How to tell if a girl is actually flirting with me?

[serp777]

So I'm a really tall guy; around 6'11, and I get a lot of girls just gawking because I'm so tall. A lot of them also say things like "Omg, you're so tall", "how tall are you?", etc

But I don't know how much of this is flirting and how much of it is just girls being curious, non sexually, about my extreme height. Anyway to distinguish one form from another?

I almost always misread a girl and think she's interested in me when she's not because the fact that she's initiating a conversation with me, which could imply an indicator of interest. And girls, when you say things like I've mentioned above to tall guys, are you usually trying to express interest?

[Anonymous]

You mine as well be walking around with a foot long dick being that tall. Seriously though. I truly believe based on my life experience, talking to women, and asking questions on here. That height is "the" most important physical trait, in terms of attracting women. Just the other day I asked what the first thing a girl notices about a guy is that tells her he's attractive and the majority said height. Being a very tall guy, like being a girl with big tits, a tight ass, and an hourglass body. It does half the work for you. Lucky you. You were literally born with a super power.

Now to your question. I can literally sum it up in one sentence. "If you unsure if she is flirting, then she is probably not." This is my rule of thumb that I've developed over recent years. First of all, this philosophy helps curb our inherent bias as men that does the exact opposite of what this mantra does. Our bias makes us air on the side of thinking girls are more interested than they really are. Thinking like this can help counter than and make you see things a bit more clearly. Also, along the same lines. I find that sexual attraction in human beings is very instinctive, inherent, and subconscious. It's a reflex. What you are attracted to someone, its hard to hide it, even if you try. Vice versa, true attraction is very hard to fake. It's sort of like happiness or smiling. No matter how hard to you try, faking it is never as convincing as the real thing. Flirting and attracting is similar in my opinion. If a girl is attracted to you, you shouldn't have a hard time figuring it out because she be unable to hide obvious signs of attracting. Think about all the times one of your peers has had a crush, guy or girl. You've almost always been able to tell a mile away because they just can't hide their bodies natural response. the same can be said about your own romantic dealings.

[kheserthorpe]

I used to work with a couple guys who were 6'9" and 7"

They got a lot of interest from girls, and some of it a lot more then curiousity.

Just keep the conversation going, keep it light, if she keeps talking to you, flirt a little, see how it goes from there.

The 7' guy, when girls would ask him how tall he was, he'd normally say like '6'2"'

And they'd be going really? waiiit no wayyyy my cousin's that tall you're wayyy taller

[iluvchewbucca]

six foot one or six foot eleven? o.0

being 6'11" I wouldn't necessarily ask how tall you are out of interest in "you" per-se, being that tall strikes anyone as a 'WOAH I can't believe it' effect, which makes the person ask out of the impression... I like tall guys but 6'11" is too much for me because I'm so freakin short! However, if you have a good looking face, being 6'11" could just add to the attractiveness that much more! ... but probably out of most short girls league... because it would just look awkward.

I find it very sexually appealing... I don't even know why, maybe because I'm small..

[serp777]

yeah I have been told I have a 7/10 sometimes 8/10 face, so you think that could influence how they think about my height?

[iluvchewbucca]

yup.

[kjahradio]

I'm 6'1" pretty babe. lol.

[iluvchewbucca]

lol and?

[serp777]

and he probably creepily wants to bang you after stalking your profile

[iluvchewbucca]

haha? my profile is not visible... maybe he wants to bang the tall person :o!

[kjahradio]

it was a joke and I can still see her profile pic even if its private. pretty hot for a little short girl.

[iluvchewbucca]

Mine was a joke too.

[serp777]

Mine was a joke as well. I see we're all jokesters I guess

[Stayinganon]

Holy shit 6'11? I've never seen anyone that tall in person lol. One of my best guy friends is 6'6 and whenever I see out reflection standing side by side it looks ridiculous, and I'm not even short at 5'4. Anyway, well are you well proportioned? Sometimes really tall people can look a little off usually due to an excessive growth hormone kind of thing. And as someone said below, if you have an okay or cute face then I'm sure girls will love it. Some may find your height intimidating but I think it's pretty hot as I'm sure a lot of girls do.

