I started talking to this girl, she seemed interested and now ignores me, what's the deal?

[djns10]

I tried to make subtle advances, ask her out to do normal things, also told her to let me know if I'm bothering her..and nothing. Shouldn't she at least tell me to stop if I ask?

[thirtysumthin]

what do you mean by "subtle advances". Subtle usually means imperceptible. So probably "subtle" doesn't work on this girl. Why don't you just tell the girl you really like her and want to date her. A good, nice, girl isn't going to tell you to stop if you are not being offensive. She's going to be polite, and just ignore it. Is she busy with school and work and family or volunteering? Why don't you invite her and a friend of hers to a group activity where you can try to get some one on one time to talk while in a group environment? An outdoor concert? Did you cross the line when teasing her? Did you offend a friend of hers? Is she a quiet type? She might simply not be into you...who knows why. If you really want her to like you, you need to do something to disarm her. Try befriending her girlfriends and guy friends to see what they can tell you about her and her family. Sometimes family dynamics affect whether or not a girl will go for a certain type of guy. Also if you have a totally different faith than she does, she might ignore you as a poor match for her values.

[pinky1010]

you have asked her out, so she knows that you are interested in her. But she ignores you now, I guess she doesn't return your interest, either she doesn't like you romantically or she may have someone else in her mind.

She didn't let you know, because she doesn't want to upset you or it is awkward to tell you directly.

I think you should move on. Don't waste your time on her

[gymgirl7]

Well if she is ignoring you she probably feels like you're coming on too strong or is just not interested and doesn't want to lead you on any further. If she went out with you when you asked and now is ignoring you then maybe she is just shy and actually does like you. But if she didn't go out with you and is ignoring you now, I'd say just find someone actually worth your time.

[Gorce]

Ever watched and waited for a pot of water to boil? seems to take forever but if you walk away and do something else it seems to boil real fast? Even though we know the pot of water has no feelings towards you and could not possibly boil quicker whe you leave it alone.

Same thing is happening here. Now that she has your attention and you like her alot, any moment of time she doesn't talk to you seems like she is ignoring you. Your watching her like a pot of boiling water and it seems to take forever before she gets back to you.

Its just a matter of perception and I am starting to believe that this is the reason most people complain that they are getting ignored by the person they like the most.

The person who feels the most attraction and desires attention, quite often gets that feeling they may be getting ignored when in reality the oher person feels they are getting back to you pretty fast.

Hope that makes sense.

[Adidas12]

I like your comment; it makes a lot of sense.

[Chunk-Stonechest]

Asking a woman out is a fairly obvious advance. No response on her part is all the response you need. You haven't invested enough time nor effort in this woman to fret about her behavior. It's time to slap on your he-man persona, leap tall buildings, and ply your magnetic charms on the next fair maiden. This is a numbers game, brother, you don't have time for tiny regrets. Now get out there and direct your subtle magic toward a comely lass who is immediately drawn to your mantastic qualities.

[cjwright79]

I hesitate to recommend this 'throw enough sh*t at the wall and some of it will stick' approach.

She's ambivalent towards you. She isn't going to reject you outright because she kind of likes you, but isn't falling madly in love with you either. So... a little soul-searching may improve your prospects, or you can let it go for now.

[Knopfler]

DON'T CHASE HER.

Be the confident, well adjusted man you know you can be and lay off for a bit. In fact, MAKE HER COME TO YOU. She will miss the attention and most likely initiate the next round of light flirting. Don't fall into it, it's a game. Rise above it, and play it cool. Almost (but not quite) disinterested would be ideal.

Don't get too attached to the outcome either. Just enjoy her company and let things flow. Show her that you're happy without her, and this will ATTRACT her.

In theory.. :D

[Dollface-86]

Yeah I agree with the best answer. If you wants to ask weird then she can screw off. Move on to the next hot chica. But one tip...dont ask us if you bother us repeadedly. that in itself bothers us. It sends us a singnal that YOU think you're annoying and are a bother.

