Should I tell him or ignore him? I've had enough

[Anonymous]

So a guy I dated for 4 years on and off, him and I are great friends and I basically fell inn love with him and never and still I don't know where we stand. ..

He hurt me a lot emotionally and took my love and friendship for granted and basically ignored me and got into a relationship with a old friend of his..she broke up with him after a month.

Than after 6 months he contacted me , flirted wanted to meet etc, same time he was da ting a new girl..

I was nice yes but didn't care ..

2 weeks ago he got inn a new rel with this girl and yes I got hurt .. Cause I was there for him and he took me for granted and chose the other girls instead of me..

So I had enough.. Deleted him from fcb ..my life

Now its gone 3 weeks and he has cobtacted me asking me if I am mad at him ..and I ignored it so again he wrote me and asked wh øy I won't reply his messages..

So should I continue to ignore him or let him know? I'm hurt and i. Loved him

[JustChris]

Honestly I'm not even going to sugarcoat this because I don't even know why you still keep letting him come into your life. Don't put up with his crap or bs anymore. Time after time after time he does this to you and you welcome him back with open arms, you've had enough. Your feelings, your love, your heart is not meant to be toyed or played with. You deserve better than this. He's been messing with you this whole time, this entire time. It's best you ignore him and leave this situation or else the same cycle will keep happening. He doesn't probably even think of you that way. You're just another girl to him. You need a guy that wants YOU and only YOU. Two words: Leave him.

[madhatters4]

I think you should talk to him, explain how what he did hurt you and why you feel like you can't look at him the same way anymore.

I mean if you feel as though you absolutely can't talk to him then go for it but being forthright is usually the best policy. It will help you feel good to get it out in the open and hopefully help him see the err in his ways and how he treated you

[Asker]

I would like to tell him the truth but I'm afraid of the awnser and him telling me he doesn't have feelings for me..

i need to think about it troughout this week

[madhatters4]

I think he's shown through his actions how he feels about you or at least how he treats women. Besides this wouldn't be about he feels about you, this would be a conversation, explaining why you are mad and no longer want to talk to him...

I also don't think you should be afraid that he doesn't have feelings for you, he treats women terribly. he's used you and then comes back to you.

[AMOONA007]

yes girl you are own to your emotion and self to spreed this feeling tell him that you love him mention small detail maybe give him a wake up call to save the relation ,tell him that you felling hurt about the way that he did to you ,

girl you don't deserve to giving up on your urge ,your respecting ,your personality ,

if he tried to play games by saying words with flirty tell him that you need him to know that you deserve better that's whyu feel sorry to end all of those 4 years but it is good for us

[quietvixen17]

Listen to your mind and not your heart THIS time.

He played you twice. Continue to ignore him, he just likes the whole idea of being wanted. By the way, sorry that happened to you, that sucks.

[Anonymous]

he plays with you, don't keep on giving him a chance.

[RandE_Guy]

You sound like you shouldn't be in a relation for at least another five years. You are not emotionally mature enough or the guy that you are attracted are not emotionally mature enough. Seem like there are no emotional communication between you two.

[guird]

Always be honest and open, it's a requirement for relationships and friendships to run smoothly. Tell him why you're upset, that you feel like you've been toyed with. Could be he just thinks you only saw him as a friend, or maybe he's just a naturally flirty person. I know people like that, they seem to be flirting when they're just being themselves with you.

[bassman]

Since you've beet together so long...you need to go have a face to face meeting. Don't point fingers, but explain in a way so you're making it an "US" problem...don't say you this, or you that. No need to go into details as to why etc. Just give him the main points. You are adults...there should NOT be raised voices. It wouldn't hurt to give him praise about the good things...but make it clear (in a respectful way) that there's NO chance of getting back together...EVER.

[yarow12]

If you've had enough then you should tell him.

Besides, we don't always know what we did wrong.

Write it out first and get yourself together.

Then, exhale and just relax for awhile.

When you're ready, go over it one last time.

Send him the message and be glad you finally did.

[Anonymous]

Seems like he's only going to hurt you more... I know a girl who used to date a guy who's a real jerk. Goes out and parties and flirts with other girls... They were both really serious, until one day he said he needed a 'break'. Now this guy is looking around for other girls and doesn't seem to care about her. Sadly she still loves him and can't get over him even though he's a jerk... This guy has already hurt you a ton... I really maybe its best to try and forget about him...

[guird]

Note that my previous answer doesn't mean you have to trust him or try again. That's your decision to make after the conversation.

[kambo_trick3y]

Talk to him to give yourself and him some closure, but I would shut the book for good after that. Dude seems kinda toxic.

[kevespn]

guys hate being ignore, if you ignore him for couple months you will be completely over him and you will be happy again...

[Anonymous]

just don't answer and try to move on more