If girls say that I'm funny, handsome, smart, yet I can't get a girlfriend for the life of me..

[Anonymous]

does that mean that my game sucks? like maybe I'm awkward or something, or don't know how to create attraction even tho I have stuff working for me? I can't explain this phenomenon any other way...is there any hope for me? I'm tired of being single, it's actually getting to be quite depressing along with repeated failures of obtaining the women of my desires :/.

[Jaleel]

well, you have to come off as an attractive person or be confident in yourself. that'll make you happier and make girls want to be around you all the time. now getting a girlfriend is another story. you have to hang out with that person a lot to let them know that you are there for them rather than expecting them to come to you. get her more comfortable around you, flirt a bit while getting her comfortable so that way, she will have a sense of interest from you. Also, if she sees no progress like no touching or feeling (like playing in her hair, tickling her, doesn't have to be super sexual) then she will see the relationship as "not going anywhere" and then they give up trying.

[Asker]

Thank you for your advice. I think you're right about the "touching" part. I didn't get that much of a chance to touch her but you're right, I should have made more effort of even small little things like touching her hands here and there. We also haven't hung out nor even talked for a few days, and almost a week before that. I guess it's not going to go anywhere, which really sucks because I really liked her. :/

[shacodraco]

if a girl tells you that kind of stuff you have to make a move because she's definitely interested. you've already created attraction, you just have to make the first move on her (aka ask her out for dinner or whatever)

[Asker]

i do but it's like I somehow can't seal the deal. I don't know how to keep them interested. I think I might be boring or something lol.

[Anonymous]

At least you have had the guts to ask out someone...I'm still single and hopeless...I haven't even got the guts to tell any guy how I feel. And yes...I am pretty, funny, smart, and etc...I have decided to just be bold...tell guys I like them the minute I like them! I'm bound to get a guy that way...hopefully..lol. Join the club. When you get a girl...tell me your secret...so I can use that secret to get a guy. : / I've been depressed too...it takes all I have to try my best to keep the depression at bay or distract myself from it. But sometimes...it gets reallllllly bad. :( Good luck. =)...I'm not giving up...so you shouldn't either.

[Asker]

thank you for this answer. it is strangely comforting to know that it depresses you too...so in that sense I'm normal lol. I'm taking it much harder recently because I went on a "date" (according to me) and I was pretty sure there was something there and then POOF, gone, and I don't even know why? was it something I did or didn't do? it has to be me, because it's a pattern of failure and I have to start being accountable but that doesn't help if I don't know how to change :(

[Opinion Owner]

Well at least you have been on dates or some type of date...way further than me. lol. Hmmm...well changing yourself completely would be stupid and not helpful because acting like someone else would be exhausting and like I said dumb and fake and not helpful. Maybe you are asking the wrong girls or you both have not communicated (you and her) about what you want. Hmm..well could you elaborate more and tell me what happened on this date and why you think you are failing?...I mean...

[Opinion Owner]

...even though I do not have any real relationship experience...I am pretty good at giving relationship advice ironically enough..haha...I guess it is because I observe relationships a lot and read a lot about them...and maybe I just have wicked common sense? heh heh..anyway...shoot...tell me what happened and I"ll try my best to help. =)

[Asker]

Yeah, you're right! I should look at the bright side and see at least I've been on some dates :P And you're also right about not changing myself because being someone other than myself would be rather tiring. If you'd like to know more about why I feel this way, here's the back stories lol. Hope you have time to read them. Thanks for being so helpful! link

[Opinion Owner]

Hmm..well it sounds like this girl is interested in you but maybe not in the way you think she is. Like she enjoys your company but does not want to go further...or she may just be busy...do you want her to drop everything every time you want to hang out? Her doing that for you would probs get a little annoying I'd think...because you don't want some one clingy or always rearranging their lives for you. heh heh. Hmm..I'd say the best thing to do is be honest and upfront because that is the...

[Opinion Owner]

...only way you will know for sure. Just ask her..gently..if she is interested in going out with you or if she wants to be more than friends. I mean even if she isn't interested like that..if she isn't a total jerk..lol..then she will appreciate your honesty and confidence in asking. So when you get a chance ask her what she is feeling..be casual but serious about it so she know you are not just being cocky or whatever. Or do the opposite..tell her how you feel about her and see how she reacts.

