Men, is it true that the more confident a guy is around a girl the less attraction he feels towards her

[mashura]

I wonder because I do this. When I don't like a guy that way I can be me but when the guy I like is around I become very serious. Just wanted to some opinions...

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+1 y

No not always

[Theguyoverthere]

Not always. When it is true of the person it's because the higher hopes he has the less he wants to even say the slightest thing that "screws up his chances."

Thing is with a lot of girls is that the slightest thing can cause your typical girl to change her mind about a guy. That's why players give as little info about the girl as possible until she's had sex with him. Players know typical things like to avoid friends who may plant seeds about the guy being a problem and that most girls will disqualify a guy if they find out something bad about him.

For the girl if you think about it, if she hasn't slept with him yet bringing him to her friends they'll say "Are you sure you wanna be with him?" and then say things to make her reconsider.

If she sleeps with him and then brings him to her friends, if he's a jerk they'll say "Oh you slept with him!" and since she already has she'll defend him up and down as to not be called a whore no matter how trashy he really is.

Now when a guy is not attracted to her he doesn't care about what he says because if she disappears, it's no big deal to him. So he is confident because it doesn't feel like anything is on the line. Meanwhile the guy who is attracted to her is constantly on guard making sure he doesn't say a single sentence that makes the girl rule out any possibility of being with him.

[Anonymous]

I agree with the update. No, not always. Speaking generally, I'd say that is true, but definitely not a clear cut case.

A guy could be very confident around a girl that he is extremely attracted too, but not confident at all around a girl he doesn't find attractive at all. In this case, the guy has confidence to get the girl he likes, but thinks that the girl he doesn't find attractive will find him attractive so he becomes nervous around her because he doesn't want to give off any signs that he likes her, and he doesn't want to lead her on. So, he becomes less confident in his ability to show that he's not interested in the girl.

[mashura]

Thats what confuses us though, we think you're nervous cause you like us. You're better off just not talking to us if that's the case.

[simplythebest]

Wow that's mad confusing lol

[confugirl]

Not necessarily true. Most guys will be nervous around a girl they're trying to impress, so a girl they feel attracted to. But some guys are just so confident that nothing can break them.

[Anonymous]

It's true from what I've seen. People are more confident when it isn't a make or break situation. They don't care, they aren't trying to impress.

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks for BA :-)

[kangaru]

i agreed

[b3y0ndUrf34r]

It's tricky becouse a guy can be confident already HAVING a girlfriend, so it dosen't matter how hot/attractive she is, he will for the most part always be confident.

if his singel and still confident, then its most probably like you say.

less attraction for the girl

[Distant]

Many guys are indeed shy around a girl they find attractive and feel some form of anxiety which prevents them from acting normally. Not all guys, however.

[cavmanier]

That's not true for me. My confidence has nothing to do with a persons looks.

[mashura]

This question doesn't have anything to do with a persons looks.

[cavmanier]

Okay attraction has nothing to do with looks

[mashura]

No not always

[cavmanier]

The reason guys tend to be nervous is mostly based on that physical attraction. They like her and are shy because they want to impress this person they don't know.

[Prof_Don]

It's more like the more confident he seems, the less he genuinely likes you.

Sparrow24 already shined light on the reason why. :)

[Zzzzz]

Not true in my case. I'm confident no matter who I meet.

[Anonymous]

For almost all men, yes.

Even a moderately confident guy is going to be a littl nervous around a girl he likes.

[Anonymous]

I think only for girls that's true

Guys are the opposite. They want to impress

[Anonymous]

on average I'd say yes. you become more nervous and self conscious around her.

when you're not attracted to her, you don't care and you're just yourself.

[Anonymous]

Honestly yes, but it isn't so much confidence as it is (for me at least) being a little afraid to ruin my chance.

[cheesesteak7]

Short answer: No.

Long answer: No, ma'am.

[Seek81]

no. I am myself at all times.

[Hamburgers]

Hell yes!