Would you approach a girl who sits alone at lunch?

Question

Are female loners too hard to approach? Would you approach a social outcast?

Abhijit3101 · Accepted Answer

It is very important to know why she is lonely? Is there some emotional shock or disturbance in her recent life or something wrong in her family - leading her to depression? A word of comfort may open up her and help her becoming normal. There should be no intention of getting any advantage of her loneliness - particularly anything about sex. I definitely approach her and get her back in normal social life. Depression is most common and most serious thing in youngsters and elderly persons. Talking with them sympathetically is the only way to bring them back in life.

journeyman1126 · Accepted Answer

Don't feel alone (no pun intended) - when I'm sitting alone people rarely approach me.

The only way to entice others to reach out is by being friendly...

Try to smile at others, and if you are in the same (insert group here - class, club, fight club...) then say "hey, saw you get your butt kicked last night under the liquor store - oops, forgot the first rule of fight club!"

You know what I mean...

1diamond · Accepted Answer

If it were a guy and I wanted to then yes I would. I don't care what society thinks. There could be tonnes of reasons why.

jmowen · Answer

Not trying to brag but I was the guy I and high school that would sit with those who sat alone. It sucks sitting alone and I was a 'loner' in elementary and middle school so I knew how it felt. One of them even became a girlfriend of mine at one point. Making friends and making them happy always makes me happy.

anonymust · Answer

Simple... "Do you mind if I sit here // Do you mind if I sit with you"

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And then make small talk like... "What are you having for lunch" "What do you like for lunch" and simple stuff.

If the person doesn't really reply, then just shut up and enjoy your own lunch.

FiveFingerBroFist · Answer

If she didn't give off a doom-and-gloom vibe then yeah I'd approach her. The first question I'd probably ask her is, "Hey, why are you sitting out here by yourself?" And just go from there. I've done it before, so I don't see why I wouldn't do it again.

ImSoSozzled · Answer

Well girls that don't give any signs (like eye contact, smiling, etc) are less likely to have guys approach them, but it's definitely easier to appraoch a girl who is by herself as opposed to with a group of friends. Personally, the fact that she's a loner would encourage me.

Anonymous · Answer

It's very unlikely.

1) Social outcasts tend to be social death within your own social circle. Hanging out with one just damages your rep. It doesn't elevate hers.

2) People who are loners tend to make lousy friends, because they lack social skills or hang on like grim death to anyone who gives them the time of day.

Maybe if she was super hot, that'd make a difference. But I doubt super hot girls are ever on their own. It was the most unbelievable thing about the TV show Veronica Mars,

dublhelix · Answer

"Hey there Lonely Girl"  Eddie Holman Of course a loner is approachable, but she may need to not look disappointed when she is in public.  Think of something that makes you happy and go with it girl.

Anonymous · Answer

I find any girl hard to approach. I can never tell whether a girl is open to being approached. Girls sometimes look at me but their faces are emotionless so you don't even know if they actually want you to approach them. But if the girl looks open and non-threatening then sure, I would approach a loner or social outcast.

loda1994 · Answer

well yeah. she would be easier to talk to than most other girls. but then again looks comes into count if she isn't at least normal looking (not too fat or too ugly ) then definitely yes

Prof_Don · Answer

TOTAL OPPOSITE FOR ME!

The girl that is alone is the easiest to approach imo. They're just sitting or standing there, and I feel that type of girl is more receptive to company than a girl that has a large social circle already around her. :)

shadowscapes · Answer

actually, it's easier to approach a girl who is alone and not busy talking with anyone. i would approach a girl who was a "social outcast" if I liked her.

Malcom_Reynolds · Answer

Being a guy who has major confidence problems, I can say that it'd be hard for me to do so.  But I will add that her sitting alone at lunch or being a social outcast would not discourage me or make me not want to.

beastman88 · Answer

lately I've been fancying myself approaching a woman sitting by herself to just see if I could lighten up her day. also would be nice if a girl did this for me :)

serp777 · Answer

I've tried approaching the  loner type, but they always seem disinterested, or like you're trying to get something out of them.

palek · Answer

People who sit alone do so for a reason. They're most usually subject to gastric proliferation. I say, let em be.

Gawesome · Answer

they're not call loners or outcasts kk? that's high school hierarchy nonsense... More like...social rebels! so yes...I'll talk to you. :)

Jack00700 · Answer

Will be much easier to approach, I have tried to approach with her friends and turned out to be quite embarrassing

MikeGaultier · Answer

Sure, as long as she seems like your everyday normal girl. She would be easier to approach than one who is in a group.

AnomFriend · Answer

Depends if I'm with a good friend I might say to him "let's go meet that girl over there" if I'm with a bunch of people I probably wouldn't because she would also feel very uncomfortable.

stubbsy · Answer

Absolutely, if I was into her, I wouldn't allow anything to ruin a chance, only she could ruin a chance with a girl I was into, out cast or not,x

biggysohail2300 · Answer

I wll definitely give it a go if I am with bunch of my frnds.

Deviouscourage · Answer

Why not? At the very least it would be a friendly deed.

jacquesvol · Answer

I would think she prefers to be alone and respect that.

Anonymous · Answer

Easier to approach than a girl who is with other people.

Bornnardmt · Answer

Women don't want to be approached. I would leave her alone.

dodgypirate · Answer

If she's cute I would ;) ...

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, I would if she's beautiful.

SaltandVinegar · Answer

if she's cute and seems nice enough for sure

TweetiByrd · Answer

Yes No Yes

Anonymous · Answer

yes she my need a friend

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