Are guys really attracted to confident women?

[adamjanovic]

I’m specifically talking about women who are confident, not egotistical or narcissistic. There IS a big difference, but that’s a topic for another day. It’s widely accepted nowadays that one of, if not the, most attractive qualities a girl can have is being confident, and guys are very drawn to that. Guys, is that really true?

[lightbulb27]

nice pic of you, that's rare to see out here.
yes it's true, done in the right way as you said, is highly attractive.

There is that downfall though... woman in distress... that we guys tune into. We want to have value to her in some way and be.. respected or appreciated. This may depend upon the type of "love language" he tunes into. e. g. I'm more servant/helper is strong for me, so that is important to feel of value.

[MYNAMEISN0B0DY]

Honestly that's a hard question, I'm really self conscious and not confident as a man, and women terrify me in general ever since my wife started sleeping with someone else and then left me. But I don't know maybe a confident woman scares me more because it feels like they have to know they are worth more than me and I dont stand a chance.

[dystopian_saga]

yes, but what a women may see as confidence may not be received that way by the male population.

women are/can be confident af, but if it's not his ideal of what confidence should be he may not find that particular women attractive.

[Dali-chan]

I don’t understand why media confuse confidence with arrogance. I noticed that confident women are the most kind hearted ones, while the complexed ones always drag the others down to feel better about themselves

[John1972]

Some men are, I'm attracted to q confident woman, but most are scared of them. Worried that a woman with too much confidence won't put up with his stupid shit. Where I'm from men like to think that their woman can't or won't make it without him. I think it's a load of hooey myself the stronger the woman the better the relationship I say.

[LoU_Hades]

Most of us are attracted to confidence, maybe those guys who prefer very submissive girls aren't, but majority of guys love feminine self-confidence. I want a team player as partner, not a home sitting hen with pair boobs and dishwasher option. Someone in my team needs basic skill to play the game and self-confidence is one of them.

[Casey10101]

yeah its true, while its not the only factor for a guy to be attracted to a woman, being confident is a very attractive quality. its not like its a barrier to entry if you dont have that quality, but it can very much stand out in a positive way to anyone around you.

[Anonymous]

Generally "confident" is a term used when labeling an arrogant ignorant bitch, or a female with a lack of dignity who exposes to much of her body in public for cheap sexual attention because she lacks anything else of value.
These types of women are parasitic and do nothing of value for the world.

A confident women is attractive when it is proper confidence. She carries herself with dignity and class, isn't aggressive in a trashy way, speaks well and has manners, etc.
This is good confidence.

[BestUserName100]

Maybe to a extent. Not really something I look for. There’s other things more important and prefer someone more introverted like me. Don’t like feeling like you always gotta impress them. How long can you keep that up before you fail to meet their expectations. I’m good off that. Let someone else be their personal ego boost slave.

[shi_w]

Newsflash: You can be introverted and confident. Also why do people keep thinking that confidence means your arrogant or have a big ego? That's not what it means at all.. totally the opposite. Confidence just means you're happy with who you are.. comfortable in your own skin.

[WillUPressTheButton]

I feel men and women have different ideas and standards on what confidence is. For guys it's more a behavioral thing for women it's more personality. However what most women will deem as "confidence" is normally just them being arrogant. So a genuinely confident girl (which no girl would assume is being confident) yes, but the delusional confidence no.

[SirRexington]

I prefer a more humble woman aware of her own insecurities. We seem to have this evasion of people who aren't completely confident in themselves as if that is supposed to make them better people. Which in turn reinforces the ideas people who aren't as confident have.

[shi_w]

Most confident women are aware of their own insecurities, and that is why they're confident. They embrace their insecurities and make it into something unique. The most insecure people try to hide their insecurities.

[blutwolfe]

Depends, too much confidence is a turn off. I like a girl who is human, who has an array of emotions. I've met girls who are confident 24/7 and that shit is terrifying.