[Opinion Owner]

..hope this helps. You already hang out with her a lot and have been on some innocent dates...I haven't even gotten that far with my crush..blehh (haha)...so don't worry about it. And also listen: If she is not interested in you in that romantic way...the world will not end..there are always other fish in the sea. And if you look long enough you'll find a fish that is the best choice. Good luck! :) Let me now how it all plays out. Like they say "Honesty is the best policy." ;)

[Opinion Owner]

..And also..don't be so hard on yourself and have so many doubts about yourself. You are probably awesome and great...don't let your lack of girlfriends bring you down. Just flaunt your awesomeness and greatness (by being yourself...not by being conceited..haha) and sooner or later..someone will notice...and actually girls have noticed..right? So obviously there is nothing wrong with you...it's just the girls that notice are not the right ones for you...so be confident and don't worry.You'll

[Opinion Owner]

..You'll be fine. :)

[Opinion Owner]

..Oh and also..one more thing..it takes two to tango...it can't be all your fault..it has to be some of your fault and some of hers...and if you end up not clicking...that fault lies on both parties...now that is not necessarily a bad thing..it's just not everyone meshes...so like I said...there are many girls to mesh with...you just have to find and wait for the right one to come along. Okay longgg ass comments are done now..lol. :P Hope I helped. :)

[Asker]

Well no I don't want her to drop everything for me but a little text her and there would be nice, if she's interested you know?! Well anyway, I don't know what to think anymore. In fact, I don't even want to think about it anymore. I didn't hear from her at all this spring break so I guess that says enough itself, maybe I'll hear from her again once school starts maybe I won't? Who knows? If I do get the chance tho, I will take your advice and find the perfect opportunity to tell her how I feel

[Asker]

And try to not make it as awkward as possible lol. And okay thanks I wil try to not be hard on myself it's just hard to not think there must be something I'm not doing wrong you know? I just need to have one success story here! hahahah! Anyway, thanks for your "long ass comment" hahah :) It definitely helped :)

[Opinion Owner]

LMAO! XD Yes...I do have tendency to give long-ass comments..but if it helps someone then why not? ;P And I am an English Major...that could be a reason too..heh heh. You seem to be getting where I am coming from so that's good. Yeah..just be yourself, don't be too hard on yourself, and see what happens when you see her again...you need to know where your relationship is going to know what it is..right? So good luck! And thanks for giving me "Best Answer"...

[Opinion Owner]

...I always get warm and fuzzy inside when someone gives me that...it feels good to really reach out and help people...makes me happy. :) Well anywho...your mission...if you choose to accept it (haha)_is to ask her how she feels about you OR tell her how you feel. That's your first task...just when you have some alone time with her and she is not busy with anything...now when you do this or if you do this...let me know what happens!...

[Opinion Owner]

...my lovelife, sadly, is nonexistent..so I love hearing about other people's..and being involved somehow...since it is all I can do to not tear my hair out because I am perpetually single it seems...blehh...but enough about me...just let me know how it all plays out with this girl. Good luck Romeo! ;D

[Opinion Owner]

Hey dude! I got a boyfriend! Finally! So don't worry! That special girl will come around to you! Stay strong! I did and now I am taken! ^.^ Good luck! =)

[Asker]

hahaha well thanks for coming back to tell me! today...i got described as too nice. fml.

[Opinion Owner]

My boyfriend complained that he was too nice as well and that was why girls "friend-zoned" him...little did he know when he told me that (before I told him how I felt about him) that there was a girl that loves that about him...a.k.a ME. He is too nice..it's true..but I love it! It makes my heart jump and smile and flutter. He's a sweetheart in every sense of the word. So don't worry..a girl will want you like I want him one day. Be strong! Don't change! Be yourself and rock on romeo! ^.^

[Asker]

thanks, for giving me hope anonymous...every time I read your answers I want to give you best answer, then I realize I already have.

[Opinion Owner]

Haha. well thanks. :) who told you that you were too nice?

[Asker]

eh, some broad. lol

[Opinion Owner]

Well that "some broad" is obviously not for you since judging by the way you typed it...she said it with a negative undertone...her opinion shouldn't mean anything to you if she's going to be a negative nancy..just saying. Like my jerk of a crush I used to have...who said I talked way too much and laughed about it...there is a difference between teasing and being rude...and I don't think he was just teasing...I'm so happy I'm over him. I mean sure I talk alot...but...it is just the way..

[Opinion Owner]

...he said it. And besides..my current boyfriend doesn't seem to mind my chatty cathy moments..haha! And that is all that matters in the end right? :)

[Asker]

Definitely. I don't mind girls that talk, it's far better than the contrary. Girls that don't talk at all just make you feel really awkward. What's worse is they think in their minds it's awkward because of you! Hahahaha well anyway, glad you found someone. And yeah, whatever with that girl. She just doesn't know the extent of my awesomeness.

