Nice guys eventually win? Is it true? Will I win one? please will at least one girl answer

[Anonymous]

Hi I'm what you might call a nice guy I have never really saw what it a girl could like in a jerk well I thought maybe they like em tough so I have been working out a little I thought I would go from unattractive to hulky but man was I wrong it was hard to begin with going from OK looking to a little muscle to looking good I feel allot more confident with how I look but it did not change my personalty at all I am still quite and thoughtful and I have almost quit being an apologetic like one time I tried to be the jerk tough guy my gut was in horrible pain the whole time I was putting on the act I told people this exact same thing they thought I was joking saying that was hardly rude at all I still feel inconsiderate and sorry about that if I just made the wrong impression just then but don't worry I definitely learned my lesson I hear allot of girls like a guy with confidence while I am honest I am not to confident about getting a girl but I am about my business and some one same one said nice guys eventually win so I now have a reason to be more confident any way all that leads to a question do you think there is hope for me? yeah sure my moms friends and older women say I am cute but unless I can't read body language no girl has actually flirted towards me. I would like to think I am a nice guy I listen to the problems of people I make time to be there and made sure recently to be there for any girl that is a friend that is in need to be there for her because I think I am getting desperate I have all things that make up a nice guy do they really win? I want to win one. I don't ask for good looks or money just a girl with honesty and responsible but I would still be there for her when she needs some one and I wouldn't mind doing her work for her if she needed so please tell me do you think there is hope? do nice guys eventually win?

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Im trying hard not to reply to every one posts an answer because it may seem like I am desperate thanks every one for the answers so far every one has had something that may help.

[OutOfMyElement43]

Stop listening to advice you get from some jerk-off Dr. Gitusum. Dr. Gitusum got laid in a bar one night and now thinks he knows everything about women. You can't be someone you're not. Being nice doesn't mean you finish last, nice guys with "use me" painted on their foreheads finish last. No one, girl nor guy, respects someone who kisses ass and these are the "nice guys who finish last." You can be nice just don't be needy; give her space.

Be polite, but don't go over board. Don't treat her like she's an angel sent from heaven. She's someone you don't know very well but your interested in getting to know her. Treating her like she's something special creeps a girl out. Wouldn't you be creeped out if someone you didn't know very well suddenly starting treating this way?

Take the initiative. If you ask a girl out, she doesn't want to be the decision maker. You asked her out. If your guy friend calls you up and asks you to hang out, wouldn't it be a little creepy if he constantly asked you "what do you want to do?" Hell, he called you! Try to put yourself in her shoes. She wants to know you put some thought into the date. So, you be the decision maker.

Much of dating is just common sense. Follow the golden rule: "treat her like you'd want to be treated." Before you act ask yourself the simple question; "would I be comfortable if a stranger did this to me?"

[Asker]

Well thanks for the advice and I don't think I'm to needy well I obviously have not made a good impression well umm who is Dr. Gitusum I never heard of him to be honest I thought it was common logic that nice guys were the last ones to win.

[OutOfMyElement43]

"Nice guys finish last" is a complete misconception. The typical "nice guy" is protrayed as the needy, sniveling, bend over backwards to please a girl, etc.. This perception is false. You can be a nice guy and finish first! However, you have to give the girl her space, and the nice guy cannot sit around tolerating games without playing back. You learn to set boundarys and draw the line on BS. You do this you'll be fine. Dr. Gitusum is my name for all the frauds out there (Get You Some)

[Littletad]

Nice guys only win if they are willing to put some effort in finding out the girl they really want. I truly believe in hard work and going after what you desire. If you have no effort, and no ambition, you will continue to get what you've always gotten.

[Anonymous]

Don't ever think that girls don't like nice guys. It is absolutely untrue. Most girls are waiting for nice guys to come around instead of the typical assholes. There is just one thing to remember. Sometimes too nice can look like desperate. There is a very fine line between the two.

[Starling]

My boyfriends a good guy. I eventually realized that dating all the typical hot guys, wasn't getting me anywhere, except f***ed over, repeatedly. I've never been happier. Yes, I think you'll win eventually. You just need to find the right girl.

[Asker]

Woot thanks your like the only girl that has actually said something encouraging I guess I just don't around that nice of people any way thanks so all I need to do is wait for her the right girl to come along?

[Starling]

No no no. Waiting around isn't going to do anything for you. If you wanted to finish a race, you wouldn't stand still. You've still got to look and keep trying.

[Asker]

Ok that is something I have been doing wrong I have never thought of leaving where I leave to go look for someone but I will if it means getting someone you have no idea how much this means to me thanks to max!

[deelee]

You do have hope every woman wants a nice guy but if you don't show that you have confidence then that's a problem because every woman wants a man who can stand up and look after her and look man enough

[germanotaku]

Girls do like nice guys - just not all of them > link

Stay who you are, only that way will you find the right person. You're not even 18 yet, so really, don't you worry too much, haha.

[Asker]

Im old enough to drive and I have a job so I want to ask some one out and thanks Ill look at the link.

[tex151]

If being nice isn't working, and girls aren't giving you the time of day, why don't you change that? Hell if I couldn't get a date, and I tried and tried, and only got the lets be friends speech, then I would screw this being a nice guy crap, it's not working these women are walking all over me, who the hell do they think they are. Hopefully a little light bulb would go off and you would go hmm what if I'm still kind of nice but also kind of a jerk. If you keep doing what your doing, your going to be single, but if you change it up alittle bit and become a nice guy who grew a pair of balls, and didn't let women walk all over him, well you might have a shot.