Another topic is dominant women, that's an overwhelming no for me, I like subs. Don't get that confused with being independent, that should be a normal thing that everyone can function by themselves.

[Kiran_Yagami]

Yes, because a confident woman will tell you what she actually thinks, so you don't have to play the psychic guessing came while also being a rock you can lean on from which you can boost your own career, wealth, ego, and life in general. She has substance to her. This all hinges on the condition that there is merit to her confidence, however.

[djmzes]

Simple

[iloveallfood]

I, myself, am very attracted to girls who can speak their minds and know what they want. I was seeing a girl who was very submissive at one stage and she made me realize one thing I desire in a girl is one that isn't afraid to ask what she wants and can be direct.

[BCA6010]

100%.

Absolutely sucks the life out of us when our partner has low self-confidence without any sign of improving.

[DiegoO]

It's detrimental. Wile, you try to be positive that current partner is gonna stick to how terrible life is.

[BCA6010]

@DiegoO Yes exactly.

[ohshee]

I love confident women but it has to be real and from the heart. Not confident like she is better that everyone else

[Avicenna]

Absolutely. It's a majir turn-on, plus a woman who lacks self-confidence won't be OK even with constant reassurance, which will put a damper on your relationship.

[MusicMayhem]

Yes! Confident girls go after what they want and don't rely on a guy to do everything for them as if they are a child. They put equal effort into dating and relationships.

[dropkicknj13]

Hmmm, I'd have to say no. I dont think I've ever met a woman who was confident without being arrogant, egotistical, or narcissistic.

[shi_w]

Confident women aren't any of those.. don't confuse them.

[Ripper_E]

Yes. Every one has flaws, but women who are not confident think I'm paying attention to the small tiny blemish on her face that i can't even see until she points it out.

[korey182]

you know people say that, and maybe some are, but i've thought about this before. i don't think i'm attracted to confidence. Other things definitely, but specifically confidence doesn't do anything for me

[korey182]

Like i've been so attracted to sooo many quite, shy, least outgoing girls who you'd never say were confident. On the other hand i can be so turned off by the so-called "confident" woman

[korey182]

nice picture though

[Anonymous]

I don't understand why, if you have a good job, especially as a high position, you can't translate that confidence, in to a relationship with a man (women, depending on how you swing). It's the same sort of confidence needed to get a job, as it is to get a man.. so, if you have a GOOD job, just use the same sort of confidence to go after the guy you like

[BeMuse]

Sure, self confidence is a good check box to tick. It doesn’t make up for other things, but lack of it can be a red flag.

[Clarke510]

Confidence helps but it isn't going to power miracles, being attracted to them for other reasons is necessary but it depends on the guy as to what those reasons are.

[NicolaJ35]

Some are I guess but at the same time others will be intimidated by it

I always love and hate you when you wear a strapless dress

[adamjanovic]

Why (my dress)?

[NicolaJ35]

Yes, your dress, you always look so sexy.

And, if I didn't already tell you, I love a woman in a strapless dress!

[adamjanovic]

Then when do you also hate me when I wear one?

[NicolaJ35]

Because you are so DAMN SEXY and pull it off so well!!

[GhettoGirl]

My confidence has intimidated a few that apparently were lacking a similar confidence. Truly confident guys ain't intimidated by me.

[Kurαȷ]

All that confidence is, is going on about with your life while minding your own business.
Yes, people are attracted to that.

[aa180]

I'm pretty sure it's almost exclusively women who obsess and drool over confidence. I barely see guys even mention it when talking about their ideal partner.

[GermanGuy87]

By default yes. I would find it easier to approach a confident girl than a shy one but I hear shy girls make the best girl friends

[adamjanovic]

From what I’ve seen and heard, girls who lack confidence and are insecure often make the neediest, most clingy girlfriends.

[Bananaman177]

"I’m specifically talking about women who are confident, not egotistical or narcissistic."

Yeah, I would love to meet one like that someday.