[Opinion Owner]

Lol..."She just doesn't know the extent of my awesomeness." There you go!...hopefully that is just you being honest and confident...not arrogant..lol. So any other girls you want to talk about? Anyone else on your radar? :)

[GiggleGypsy]

Aw! Don't worry, dude. I'm sure there are girls that like you, especially if they call you funny, handsome, and smart! Maybe they're just scared or shy. And if you think it's a problem of keeping them interested, maybe try different things. People seem to like spontaneity. At the same time, though, don't lose yourself in the pursuit of a girlfriend! With the things you don't like about your life, you should either change them or accept them. You'll find your match eventually :) don't lose hope and good luck!

[Asker]

Thanks for your kind words, but I think what's bringing me down is that initially, it does seem like some women would be interested. But it's almost like the second they get to know me, they're no longer interested? In reality, I am quite nerdy and like studying and getting good grades so maybe that's too nerdy for some girls or even possibly, intimidating?

[GiggleGypsy]

Hm, so if the issue is them losing interest after getting to know you, or so you say, I'd recommend looking at what you've been doing and saying in the past to get those results. Maybe you've been talking about your own interests without asking them about theirs, maybe your body language is giving off the wrong vibe; it could be a variety of factors. I don't think studying or being nerdy is necessarily a turn off or intimidating. If I were you, I'd take a look at past experiences and examine

[GiggleGypsy]

them to see any patterns. Maybe it's the type of girls you pursue, your actions or words. I guess just try to be more aware and notice when girls seem to become uninterested and it'll be easier for you to figure out a solution to your problem :)

[This_is_a_complement]

You have to be doing something wrong. How do you normally approach/ talk to a girl you're interested?

[Asker]

Well normally I guess I tend to be silly/playful, and I usually get them to laugh. I prefer to get to know girls a little before asking them for their number, from there I usually text (I've read around here a lot of girls hate texting and prefer calling). This most recent girl I texted her a bit, then called her one day to ask her to hang out. I don't normally call girls and get to know them that way, 1) because I really wouldn't know what to talk about and 2) because I feel that for most girls

[Asker]

that's a complete give-away that I LIKE YOU. I also don't really know what kind of dates to go on. Like the last girl we went to go have lunch and then went to the park and talked for like an hour almost two just getting to know each other and then walked back home. Everything was going great with her, then it all just vanished. We would kind of flirt through text message and we had said we'd hang out again (on date like events like movies or even her making me food) but I really don't know.. :/

[Asker]

Most girls I think are initially attracted to my intelligence, but are turned off by it when they find out just how intelligent later. I don't think I am arrogant, I don't often use big words and I'm most often just silly, but I guess the fact that I actually like learning and get pretty high marks is a turn off, because it's not "normal/typical" of a person. That's my only guess...

[This_is_a_complement]

It sounds sort of like you hold yourself back. You don't want to show too much interest because you don't want to come off desperate. The trick to not coming off desperate is to be confident. What I mean is, don't be afraid to let a girl know you like her with obvious hints (like calling her). Confident people show obvious hints, and aren't clingy. People who lack confidence are just clingy.

Also, intelligence is NEVER a turn-off for most girls. It's a huge plus. Try going after smarter girls.

[LaLa19Inu7]

Woah there buddy...there is nothing abnormal about being intelligent. lol. Maybe the girls you have been going for are too dumb? ha ha. Find more intelligent ones that accept your intelligence and are not intimidated by it. Yeah...what "Thisisacomplement" said. ;) wish we could meet guy..haha..I love learning too! And I love guys who say witty things and are getting good grades...and love to read. It's a big turn on for me! =]

[q2s4shah]

Very good question dude. Sounds similar. Actually what I figured out is that you and I don't have a problem with us its actually our fate that sucks & may be we are not allowed to get some yet in our lives. Really, I ve given up almost and this life,this world is a gamble & this world isn't for the straight forward people like us. Well, we can only hope lol

[ihatetakingcharge]

i hate how girls can be socially-awkward and get a guy, but guys can't

[moviedude714]

yeah unfortuneately guys have to have game but girls do not

[zoe1986]

Dude...welcome to my world...except I'm a girl

[Asker]

:( at least I know I'm not alone lol.

[pawan_jasoria]

why don't you both date each other :D