My boss and I kissed? What do I do?

[Anonymous]

Ok, so I feel really horrible right now. I work at a place where my boss works in a similar role, I didn't know him then, but he offered me a job at another place where he's a manager. I said yes at the the time because I was after more work.

When I started at this new place, we started to get along really well. I found myself attracted to him. The other night he drove me home from work and he kissed me. I kissed him back, and it got pretty heated. We didn't have sex, however.

The thing is, I'm 20, he's 34. He's not married and doesn't have kids, but he does have a girlfriend. he told me he wasn't happy with her.

Since then, I've heard from him, but I'm just worried about what's going on. I'm scared people at work will find out and I'll lose my job, or if things go bad between us, he'll fire me. I feel so stupid, and guilty that I was the 'other woman' when I swore I'd never do that to another woman.

I'm starting to over think it, and wonder if he's done this with other girls. I know I'm nothing special, and he's very good looking so he must have plenty of girls hit on him.

I really don't know what to do. I'm really attracted to him, and we get along so well, but I feel horrible knowing he's my boss and isn't single..any advice?

Updates

+1 y

To the people who are being smart asses and talking about promotions, why even bother answering? I'm not after a promotion, the job I work doesn't offer promotions.

[calialltheway1993]

Eh don't sweat it. Act normal, and don't play awkward when he's around. Don't act flirty and try to not wear revealing outfits. If you're uncomfortable, tell him to start acting professionally and that you don't accept his behavior. Think about it. He is a manager, he's your boss, probably successful, good looking, offers rides... this just screams player on the loose. I might be judging him, though. He might turn out to be the most sweet and gentle 34 year old guy. Who knows. All I know is you should be careful. At the end, you might be jobless. He won't. You won't have a boyfriend. He will have a girlfriend(s). You won't be making money. He will definitely be making money. It's the risk you might end up taking. So be catious.

[kellylynn]

He is 20 years old. I do notice he comes to my help when I don't need it. I do have respect for my boss. I will.

[Anonymous]

Don't make a big deal about it. Be nice to him while you work, but don't make any more moves on him. If he breaks up with his girlfriend, then consider giving him a chance, but not before then. Even still, he's already shown he'll kiss another girl while he has a girlfriend, so that doesn't bode well. The most attractive men are usually the least happy with monogamy. What you did lacked judgement, but if you can learn from your mistake, you can recover. Try to avoid putting yourself in isolated environments with him and see if other co-workers can drive you home instead.

[Asker]

Thank you for the serious answer.

[Opinion Owner]

You're welcome. Take these lessons to heart and you'll be smarter in the future. We all make mistakes, but if you're smart, you'll learn from them. Re-read the answer to make sure you follow the advice and take care in the future. Good luck!

[Bleep]

Never get involved with co workers, it always ends in disaster one way or another.

Just act like nothing happened, never again follow any of his advances and for the love of god... Start looking for another job just in case.

Take it from a guy who had office romances 3 times now. Worst times of my life...

[Asker]

Thanks for the advice.

[beastman88]

so was the 3rd time a charm?

[Bleep]

charm? more like a curse, to remind me of how much of an idiot I can be.

[JohnScofield]

I htink you need to stop this. I think you need to talk to him and tell him 1) he has a girlfriend and 2) he is your boss. Tell him if the circumstances were different, then perhaps you would move forward, but they are not.

If it gets difficult you either have to quit or go to HR. Hopefully he will be cool about it and it won't go that far.

[posted]

24.. dating you. Red flag #1.

He also is cheating on his girlfriend, which shows he will have no reservations about cheating on you as well.

Business and pleasure don't go well together honestly, they are two very different enviroments and can be very hard to keep seperate, without causing some kind of damage.

[artfullyliving]

Start looking for a new job. You messed up.