Girls, have you ever rejected a guy then changed your mind?

[Anonymous]

Has this ever happened to you? if someone you knew asked you out and you rejected them. Did you ever change your mind and actually end up going out with them at a later date?

[HOAAH]

kind of not really.
I met this guy online, he was a relative of a friend of a church I attended.
We talked but only online. He was dating or seeing a couple of other girls, I was only 18.
Finally he told me that he would leave the other girl for me and that I would "win" I didn't like that he said that. I didn't want to "win" I wanted to just feel like he loved me and I was the prize too... I'm not sure how to explain it but I felt he was making him seem more valuable than me and that I had to be the one always chasing him. I don't know... I was young.

Anyway I told him no and I deleted my MySpace.
6 years later I am 24 and I am lonely. I go on MySpace and facebook a lot to look for old friends whom I can connect with. I find him and we start writing to each other a lot.
I ask him a lot of questions including how many women he has slept with since we last talked and he said something like 6, and I felt that was a lot. I had slept with zero. After that I told him that I didn't want to talk to him anymore. He said that if we stop talking then there is no second or third chances. I said, I don't give a... and that was the end of that. I did accidentally meet him in person about 2-3 x in my life but I never actually spoke to him in person, it was all... online through emails. He is married and has a pharm. tech cert and a son with his wife, they live in MN. I live in the south with my own life... so it went well. I am glad I didn't get with him because... he was a non-christian and although he was handsome, he seemed very into himself.

[Idonthaveausername]

Yes because I didn't realize how much I liked him and I thought he was only looking for a one-night stand. I found out later that I was wrong, but I have no way of contacting him now. I would definitely go out with him if I had a second chance. And I didn't officially reject him. I just walked out without giving him my number because he didn't ask for it

[Idonthaveausername]

Lol you just invited me to a question I already shared an opinion on

[arineunha]

I rejected him at the beginning by breaking up with him a lot of times because I thought I wasn't good enough for him. I realized that he treated me really nicely and he always knew the right things to say.

I changed by mind and got back with him. it was a rollercoaster of a relationship but I really fell in love after that

[arineunha]

I cried to my sister and she texted him and fixed my relationship for me. i'm so glad she did, because I was able to experience so much. even though it's painful thinking about it now

[WaterRat]

You gotta give us a complicated scenario dude. Like this one: I accepted someone's initial offer bc I was hot for him then he didn't seem to want to follow through on a date so I was hurt and over it. Now I'm thinking about giving him another chance bc at least he said he said he was sorry.

[Anonymous]

Men on GAG need to get over this HEAVY denial a lot of y'all are into. I constantly see from the men side questions of a girl who is clearly not interested in you, yet you ignore all advice telling you that to listen to lies from people who give you a glimmer of hope you have a shot.

Some of you are so desperate you are willing to wait for a girl for months/years to come around and finally see what a "great guy" you are.

God stop being so thirsty and desperate. Most women do not change their mind about you unless you have dramatically improved on yourself or they are desperate.

[Anonymous]

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[WriterAndPainter]

No, but this kinda happened to me on the opposite way. About two years after highs school I saw a guy that was horribly rude to me and was like "Wow, should have been nicer to you" then proceeded to want to hang out. I was like "I'm sorry, but I don't remember you, and no I'm a busy person".

[Anonymous]

Oh yeah, and I regretred it. I told him no after he asked me out and I thought it over for the next few days and realized I like him but, after I was sure he moved on and I was really upset. But I've also liked a guy but said no because the time wasn't right.

[bente2]

Not really no. I have had a guy like me and me rejecting him for obvious reasons, then after a few years the reasons faded away but one stayed and i couldn't overlook it.

[Razzle-Bedazzle]

Yes I have. At first I didn't know him very well , I was under the assumption he was a player , so rejected him , but as I got to know him more I realised he wasn't at all. He was a really nice guy

[scooogy]

I wish that the girl of my past had done so as well

[Razzle-Bedazzle]

@scooogy

most people don't seem to give anyone a chance to get to know them more... on a deeper level.