[Littletad]

Rarely do girls bluntly tell a guy they want to stop talking to you. Ignoring someone is usually the decision every girl, including some guys make. Why? Girls don't like getting into the confrontation. They don't know how the guy will react and it's also awkward for anyone. If she continues to ignore you with only saying "hi" here and there, then it's time to admit that she isn't interested anymore. If that's the case, just move on. Don't sulk.

[Adidas12]

I don't know, I've had a girl ask me out after her not liking me for almost a whole year. The thing is I said yes to her, but after that one occasion, she was interested for a little bit, but I asked her out again and she said no

[Chipper]

Well you're right. But women don't play fair. So don't expect it. I'd say don't do anymore. Not even try to talk. Find some others of interest and enjoy yourself. If she is really interested she'll come along, but who knows you may not even be interested by then

[vanz6483]

naw ... maybe she's ... spacey =] hasn't realized your feelings or maybe she has but is waiting for a solid O.k to move onwards... or waiting for you to ask her out as in DATE...

is possible, is just how I feel :/ don't know if it's correct to move forward because he might not like me that way =[

[jen-82]

A lot of girls don't want to hurt you. I know that even if a guy told me that I could tell him if he was bothering me I wouldn't tell him. I would feel horrible, because I know that if somebody said that to me it would hurt me.

[Anonymous]

be thankful she didn't accept your advances to go out on a date and THEN do this to you..ive been in her situation before, if she isn't accepting any of your advances than she may not be interested or maybe seeing someone else...i always feel weird telling the guy to leave me alone and stop, so I figure me just not entertaing advances would eventually give him the sign that I'm not interested..move on, and don't contact her anymore, girl will not ignore guys they have an interest in

[faberfan]

You don't see that as leading him on?

[Opinion Owner]

Not at all, especially if they've never gone out, if she went out with him and accepted his advances and suddenly ignored him then yes that's def leading him on, but by ignoring him and never entertaining the idea to begin with I don't see how it is..if that be the case then I lead every single guy on that I had no interest in that pursued me lol

[PrickeyPear]

Mmm yeah. similarly, this is the whole 'damn he's interested in me. I just want to be friendly dilemma. -- - how do you get a guy to realize you just want to be his friend and nothing more without making it uncomfortable by saying you're not interested out loud?' you try to act as just a friend and he keeps taking it as hope there may be more? it's tough

[Anonymous]

maybe she doesn't know you like her. I met a guy at school who asks me out to do normal things (museum, studying,ice cream,eating, etc.), but when I asked about that in these normal posts, people told me that he might just like that particular activity and wants to be friends. I am still confused even until today. I will doubt myself until he gives me a clear sign. Maybe giving more hints will help? Hints will be like a lot of touching, ask her out on a "date" instead of "hanging out",etc

[Reeses-pieces777]

she just wanted attention and after you showed it to her, she didn't appreciate you for who you are.

that's just a lame way of her to add to her self esteem or she's just indecisive.

just like what Stonechest said, move on.

[Adidas12]

Relax, just wait man. You're getting somewhere with her, but she wants you to not be so available to her. She wants you to be hard to get, so she's being that way. If you have any other questions, I'll let you know.

[Mayalucille]

She could be shy or she could think your just playing with her. Show her your intentions are serious and keep persuing her. She may also be trying to play hard to get in order to keep you interested.

If you are bothering her she'll let you know, trust me.

[Anonymous]

She may be not interested but she may be playing hard to get too, either the two.

and it also depends on how you approach her.

subtle advances like what? maybe you creeped her out? make your intentions clear...

[Tridentus]

how did she act interested? like, every single guy out there will be SURE a girl is interested when she isn't at least once in their life.

[mormongirlmichl]

Either playing hard to get...She read too many magazines... LOL

OR...she's letting you down easy.

[Cantinkerous]

When a girl ingnores you, sadly it means she isn't that interested. I'm sorry. And if she ignores you for a few weeks and then tries to be buddy buddy with you, its because she misses the attention you gave her. be careful!

[chelseanne]

she probably doesn't like you.

when girls ignore you, they don't like you. unlike guys.

but if she trys to be friends with you again; she misses you. the attention you gave her.

[GLENNBOB1]

She mite not want to hurt your feelings