Girls has a guy ever changed his mind on you after he rejected you the first time?

[VeohTV]

Lets say one time you told one of your male friends, you like him more than just a friend, but at that time he kindly kept you in the friend zone, but later on in life like say (three weeks later) he apologize for turning you down knowing he had to take some time to gather his thoughts, knowing he takes relationships seriously and he was surprised you like him in that kind of way.

Anyway, girls for the guys that kindly asked if the two of you can give it another shot, was did you still wanted to date him as your boyfriend, or did you reject him all because he rejected you at first?

I'm asking becasuse most of the time, when a girl changed her mind about her male friend (who she turned down at first) he'll still give her another chance after she apologize to him for breaking his heart.

[Anonymous]

Wow... I say that because I went through something very similar.

The thing is, the women feels insecure and unsure, yet happy if you did decide you want her.

In my situation,.. the guy after he rejected me the first time I expressed my feelings for him.

Omg..i was hurt, devastated..he was very cool about not making me uncomfortable, but, I got the "im flattered" speech. :(.

Then after a few weeks he expressed he was attracted to me. Inside I was so happy. And yeah I didn't want it to show really, but I just wanted to keep kissing and kissing him..but my pride got in the way. I wanted to move forward but he step back again after that night. I couldn't allow my self the heart ache again..even tho I needed him, badly.

Time past now, nothing became of us :(. We're just "friends". :(sucks.

But, I didn't pursue it further.

I was confused, scared, angry and hurt.

I wouldn't reject him "persay" but I would need time to be sure, he wants me..and not out of boredom..

If she does reject you its not to get you back for doing it to her. More than none, she doesn't trust your real.

[VeohTV]

But it's not fair that a girl can win a second chance at a guy she rejected at first, but it's too late for a guy.

[Opinion Owner]

That's not true, some guys take rejection hard. Some men won't look back at a women that reject him. Men are human too and have feelings. Also judging on each individual situations..I don't think this is a question that can be generalized.

Some people tolerance are different than others. Now if you say a guy rejected me by kissing another women in my face oppose to telling me he's not interested...then screw him. And no second chance who care how he beg. But if he needed time to think, then maybe.

[emmabee11]

I am mostly the person rejecting (of course since I'm female and a lot of guys are desperate for some woman lol), but times I did get rejected it took a bit to go through as I really liked them and I HATE being alone especially these days I can't stand being alone with myself for any more than 2 days and then my own thoughts drive me nuts. I am mostly the one rejecting though as most guys just don't get it at all... and I mostly just get asked for sex and that's it, they might not say it in obvious terms but with their obvious intent on rushing things they obviously just only want one thing, so yeh... as many other females out there I'm sure I get the job of mostly rejecting guys, oh the joys... not lol, it can get pretty annoying because we have to like not go online to any social media websites at all if we don't want to be flirted with by guys, yeh... lots of fun.

[VeohTV]

So the guys that rejected you, that's when all the feelings you had for them were faded away? Even if they realize they were wrong fro turning you down, you still would think it's too late?

[emmabee11]

Non of them ever thought twice about it really they just rejected me without even giving it a chance, if they did start liking me AFTER I got over them then obviously I would not go out with them since my feelings for them went away and there is just no getting them back ever, people never know what they had until it's too late.

[VeohTV]

Does it seem like women are superior that they reject guys more than guys reject them? Also does it seem like women are better than men if they can win at a second chance with a guy she rejected at first, but if a guy wants a second chance at a girl he turn down, it's too late for him?

[emmabee11]

Feelings come and go but guys expect us to magically like them even when we never liked them from the start, I have had this from many guys now and they act very controlling trying to push me into feeling something asap but non of us can control who we like, these days people think they can control everything just to feel like they are in control of their lives so they don't accept it when there is something they can't control. It is also the difference how males and females choose mates.

[emmabee11]

When males choose mates they look for not just the most healthy and smart female but one that they can see themselves with in the future that can deal with things logically and calmly but females is more maternal, they look for the guy that not only can look after them but their children too and they don't want to give birth to children of a total jerk they want someone who will stand by them and their kids, because females are the ones carrying them they act more careful when choosing.

[VeohTV]

Then how come most women choose bad boys over nice guys? Also does it flatter you that you mostly reject guys, due to them getting your attention? What if a guy thought it was funny that he mostly reject girls because he gets a lot of attention?

[emmabee11]

That is a myth and I also feel like you take it too personally when you are rejected but consider the fact you barely know the girls who reject you so why take it personally when there is no real and meaningful attachment? at first all you feel is just a crush and infatuation which can blind you to the truth about someone (believe me I know), you cannot be in love unless you are certain who they really are and that takes time (more than 4 or 5 months).