[the_champ]

And by "well proportioned" she means...

[Stayinganon]

Haha that's not what I meant. But you know what they say big feet big meat;)

[Luv2BRealExotic13]

Wow do you at least play sports? That's really tall, must be pretty cool. If she started off by asking how tall you are and not a Hey, what's your name and something playful and flirty after, sounds like just being curious about your height. Tall guys are cute, I'm usually pretty good at height and don't usually go for anyone under 5'10 so I don't need to ask. Unless yeah you're like 7foot because I've never seen someone so tall in my daily life except NBA players.

[serp777]

Tall guys are the most cute according to most girls I've talked to at around 6'4 or 6'3. But like you said, being 7 feet limits the amount of girls that are inherently interested in me. And no girls start of with a "hey, what's your name" or something like that, so does that mean that none of them are that interested? That's what I've been getting a lot lately tbh

[Luv2BRealExotic13]

To me if they don't start of with anything close to a "hey, what's your name" or followed up with a flirty playful comment after they've asked your height, that's not being interested in you they just never seen a quite so tall person. 6'5 is about the tallest most people ever really see outside of the medicine channel or the sports arena so some people get curious about your height.

[Luv2BRealExotic13]

Now when I think about it and you say you've been getting this a lot lately. Is at all from significantly shorter women or say a taller woman like around 5'9 and up. I had a friend 6'2 and if she asked a guy out she sometimes lead with Hi, how tall are you sometimes and she'd come back saying how interested she was but why that was her ice breaker idk.

[Anonymous]

Tall guys are hot. My boyfriend is 6'6 - gonna top off at around 6'9 apparently.

The girls you're talking to probably are being nice but the fact that they approached you first means they could be interested. Ten bucks says if you come up with some witty response (NOT you're short.") they'd have some playful banter back and then you're flirting and then you ask to hang out some time and then you ask her on a date and you're polite and nice and boom you have a girlfriend.

[serp777]

I don't have any good witty responses =/. nothing has ever seemed to go over that well lol. Any suggestions maybe?

[Opinion Owner]

Hahaha I don't know. I'm the very small height of 5'5.

[klalsaleh]

Usually a guy your height is just waay too tall for me. I'm 5 feet 2. I have only asked tall guys or girlsthis question just out if curiosity not romantic interest...but maybe next time try to keep the convo going if you are interested in them

[serp777]

I usually do, but as you've indicated, most of them don't have any sort of romantic interest. It's just so hard to tell one way or the other.

[klalsaleh]

Youre height is intimidating to many people so unfortunately you may have to work harder to build relationship esp with the ladies...youre tall so they are gonna expect you to me more confident

[Troian]

Well my boyfriend is slightly taller than you 6ft2 and I'm...5ft2.

Honestly? tall men are hot, most women will see it as a turn on so my guess is that some of those girls my flirt with you. Maybe bot all of them though.

[iluvchewbucca]

Your boyfriend is not taller than him. Your boyfriend is only 6'2" and this dude is 6 foot ELEVEN! inches!

[serp777]

yeah I'm kind of way taller than him

[Troian]

I'm used to the metric system. My boyfriend is 1m88...do you know how much it is with you?

[rocksongwriter]

2.1082 meters = 6'11". So...2 meters, 10 centimeters.

[Troian]

Oh okay well you might be to tall for some short girl but I know I have a tall friend who loves taller men.

[sweetieT40]

Hey I'm pretty sure they are interested. Most women won't start conversations like that unless their interested in you. A lot of women feel secure with tall men. Some are just shy that's how they break the ice. Women will love you

[Anonymous]

Personally, I've asked this question only once and not because I was flirting, but because the guy was really tall and I was curious. I did not feel even the slightest attraction for that guy.