Are guys really attracted to confident women?

[adamjanovic]

I’m specifically talking about women who are confident, not egotistical or narcissistic. There IS a big difference, but that’s a topic for another day. It’s widely accepted nowadays that one of, if not the, most attractive qualities a girl can have is being confident, and guys are very drawn to that. Guys, is that really true?

[lightbulb27]

nice pic of you, that's rare to see out here.
yes it's true, done in the right way as you said, is highly attractive.

There is that downfall though... woman in distress... that we guys tune into. We want to have value to her in some way and be.. respected or appreciated. This may depend upon the type of "love language" he tunes into. e. g. I'm more servant/helper is strong for me, so that is important to feel of value.

[MYNAMEISN0B0DY]

Honestly that's a hard question, I'm really self conscious and not confident as a man, and women terrify me in general ever since my wife started sleeping with someone else and then left me. But I don't know maybe a confident woman scares me more because it feels like they have to know they are worth more than me and I dont stand a chance.

[dystopian_saga]

yes, but what a women may see as confidence may not be received that way by the male population.

women are/can be confident af, but if it's not his ideal of what confidence should be he may not find that particular women attractive.

[Dali-chan]

I don’t understand why media confuse confidence with arrogance. I noticed that confident women are the most kind hearted ones, while the complexed ones always drag the others down to feel better about themselves

[John1972]

Some men are, I'm attracted to q confident woman, but most are scared of them. Worried that a woman with too much confidence won't put up with his stupid shit. Where I'm from men like to think that their woman can't or won't make it without him. I think it's a load of hooey myself the stronger the woman the better the relationship I say.

[LoU_Hades]

Most of us are attracted to confidence, maybe those guys who prefer very submissive girls aren't, but majority of guys love feminine self-confidence. I want a team player as partner, not a home sitting hen with pair boobs and dishwasher option. Someone in my team needs basic skill to play the game and self-confidence is one of them.

[Casey10101]

yeah its true, while its not the only factor for a guy to be attracted to a woman, being confident is a very attractive quality. its not like its a barrier to entry if you dont have that quality, but it can very much stand out in a positive way to anyone around you.

[Anonymous]

Generally "confident" is a term used when labeling an arrogant ignorant bitch, or a female with a lack of dignity who exposes to much of her body in public for cheap sexual attention because she lacks anything else of value.
These types of women are parasitic and do nothing of value for the world.

A confident women is attractive when it is proper confidence. She carries herself with dignity and class, isn't aggressive in a trashy way, speaks well and has manners, etc.
This is good confidence.

[BestUserName100]

Maybe to a extent. Not really something I look for. There’s other things more important and prefer someone more introverted like me. Don’t like feeling like you always gotta impress them. How long can you keep that up before you fail to meet their expectations. I’m good off that. Let someone else be their personal ego boost slave.

[WillUPressTheButton]

I feel men and women have different ideas and standards on what confidence is. For guys it's more a behavioral thing for women it's more personality. However what most women will deem as "confidence" is normally just them being arrogant. So a genuinely confident girl (which no girl would assume is being confident) yes, but the delusional confidence no.

[SirRexington]

I prefer a more humble woman aware of her own insecurities. We seem to have this evasion of people who aren't completely confident in themselves as if that is supposed to make them better people. Which in turn reinforces the ideas people who aren't as confident have.

[blutwolfe]

Depends, too much confidence is a turn off. I like a girl who is human, who has an array of emotions. I've met girls who are confident 24/7 and that shit is terrifying.

Another topic is dominant women, that's an overwhelming no for me, I like subs. Don't get that confused with being independent, that should be a normal thing that everyone can function by themselves.

[Kiran_Yagami]

Yes, because a confident woman will tell you what she actually thinks, so you don't have to play the psychic guessing came while also being a rock you can lean on from which you can boost your own career, wealth, ego, and life in general. She has substance to her. This all hinges on the condition that there is merit to her confidence, however.

[djmzes]

Simple

[iloveallfood]

I, myself, am very attracted to girls who can speak their minds and know what they want. I was seeing a girl who was very submissive at one stage and she made me realize one thing I desire in a girl is one that isn't afraid to ask what she wants and can be direct.

[BCA6010]

100%.

Absolutely sucks the life out of us when our partner has low self-confidence without any sign of improving.

[DiegoO]

It's detrimental. Wile, you try to be positive that current partner is gonna stick to how terrible life is.

[BCA6010]

@DiegoO Yes exactly.

[ohshee]

I love confident women but it has to be real and from the heart. Not confident like she is better that everyone else

[Avicenna]

Absolutely. It's a majir turn-on, plus a woman who lacks self-confidence won't be OK even with constant reassurance, which will put a damper on your relationship.

[MusicMayhem]

Yes! Confident girls go after what they want and don't rely on a guy to do everything for them as if they are a child. They put equal effort into dating and relationships.

[dropkicknj13]

Hmmm, I'd have to say no. I dont think I've ever met a woman who was confident without being arrogant, egotistical, or narcissistic.

[Ripper_E]

Yes. Every one has flaws, but women who are not confident think I'm paying attention to the small tiny blemish on her face that i can't even see until she points it out.

[korey182]

you know people say that, and maybe some are, but i've thought about this before. i don't think i'm attracted to confidence. Other things definitely, but specifically confidence doesn't do anything for me

[korey182]

Like i've been so attracted to sooo many quite, shy, least outgoing girls who you'd never say were confident. On the other hand i can be so turned off by the so-called "confident" woman

[korey182]

nice picture though

[Anonymous]

I don't understand why, if you have a good job, especially as a high position, you can't translate that confidence, in to a relationship with a man (women, depending on how you swing). It's the same sort of confidence needed to get a job, as it is to get a man.. so, if you have a GOOD job, just use the same sort of confidence to go after the guy you like

[BeMuse]

Sure, self confidence is a good check box to tick. It doesn’t make up for other things, but lack of it can be a red flag.