way too much either way.

bobalife · Answer

I do consider myself clingy, but I think there’s a differences of being clingy and smothering/no boundaries with someone you just met on the day of😅

sage2021 · Answer

I keep my distance. I sit in another chair or the couch until we know each other better.

exitseven · Answer

If I remember correctly, sometimes I could get a little carried away with my affections

Spencer10 · Answer

Good god no... I believe in allowing a person their freedom. I want them to choose to be with me.

queenofcardio · Answer

No , that's such a turn off..  Being too desperate is so unattractive.

FreyaRed · Answer

Distance. For affection there needs to be time and mutual desire.

AngryCarl3 · Answer

Getting to know someone is having an interest in them. Clingy doesn't start until I have feelings.

browsingthroughthe · Answer

Hell yeah 👍🏻 and i desire the same in a woman lol 😂

Guyneedsfeedback · Answer

Those sound like not the ideal ways to determine if someone is a good fit for another person. If he’s too clingy for her he might be nervous or trying to show enthusiasm or it’s a bad fit

MrChinaski · Answer

When I find something I want I take it. Life is to short for dithering.

astlavista · Answer

I’d keep a little distance at first. Being affectionate is fine, but getting too touchy too quickly can feel overwhelming—comfort and boundaries should come first.

Shiprex · Answer

I am not clingy at all. Move on if you want a leech

gasman70 · Answer

I was when I was inexperienced, but now, absolutely not.

dudeinohio · Answer

I fall hard and i fall fast. But, I'm not at all clingy, ever.

Elizabeth113 · Answer

No one who is clingy on day one is usually easier to walk over.

Anonymous · Answer

He's a red flag, he will get worse along the line

JamesRandiDebates · Answer

For any woman in a similar situation, here's what you do: Give him the customary first date BJ as soon as possible (car, restaurant bathroom, etc), You will both be much more relaxed.

blshbnz · Answer

No because they’re still a stranger to me

rini02 · Answer

Can’t be clingy on day one...

NathanDavis · Answer

I'm not clingy at all... at no time

xawyx-3 · Answer

No, I'm definitely not.

KostasKouvalis · Answer

If we vibe well, YES

Paige2006 · Answer

No I am not

CubaPirate · Answer

The hell nooo

The_Wolf_2002 · Answer

Im a fuckboy so im on my mission from day one lol.

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