Should you tell your partner if you’re not physically attracted to them anymore?

[HawkPerception]

Ex. Your partner has let it go and has put no effort to workout recently. Do you just let them continue their ways and feel unattracted or do you communicate honestly with them?

Yes

No

[_Andromeda_]

If it's a serious long term relationship or headed that way, absolutely. I am a firm believer in this. It's so important to communicate with your partner. In my opinion it's the fair thing to do. Instead of just waiting, hoping, and resenting.

Sometimes people get busy, complacent, lazy, depressed, whatever... they stop paying attention to caring for themselves and they lose focus on the effect that can have on their partner. Sometimes, what they need is that wake up call.
I think that if you truly want to make it work, they deserve an opportunity to try to 'fix' these types of problems in their relationship.

Now, I understand that some people will just get defensive, and you should prepare for that, but if this is something that is going to be a deal breaker for you, what do you have to lose?

I love my partner, and if he told me such a thing, sure, it wouldn't feel good at first, but I want to maintain a healthy relationship, and attraction is an important part of a relationship. I would prefer the honesty over potential years of feeling that something was 'off' or wondering why he never wants to touch me, or be intimate with me or whatever.

[HawkPerception]

Great answer. Ya missed the mho train. I would've given it to ya

[_Andromeda_]

😆 no problem. It is more important to me to provide thoughtful feedback than to get any kind of gag credit.

I've noticed you posting a lot about some serious relationship issues. I do wish you the best with whatever you are going through.
It's not easy navigating a relationship, but I am always happy to chime in as someone who has been through a lot, but has still managed to somehow make it through to the other side. 😊✌️

[thegreenyogi]

Yes most definitely.

[thegreenyogi]

Thank you!

[Finchie40]

Yes just be honest with them that you are no longer attracted to them and that you no longer want to be with them and break up and move on , . Don’t string them along expecting them to change to appease you , if they like the way they are than so be it , that’s their choice and their decision, just likes yit’s your choice and decision to walk away

[lorenzomichael]

Yeah, I feel honesty and trustworthiness are two of the most important things in a relationship. so therefore you need to be honest with them tell them how you feel tell the truth.,

[ClaircognizantEmpath]

hey, here goes, in my most recent ltr i swear down upon walking around the end of my bed and looking at a vision of an old man, looking old, snoring, in real time life, worked a job but within minutes of home time, had an addiction to needed a realm of sedation, so weed and or nerve surpressants and or codeine, opioids, this guy was an ex heroin addict, like over ten years ago... when we first together the buzz he got out of us, literally transformed him, he physically glowed, to five years later in bed, looking like my grandad and me physically repelled by him... the day i nuzzled up to his cheek and smelled my dad it was over... in our time i had struggled with my weight and mental health, from ice baths ie converting a small freezer because im a creator to exercise and asking, actually how long should one try for by the way? to act healthiliy together, do yoga, ice baths, gym up the summerhouse.. and despite taking real life action oneself, getting no response, or commitment or joining from the other... begging him almost to please buy me a voucher from the skin clinic nurse in our small town instead of giving me cash on Christmas day, because, you know as well as i, more so, hence why im asking this, if you give me cash, it will have to spent over the holiday period on groceries for the house and never be replaced... so at least a months notice to visit a place that is no more than 1000ft from his daily work, to him getting fifty quid out of tyhe cash machine on ch4stmqs eve and putting it in a card and YES that cash got spent... these kind of actions have fundamental influences to what we perceive as visual physical attraction but my advice is, think about my words because there is truth in them souls out there... xx

[es20490446e]

This person, even if they are your partner, has their area of responsibility, choice and freedom. For good or bad, they aren't there to meet your desires.

If the comment is a judgement about their choices, it will rarely result in a better income.

[michalpl00]

If you tell your partner you feel they are fat and unattractive. They will leave you. So just leave them and don’t hurt them even more. Or you can try to because obsessed with diet and workouts yourself and suggested working out together. If they say no. Just leave. If you can’t be physically attracted and their personality is meh. Why stay.

[CarolinaGirl5]

No, just end the relationship. There's no coming back from that I can't imagine them forgiving you after youve said it and changed your mind. Yet there are plenty of insecure/mentally challenged chicks on gag who will say " okay I forgive you".

[HawkPerception]

I'd argue it's the opposite. The mentally challenged ones are the ones that can't take the honesty and choose to do nothing about it (not workout and try to lose weight/put more effort into their appearance, etc.)

[CarolinaGirl5]

That too.

[HighValue]

Yes, more men need to be honest and tell their partner that she is fat, and that her new tattoos make her look like a used up old prostitute. Be honest. More women need to be told the truth.

[Dongie]

Sorry! Damnit, I did it again!! Yes is right but I pushed no.

[madgoat]

I would hope you are acting in their best interests and can successfully communicate that to them if you broached such a subject which is frought with perils.

[KittygosMeoWW]

Of course and break up