Are you no longer physically attracted to your ex?

[Hannah591]

I've noticed that when you have feelings for someone, they become more attractive to you. So when I had moved on from my ex's, I looked back at pictures or even in person and I thought to myself, 'how did I ever find them attractive?'. Even my mum questioned what I ever found attractive in them in the beginning! I guess love is blind, haha!

So do you find your ex unattractive now you've split up?

Yes, I find my ex to be very unattractive.

Yes, but only slightly less attractive.

They're just as attractive to me as when we were together.

No, my ex appears more attractive to me now.

Other. (Answer below)

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+1 y

Thanks for the answers! It's amazing how it varies considerably per person!

[VoiceOfReason]

I think it all depends on several factors. How attracted you were to them initially, the circumstances behind the break up and whether or not they had a drastic change in general appearance. Also, I feel as an individual, sometimes our perception of what we find attractive will also change, which I feel can also influence how we view our ex's.

There are some ex's I find as alluring today as they were when I was with them. There are some ex's who I feel that their overall persona has changed the way I see them and it makes me not see them as attractive. Then there are some who had a dramatic change in their physical appearance that for one reason or another I don't find appealing at all.

[martyfellow]

No, I find them, if anythng, MORE attractive, physically, than when we were together! Strange.

Of course mums and dads ALWAYS wonder what we find attractive in just about any partner!

[RedSmartie]

Depends on the ex. My most recent ex is very good looking and though I'm the one who broke up with him, I still believe so. But I've had some downright ugly boyfriends and I never noticed it until after the relationships ended, no matter how they ended. But studies have shown that the more familiar someone's face is to you, the more likely it is that you will find them attractive.

[cun7n1nja]

Some of them are just as attractive to me, and some are way less attractive. I wonder if it has anything to do with the manner in which we split, or any bitter feelings I may have toward them, haha. None look more attractive, that's for sure.

[ixi10]

I don't think he's unattrative but I'm not attracted to him anymore

[Bandita]

I still find her very pretty but I'm not turned on by her. I'd love to so one day we could be back, maybe, but it doesn't seem likely. She is kind of asexual in the way that she's not to bothered about sex but we enjoyed it when we were together.

[Prof_Don]

I voted C...my exes are still physically attractive to me (and they look the same; no major changes in their style or body composition).

Then again, I haven't had a breakup on completely bad terms, either

[justincider]

My main ex yes is unattractive to me. I have some exes who are still just as hot tho. Depends on how long the relationship lasted and if it was a bad break up...

[why-makoto-kun]

A. After what I've been through with all my exes, there's a snowball's chance in Hell I'll ever be attracted to them again. :D

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

Considering attraction to me is based highly on the trust I have on someone and the type of personality they have? Nope.

[Prettygurl12]

I was never physically attracted to my ex so...he is both the same level of attraction as he was when we dated and less attractive.

[Iamnobody]

I'm still sexually attracted to my ex. Emotionally and mentally is a different story though.

[Anonymous]

I'm still physically attracted to them but I don't plan in acting on it.

[Anonymous]

I find most of them only slightly less attractive. A few, I find INSANELY unattractive now.