[MzAsh]

Yes. Men love a woman who knows she’s a high value woman.

[MannMitAntworten]

Some of us are. Then again some of us also have stronger personalities which are better suited towards those who also have a stronger personality versus a meek one.

[Kit_Kat88]

I have a healthy self esteem and acknowledge my good characteristics. Social anxiety makes it seem that I’m not confident but I had social anxiety from the time I remember being alive hahaha

[1baddilhole]

Yeah. In my opinion I wouldn't like an insecure woman around all day not giving me a break for myself. Asking how she should do things. Confidence is attractive because they can be a person of their own.

[bamesjond0069]

Confident in her femininity yes. Confident in being a ho or asshole no. But tbh its not that important. Id take a girl who isn't very confident if she has other things going for her like serious traditional values.

[Steve4783]

Us guys are attracted to beauty it usually will not matter that much if she is shy or confident.

[Lliam]

Big time! There's nothing sexier than a woman who carries herself like a queen.

[invalid1]

Confidence is good. it reflects good self esteem. it doesn't go against femininity, I do want her to be sure of herself especially in a relationship.

[wankiam]

yes certainly... i prefer confident women as you define them

[markscott]

Confidence in a woman is attractive, as long as it's not accompanied by arrogance.

[Ayer93]

There's a fine line between confident and arrogant, but yes... I am attracted to a confident woman. I believe most men are.

[FýrdracaDócincel]

Confidence is a yes.. ONLY if her ideologies and worldview fit with mine.

Confident people who tend to not agree with me are just annoying.

[Piteka5]

Yeah, but shy and unsure girls are also cute. I think most women have their own charm, and for them not to have it, they have to total jerks or something along those lines

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

I know I am. Confident women make you feel welcomed and the conversations are more fun and engaging vs a shy woman who make you feel like you are annoying her.

[kenFold]

Absolutly. And this day in age, you can't find that in many women at all

[kmd737]

It depends upon the guy, it only works if the guy is confident as well. Because once that little hint of jealousy is put in someone's mind eventually it just grows out of control then Boom the relationship is over.

[AlexanderBrunnrgaard]

The girl in the pic appears slightly egotistical though.

[SOARER_]

I could care less if a woman is confident or not
Its not something I expect or value in a woman.

[Unit1]

Very true! Confident women are attractive and sexy to no ends ❤❤❤
Give me one 😍

[psilo911]

Yes, I know which women you refer to when you say egotistical or narcissistic. You mean women who are genuinely confident, not using it ask a mask.

Yes, a truly confident woman is a treasure to be held.

[DiegoO]

Yap. We can tell the difference. The most confident women's are the least jealous ones, and the least controlling.

[Edanurus]

I don't think its necessarily the confidence itself but confident people are usually more positive about life and that is attractive.

[bangyourhead]

100% we're attracted to confident women. But the ones with low self esteem are easier to get in the sack.

[hafinjun]

Guys are attracted to breathing women, if she's hot enough the breathing doesn't have to be regular

[blondfrog]

Yes but most men and women are narcissistic who say they are confident.

[IIGrifterSixII]

nah. Most the time its more trouble than its worth.

[Guanfei]

Not really. Confident women often come out as bitchy, over dominant and sometimes sexists.

[Riddler1412]

I can't speak for others, but I know it can only be a plus in my book.

[Lunatic1]

Within reason, yes. I personally prefer self-confidence to expressive confidence, but it all depends on the guy.

[ChefCurry]

That’s not confident. You’re in a tense position. Confident is relaxed and laid back. You don’t look like you belong in a chair like that.

[kwaza]

I'm not really into such ones, if she appears humble or better put, cool then I can finds her attracted.

[Anonymous]

Depends on if they connect. Confidence in what? Sex? Relationships? Its all about healthy intereactions. So if she is confident, and they click yes. Confidence is only one attribute, and no ones perfect.

[Anonymous]

100% yes. I want a woman who behaves like an adult, not a child