[scooogy]

@Razzle-Bedazzle Well, she was one of the quiet girls anyway, so who knows if she'd ever wanted to really get to know me better.

[Razzle-Bedazzle]

@scooogy

If she was quiet or shy then it would be more difficult to get to know her more , her shyness would also prevent her from getting to know you

[scooogy]

@Razzle-Bedazzle Yeah, she's rather active when drunk. Actually like hyperactive. Showed up at a party with a guy I didn't know and made out with him. Afterwards, she always made sure I was attending them when she came around with him.

[Razzle-Bedazzle]

@scooogy

Oh wow ! Did she know you liked her , when she made out with that guy?

[scooogy]

@Razzle-Bedazzle yeah she did

[Razzle-Bedazzle]

@scooogy

Sorry to hear that. That's awful to do to someone. Just as well you didn't end up with her.

[scooogy]

@Razzle-Bedazzle Crazy thing is that she still craves my attention like back then.

[Razzle-Bedazzle]

@scooogy

Yeah it seems as though she wanted to make you jealous. Did you ever ask her on a date?

[scooogy]

@Razzle-Bedazzle I actually confronted her in a letter about the weird looks she gave me for a year already back then. She just said it wasn't on purpose, whereas to a friend of mine she admitted it actually was. I told her that if she wanted to be with me, I was free to date. But she only answered I was dumb enough to even consider I knew her, whereas she was the one who (after I admittedly visited her classes in the beginning of the first semester) approached me in a more direct way than I could have considered to do myself, by sitting down opposite to me in the cantine, which I found extremely uncomfortable, since I had a crush on her back then.

[Razzle-Bedazzle]

@scooogy

She doesn't seem that nice of a person. A bit of a player. She's probably not as shy and quiet as she appears to be. Just be thankful you didn't settle for her , she'd probably play mind games

[scooogy]

@Razzle-Bedazzle where have you been back then *___* I actually thought lots about how to answer her accuse of me being a player :o

[Razzle-Bedazzle]

@scooogy

Haha aww I'd have told her for you 😂or told you what to say 😜

[scooogy]

@Razzle-Bedazzle now I'm curious, what would you have told her, or told me to say?

[Razzle-Bedazzle]

@scooogy
Lol to be honest, I'd have advised you to give her no attention whatsoever. People like that thrive on attention. If you ignore them , it makes them realise their behaviour is futile cos it doesn't faze you at all. She knew you liked her but still intentionally tried to draw your attention to her

[scooogy]

@Razzle-Bedazzle yeah, I still wonder why she did so

[Razzle-Bedazzle]

@scooogy

For her own ego probably

[scooogy]

@Razzle-Bedazzle that might explain why her glances began right after her breakup

[Razzle-Bedazzle]

@scooogy

Yeah I think so too. You deserve to be treated better than that. Those who need to boost their ego at other people's expense are very insecure

[scooogy]

@Razzle-Bedazzle hell yes, she is! Always claimed her so called friends to stand with her and be just as annoyed of me as her.

[RJGraveyTrain]

No, that's never happened. I always have my reasons for rejecting someone and I haven't ever had a thought like: "Oh well I like him now all of the suddenly."

[writing_essays]

Yeah I did. Once on a dating site - there was a guy who really liked me but I didn't realize that until I rejected him and then it was too late cause I was blocked by him.

[LoveJesusLoveGod]

Has not happened to me, but I have realized my feelings for a guy over time. Sometimes it does take time for someone to realize how much they feel for someone.

[moonbagel]

The only way I reject guys is if I'm absolutely sure that I wouldn't want to date them. The people I have rejected I haven't changed my mind about.

[BuchitaBuchys]

I've never regretted any of the men I've rejected. I didn't want them for a reason and I don't change my mind

[Izumiblu]

Yes... i generlly reject most every guy. My current boyfriend, i rejected him but it wasn't because of him specifically. I later asked him out.

