My new boss blew me a kiss after work?

[SwoleCook]

She was clocking me out while she was on the phone and she blew me a kiss and said thank you. Also she recently got her hair done. Somewhere in between me getting my interview and me starting. What does this all mean?

disclaimer: I am not creeping on her. I find her attractive. But she is way out of my league. She makes more money plus she’s hot af. And I find my job to be very important. I want to be there for a very long time, to rack up experience for my culinary career. My dream is to be a chef.

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Lmao I didn’t even notice her hair change. One of the servers was talking about how good it looked on her.

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Yeah. It definitely means nothing.

[Anonymous]

It's just a flirtatious gesture. She probably has a fun-loving personality. Plus, some women take on a motherly role with guys. I know I tend to be more nurturing and I don't consider it sexual to blow kisses or say how someone looks handsome, cute, or attractive. Everyone needs to feel good about themselves and men are oftentimes excluded from compliments, or attention in your case. However, she might be aware of how "hot" you think she is and her blowing a kiss is just simple teasing. She might even think you're attractive, but it would be extremely unwise of you to pursue your boss despite her advances.

[SwoleCook]

Yeah no shit today she gave me the cold shoulder.

[Opinion Owner]

It seems like you're just over-complicating everything. Let's face it, you're the new guy. She finds you attractive, but she's also obligated to act professionally. Yesterday was lapse in her judgement.. and maybe she realized that today. So, rather than to lead you on, or have you make an advance, she's choosing to remain distant. That may come across as cold, but ultimately, you're just a stranger to her and I'm pretty sure she wouldn't want to get you into any trouble.

[Opinion Owner]

... or she's playing hard to get. It's hard to tell, as I have no idea what her deal is.

Are you friendly with her? Do you make it a priority to establish a boss-employee relationship? Has she ever.. caught you checking her out, perhaps?

[SwoleCook]

No I catch her all the time tho.

[Opinion Owner]

It's highly likely, as with most attractive females, that she thinks she's the cream of the crop..

If it was in fact just "playful teasing," she's probably just vain.. I mean, what reason does she have to think that you're even remotely interested? Why would she make a gesture like that, as your boss, unless she's just into herself and projects that onto guys like you?

[Opinion Owner]

Your best bet is to stay the fuck away if that's the case. You're just asking for trouble if you don't.

[SwoleCook]

Guys like me?

[Opinion Owner]

Well, guys who work for her.

[SwoleCook]

They all ignore her. And I think she’s banging the chef.

[Opinion Owner]

The bottom line is that she's abusing her authoritative power.. don't you feel objectified?

[SwoleCook]

Yes :(

[Opinion Owner]

If you truly desire to do well and succeed at your job, I have no doubt in my mind that you'll avoid her, like your co-workers.

[Opinion Owner]

(They might be ignoring her for a number of reasons)
a. They've "been there and done that"
b. She isn't making the same advances on them.. or
c. They're gay.. in a "committed" relationship.. or like you, desire to succeed.

[avalonbob]

It's not appropriate for bosses to flirt with employees. I had four professional offices at one time, and hired only attractive young women, because they were all secretaries or receptionists, and never even tapped one on the shoulder in 39 years, and never allowed myself to be alone in the office with one, or gave one a ride home if she needed it. I'd call a taxi.

[SwoleCook]

Smart

[truthbeknown]

Might as well quit right now. No matter what happens, she'll end up getting pissed at you and she'll try to destroy your life by METOOing you.

[SwoleCook]

I’m 2 steps ahead of the curb lmao. I avoid her as much as I can.

[truthbeknown]

Dangerous times for guys any age! Stay safe out there!!!

[howlyz]

maybe she is considering you as her toy boy so if you're up for a ride you flirt with her as well, just don't do it bluntly and in front of colleagues

[Anonymous]

At this point, I wouldn't read anything into it. It might just be part of her personality. If something more profound than THAT happens then maybe it is reason for raised eyebrows.

[andreasderjuengere]

You overthink, I believe. Chefs are mostly gay anyway - so: just focus on the job.

[John_Bouff]

Women don't have power man learn how to code in the evening and you'll be some fat cat in no time

[blubblubblub]

maybe she knows you like her

[outside_Toronto]

Go to HR and get her ass fired

[Skali9119Liska]

Apparently I copy you

[Skali9119Liska]

Pitzi said you’re hot by the way ☺️

[SwoleCook]

Lol what? She’s like 16

[Skali9119Liska]

Daddy issues

[SwoleCook]

Lmao. Where did she say this?

[Skali9119Liska]

I don’t know she blocked me 🤷‍♂️

[Skali9119Liska]

Like 4 days ago

[SwoleCook]

Smh. How do you know

[Skali9119Liska]

She said I copy you when I “troll” people on gag, I said I wouldn’t copy you because you look like a chimpanzee and she replied “swolecook is actually hot not like you” or something like that, I don’t remember exactly

[SwoleCook]

Lmao she actually stuck up for me?

@pitzi

[Skali9119Liska]

I don't know, she wants the D I think

[pitzi]

I didn't say "hot".

I said you try to troll like SwoleCook but at least he actually looks good lmao.

[SwoleCook]

@pitzi you might as well say I’m hot

[pitzi]

@SwoleCook
Okay. You're hot.

[Danielleo]

you are creeping on her lo

[InvestigatorDarkFox]

I've seen you everywhere

[ninjafemme]

Like what

[SwoleCook]

She kissed two of her fingers and blew a kiss at me. She’s so hot but hell would freeze over before I ask her out. And also she’d never say yes. The timing is way off for me to even considered her as anything more than my boss.

[ninjafemme]

You always want the boss...

[SwoleCook]

Imagine kissing two of your fingers and putting them out towards someone. That’s what she did.

[SwoleCook]

Maybe I have an attraction towards power?

[ninjafemme]

I believe so

[BronzedAdonis]

dunno

[Tohhhru]

She's flirty