If my gut tells me a girl is flirting, how accurate is that gut feeling?

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A lot of flirting isn't overt and relies heavily on tone of voice, and how someone says something. A lot people tend to over-sexualize things and think someone being friendly and warm = they're totally into you. I want to avoid that trap of thinking any time a girl is friendly, she's flirting.

But what about if a girl says something in a tone that gives me a "rush" and puts me in a good mood? When that happens, it certainly feels like they were flirting. Is that gut-feeling any kind of indicator that she was flirting, and not simply being "friendly"?

Levin · Accepted Answer

It's the only one you should listen to. Problem is, most people don't have the sensitivity to it. A life- time of conditioning, an all pervasive and leaden burden, makes the most simple of tasks, that should be so straightforward, a mine(or mind) field. All kind of garbage now floats through a man's head, 'she's not into me, so many attractive men around', 'it'll make her feel uncomfortable' etc.

You can see it in their eyes, you can sense it, it happens naturally, spontaneously, without force. All you need, is the courage to say hello, and to try and keep the conversation moving. The mind comes in after, and says stop. Your initial sense was right. Pray, tap into it!

jamesma87 · Accepted Answer

You will have a better feel with experience. I think the best advice anyway is to flirt with a girl and try to date her rather than sitting back waiting for the green light. A lot of girls may be on the fence about things and you could make something happen by approaching or asking her out but sitting back is an almost guaranteed way for an opportunity to pass you by

definebeauty · Accepted Answer

Intuition is a powerful thing. That doesn't mean it's 100% accurate though. I agree, real flirtation relied heavily on diction and context.

Yeah if you get that feeling in your gut there's a good chance that there was some serious flirtation. Flirt back!

kereru · Accepted Answer

I don't know, intuition is often right, but when it comes to flirting there are just too many ways to misinterpret each other.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Also dependable on body language and if she touches you

Prof_Don · Answer

I always trust that gut feeling...and if I'm wrong, so be it.  That's my motto because I'm a positive thinker. 8-)

Anonymous · Answer

I would say pretty accurate, and if it's not, at least believing in yourself will give you confidence.

Anonymous · Answer

I would imagine it's pretty accurate.

If my gut tells me a girl is flirting, how accurate is that gut feeling?

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