[JulieXO]

Yes, with my current boyfriend actually. He wanted to date me and I said no, but he didn't stop trying and we ended up getting together :)

[deraz24]

For prom bc I didn't want him to be alone lol but it all worked out, and regularly no I don't regret it bc I think it through

[Anonymous]

nope. i reject someone if im 100% sure that i dont like them at all i mean its not a good feeling being rejected

[Katie2244]

kinda of but it was out of a need to feel wanted rather than attraction

[Nadzzz]

nope never
i reject for a reason then I'm not going back

[scooogy]

I actually know about a girl who kind of changed her mind about me like a dozen times over 3 years, yet she didn't happen to do anything about that.

[Anonymous]

Nope, if I reject there's a reason and it's usually a good one

[scooogy]

and if it based on assumptions only?

[Opinion Owner]

@scooogy then if the guy really wants to date me he'd better show me that my assumptions are wrong and he's doing everything he can to show that he is a good person and that I can trust him

[scooogy]

wow okay... the girl who rejected me thought i was a player. She always looked pretty sad and envious when she saw me with another girl who i actually was only friends with. Besides that, I only talked to girls at college because I had a need for talking, and the guys in my major are just freaks.

[Opinion Owner]

@scooogy I'm really sorry, I bet you're a good person. If she can't see that, it's her loss. :) however, it sounds like she was a little jealous... do you really like her/want to date her?

[scooogy]

She's cute, but she hardly talks to people, which would actually really suck after a while.

[Opinion Owner]

@scooogy do you think that if you worked at it, assuming you really do want to date her, you could get past the not talking to people thing? If not, it may be time to think about trying to let go...

[scooogy]

Actually there have already been plenty of other girls wanting to date me, and there's a lucky one waiting for me this week (well, in her case the lucky one is actually me :P )

[scooogy]

but i have to say that i rather fell in love with her smile, which is until today one of the most important criteria for me to choose a girl to date. No smile, no chance.

[Opinion Owner]

@scooogy that's great to hear actually, most guys look at boobs or ass or body in general which I'm sure u already know 😂 I think ur a pretty honest sweet guy and if the "lucky one" is her then I wish u good luck 😄

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah also u just blocked me, have fun

[scooogy]

I do not seek for any underage person on here to follow me. Please consider that.

[Opinion Owner]

@scooogy ok. sorry if I offended you. Good luck with your girl.

[SwolDishWasher]

I've rejected girls and never changed my mind. When im over you, im over you.

[Zendrya]

yup. We've been together 4 years now

[Asker]

Can you explain what happened please

[Zendrya]

Well we had known about each other for a while cause we lived practically next door to each other and eventually he started talking to me. At first it was friendly and then he started complimenting me which was fine. It was always about my personality or innocent physical compliments. Eventually he told me that he like me like back in June/July of 2012 but I was not interested. Eventually he fell in love with me but I still only saw him as a friend. He started getting obnoxious with his complimenting and I wasn't even fond of our friendship anymore... I kept talking to him to be nice. He then started crushing on his friend Pam and he told me about it. He told me that he was moving on for me and was just always talking about Pam. I started getting really jealous and upset about it. Eventually he told me that he was wrong and he still loved me and that he wasn't that interested in Pam anymore. On December 28th 2012 he sent me the song Lost in You by three days grace and said that was how

[Zendrya]

he felt about me. At that moment I knew that I liked him too. That's the day we started unofficially dating. He was a year older than me and I thought my dad wouldn't approve so we hung out as friends until February 17th 2013. I asked my dad if we could date and he said yes and so it was just understood that we were together. There was no asking out. We go by December 28th as our anniversary though because that is when our relationship really started.

[Asker]

Thankyou

[Anonymous]

I can't do that, usually it's because they've gotten lonely, or want temporary attention.