Now I like the guy I rejected and I feel awful about it?

[nostalgicgirl16]

I met one of my friends through another friend. We'll call him Ken.

Ken, my friend, and I hung out at Six Flags one day and had a great time and that was the first time we ever hung out like that. At school I always said hey, and we sat at the same lunch table but not very close and we kinda kept to our own 'group' during conversation. So I never really noticed him. Then one of my close friends, Bob (Who likes me but I think of him as a little brother) tells me Ken likes me. This surprised me and I thought OK no big deal. I'll say no just like I did with Bob. The next day (day before winter break) Ken asks me out. I was completely calm when this happened with Bob but with Ken I was stuttering and nervous even though I said no. All winter break I kept thinking about 'What if I'd said yes?' and Ken has been on my mind since then.

A bunch of friends and I went out for pizza Friday and Ken sat across from me at the booth. Everyone was teasing us about how cute it was that we were on a date. I laughed about it and playfully threatened them but I couldn't make eye contact with Ken at all. Since he asked me out, I've been talking to Ken more than I ever did and I can't seem to keep myself away from him lately.I think Ken still likes me. Guys if a girl rejected you and you still liked her would you ask her out again or would you go out with her if she changed her mind about you? (or would your pride be too hurt)

[Leeon]

From my perspective I would never ask a girl out again after I had been rejected by her the first time. The only way around it is when she asks me out. The reason I said this is that if a guy had been rejected by a girl than is obvious that she's not interested. The first rejection was already a humiliation and painful. It's not about pride. It's about someone's feelings getting hurt. Look at it this way, you have this feelings for someone and you think they also like you back. You try to build up the confidence and finding the right opportunity to ask that person out. But after you asked them out they rejected you, tell me how does that feel. Would you feel embarrassed, hurt, and betrayed. Why would anyone want to humiliate and hurt themselves the second time around. If you have a change of heart and had feelings for him than you know how to reach him. He would never ask you out again. To understand this you need put yourselves in the other person's shoes. I hope that answer your question.

[nostalgicgirl16]

I didn't mean to hurt his feelings. =( He kinda put me on the spot and I panicked. I just NEVER thought about it and then I started thinking about it and realized I like him but I guess now its too late for that. Did I screw up permanently or can this be fixed?

[Leeon]

You haven't burn all your bridges. Only you can fixed the situation. Find the right opportunity to tell him that you're sorry and you didn't mean to hurt him the sooner the better. Tell him what you just told me that he put you on the spot and you panicked. That you do like him and ask him if he would like to hang out with you and go for a movie or lunch. If you find it hard to tell him in person I advice you write it down in a letter and give it to him in person. Everything will be fine.

[The_Box]

I wouldn't ask her again unless she gave me a very good reason to. I'd need to hear from a friend or something that she liked me.

[nostalgicgirl16]

His friend knows I like him but I don't think theyll tell, even if I didn't ask them to keep it a secret and I'm not close enough with the friend to TELL him to tell about it.

[The_Box]

Well get SOMEONE to tell him then. It should fix everything, but he needs to know for it to work.