[emmabee11]

You have to know that each and every person from a teenager to in their 20s don't really know what they want and they are in the experimental phase, most humans don't have a clue what they want at that age and should not be acting so mature they are acting their age, nobody really knows what they are doing with anyone at first, it is not a laughing matter for females when guys come up to us pushing us to go out with them when they barely know us, get to know a girl first then see what happens.

[VeohTV]

Of course girls don't take it personal if girls got rejected by a guy becuase she knows she can easily have other guys, but it's different if a guy get's rejected by a girl.

Let me ask you, if you had a crush on your male friend who you knew for a long time but he kindly put you in the friend zone, would you take it personally, knowing it's hard to find great guys like him? After all you said you don't want to be alone

[emmabee11]

No... actually we are thinking we can do better and quite right we can nobody likes people coming up to you and being demanding and hounding you to try and make you give in it isn't right at all and it just so controlling I had a guy once who said he would hit me because I did not like him and if guys stopped moping with their puppy dog eyes they would have more girls available to them too, I have no beef with males just you have to slow down and think about who your trying to go out with firs

[emmabee11]

I have actually been in that friend zone twice now, both times because I knew I had to move away have a long term relationship would not of worked, even if I spent nearly 9 years in another town and went to high school with one of the guys I liked I just had a feeling id move away again some day, I honestly don't mind just being their friends because having a friend is better than having non.

[VeohTV]

I want to ask again, do you enjoy rejecting guys? How would you feel if guys enjoyed rejecting girls? Also don't tyou think girls be moping as well after she was rejected by a guy she knew, what do you think about them?

It's wrong to sterotype thinking every guy would want to physically hit a girl because she didn't pick him.

How and why would guys have more girls if they would stop moping?

[emmabee11]

I think here you are just trying to get me to justify your resentment for females but no we do not enjoy rejecting anyone what makes you think we do? as females all most guys want is to get into our knickers and guys wonder why females have low confidence because it makes us think imediately that something about us is making this happen, I of course don;t dress like other girls I'm a plane jane but still it makes me think why they take us for this?, did I do or say something?, it's really hard.

[emmabee11]

Quite honestly when guys comes up to us it's not an enjoyable experience any more because straight away we feel like we are just being pushed into it, not a nice feeling at all and we are just freaked out by the majority of guys can come up to us, so no it's not fun especially when you reject a guy and they start calling you a cow and what not, not nice at all... really uncalled for especially when they don't even know us at all, they just don't get it.

[VeohTV]

Well that's another thing that's wrong to sterotype by thinking every guy wants one thing. That way of thinking will make you be lonely forever. Leave the bad boys along and get with a good guy. A great guy that doesn't want random women but instead wants the female friend he's known for a long time, of course he has a right to feel devastated if she said "lets just stay friends", because he wants someone he has in common. He takes relationships seriously.

[VeohTV]

The reason why I ask if you enjoyed rejecting guys because when you admit that you're the one who mostly do the rejecting I saw a "lol" at the end of what you said, knowing that means laughter. I never said I hate females. Also don't you think a guy should have confidence to approach a woman in a non creepy way as long as he is being himself? That's how couples meet, or do you think only women should walk up to guys, so they can have all the power in the dating world?

[emmabee11]

i think if I go on any longer you will only just want to hear what you want to, probs why this post has gone quiet... so I will leave you to your devices, sorry I told you the truth of what happens but you don't want to accept it but I am going to leave this post like everyone else.

[VeohTV]

Well some girls just had bad experiences with guys which led them to think negative about them, but that's throwing in the towel, meaning giving up.

Me and you, well just have to agree to disagree.

[confugirl]

It never happened to me. But I may accept him afterward. You can't really blame him, as it sometimes take someone else to plant an idea in your head. Maybe it took him a while to think about it. Sure, I'd go out with him.

[Deviouscourage]

Twice, regret rejecting them both times. It was after we became friends and got to have known them better is when I began escalating feelings for them.

But by then it was too late, either friend zone or they had a boyfriend.

[Anonymous]

It does happen, but usually the guy has a lot of making up to do.

[VeohTV]

Don't you think a girl should also have some making up to do if she rejected him the first time?

[bijinbijinbijin]

it makes sense but realistcally it would depend on the individuals. However I have heard of women who manged to be in a relationship with a guy but then treats him wrong and they break up and then she is crying back to the guy wanting to make things right and it is up to him wether or not he wants to get back together. But I can't really picture it happening like that for two people who were never in a relationship to begin with. If a guy gets rejected then he will either move on or stay friends

[bijinbijinbijin]

and then if the girl changes her mind about the guy then doesn't the guy just think of her as "Playing Games"? and eventually the girl will stop showing interest once she sees that the guy does not trust her. If she really tried her hardest to make things up to him and to try to win him over do you think the guy would still be interested? Guys never like the girls who just throw themselves at the guy, well, I mean, they might entertain themselves with her for a bit but they usually loose respect