Would you spoon with a guy you saw only as a friend?

[Anonymous]

Ok so there is this girl that I really like and we have been close friends for a while. she moved for about 1.5 years and recently came back(like a 5 days ago). The other day she stayed the night at my apt. At first we were going to sleep in separate places but then she said we have slept in same bed before so why is it a problem now(there were other people in the bed those times too so first time it was just us) So we lay day and we are talking for a while then I said I am tired and bout to pass out. This has never happened any of th other times that we have been in the same bed but we kinda just moved into the spooning position. She kinda initiated it because I was going to sleep in a normal position but then she pressed her self on me then I wrapped my self around her(it wasn't cold or anything. In fact I got up to turn on AC then we got back into position). We slept like that all night long. we have never done anything like that since I have known her. And I really like her and all I want to know is does this mean she likes me as more than a friend or do girls spoon with guys that are close friends. I don't want to try to make a move and make things weird between us. And I also feel like I am just over thinking this

[rudy37lee]

She may or may not like you as more than a friend, and spooning isn't going to give you a concrete answer to that question. I have spooned with some guy friends that I am really comfortable with. Sometimes it's just nice to hold someone/be held. Since she is your friend and I can tell you value your friendship I'd find a way to talk to her about this. It maybe easiest to bring it up in a joking manner so it isn't awkward. Like you could say, "soo, I think we should go on a date Friday" She'll either say OK, or she will laugh and say yea yea we definitely should cause we could totally date" in a sarcastic joking manner. You know what I mean? Bring it up light hearted and if you know her well enough you should be able to pick up on what she actually feels on the topic even if it's said in a joking manner. If it isn't clear, then follow up with, "but seriously, I think we should go on a date". If you don't get the answer with the first try in a light hearted manner, you will get a real answer the second time, when you put yourself out there and ask sincerely. You have to be prepared for rejection, it is how YOU respond to her answer that will determine the amount of awkwardness that will follow. Hope that made sense, lol. Good luck spooning pal :-D

[Asker]

Wow a lot of different answers. I like yours the best though. its was long and thorough. How should I react to avoid awkwardness? and what if she reacts weird or something. rejection isn't a concern really I just don't want thing to change between us.

[rudy37lee]

Stay positive. If she seems bothered by your question, I'd just tell her something like, "It's totally cool if you don't want to, I just think we click so well it couldn't hurt. If you're down I am, but its totally cool if you don't want to." Let her respond and if no further discussion on the topic arises, change the topic to something lighthearted and don't bring it up again :-)

[CatholicVirginia]

I HAVE, but it was always with friends who were clearly just friends. There's no chance in heck that either of us would EVER make a move on the other.

I guess think it through and really figure out whether there's a possibility that she likes you, or if you just WANT her to.

[kitty007]

i did once, just to see what it's like. although it wasn't really spooning, it was just him putting his arm around me after I told him he could...

every girl's different. I probably wouldn't have made a move like she did unless I liked someone but that's just me.

[This_is_a_complement]

I don't spoon with any of my guy friends. In fact, they're not even allowed on my bed because they always put their dirty ass shoes on it and it pisses me off. If they do sleep over they sleep on the couch in the living room.

It'd be safe to assume she likes you, I think.

[wrenlgr]

yes, I have. Be careful about assuming, she could really care about you as a friend or even have a slight crush but doesn't want anything beyond friendship, for multiple reasons. You never know till you ask

[sweetlilgal]

If I liked him MORE than a friend, yes.

[SilentForce]

Sure...why not...