Just got rejected by a female friend. now what?

[Houstonrocket123]

Shes one of my cousins friends from college and I really got to know her better this semester.She talks with other guys like its nothing but when she's around me or when were alone, she's quiet. I'm kinda a shy person but I wasn't when I was around her sometimes.We would text each other a lot and at time times, I thought she sent me mixed messages. She would stare at me when I wasn't looking and when I looked at her she would smile,the body language was there, every time I seen her I gave her a hug,our knees would touch and she wouldn't move it..i was pretty sure she liked me but I could never get her alone to tell her how I felt. So yesterday I helped her with a school project and after that I was prepared to tell her how I felt but she was busy so I went home. I couldn't take it anymore so I sent her a text saying "you know I sometimes feel nervous around you right lol" and she said "lol umm do you like me or something" and I said "yeah but id rather tell you in person but I felt like I never had the chance" because friends were around all the time, and she didn't respond. So I hit her up a couple hours ago saying I'm sorry if I scared her off and I don't want things to be awkward but then she says she fell asleep and only looks at me a sweet guy, but a friend. She never called me that ever until then. Then I said thanks for being honest with me and she said "youre my friend. I, wouldnt lie to you" , so now I feel like sh*t because I thought we were close on having something and now its gone. I feel horrible.

[Anonymous]

im sorry you feel that way :( rejection is never a good feeling

but to be honest...it doesn't sound all that bad, I feel like you both handled it very well, and were both honest and communicated, and you got your answer...and basically, it is what it is right?

its way better then her playing games or leading you on or being vague, she was honest and revealed that she cares about u, especially when she said 'youre my friend I wouldn't lie to you' that is amazing!

i was rejected too by a guy and he was like a pimp/jerk and played games...and I hate him to this day because I wish he couldve just been more respectful and more honest and just be my friend...like friendship is so much more respectful then games and lies and sugar coating things ya know?

so you should be happy and be appreciative. sometimes things are for the best! may be she is into another guy and its nothing personal, so don't take it too personally, and may be your meant to be with another girl...things always happen for a reason! just be positive!

[Houstonrocket123]

Thanks...i have really no one to talk to so I really appreciate what you said..i felt like I just got taken advantage of.

[Opinion Owner]

your welcome :) and no way! don't overthink it...its no ones fault here...its just part of life...we all can't have who we like...true love is mutual

[Houstonrocket123]

Thanks..you just made feel a lot better, why can't there be more nice girls like you?lol

[Opinion Owner]

awww thank you for BA! <3 wish you all the best

[blhig1]

I don't think you should tell her that. Yes you went out on a limb and told her how you felt; it was 50/50 if she felt the same. I think you should just take some time to let the situation cool down by taking some space. There is no need to tell her you don't want to be around her at the moment. If she asks, you've just been really busy. In my opinion if you play it like she's really hurt you, it makes it more awkward.

[Houstonrocket123]

It hurts so much,i really liked this girl

[JPrez]

Dude, I know this is a late response but don’t feel bad. In this life you’re gonna win some and lose some. Sometimes a girl says yes and sometimes they say no but don’t have any regrets. It would be worse if you were an old dude wondering “if only”. That a is a far worse feeling than the temporary feeling of rejection. Better to have struck out than never swung. Keep trying! Good luck!

[MortalShowdown]

That is awful, rejections suck. In my experience, and since this was a pretty 'good' rejection it would be best to just keep talking and stuff but to keep your distance a little bit more until the feelings fade away, otherwise it's just painful.

[FaceInTheCrowd]

You're wasting your time... despite all the pleasantries she's not into you =(

[marpinco]

You should not tell her, or things will be more awkward then they are now, Fake smile... move on :)

[Houstonrocket123]

I'm sorry but I'm so heartbroken right now. I can't sleep or eat...really thought we had something

[marpinco]

Well, you have to see the bright side of this... she was not your true love and stop looking,they say when you stop looking you will find it :)