What does it mean when he teases you in a mean way?

[Anonymous]

So I have this guy friend who gets along with me very well. He can be a very shy person but he's very open and friendly around me. He is a very sweet guy however, lately he's been teasing me and sometimes even in a mean way. Here are some situations where it's happened:

-he will walk past and glares at me

-if I say something jokingly to another friend like "I will sometimes act dumb if I want to avoid something or someone" then he will look at me and say "act dumb?" and then I will give him that wide mouthed surprised look that means excuse me and he will put on that I'm only joking face, blush and rub my back saying just joking

-once I said to him "You're going to be a loner for your lunch break?" and he turns and says "your face is a loner." I gave him a surprised hurtful look and he turns red, has an apologetic look on his face and says "I'm just kidding." Then he will come find me later and try to make conversation with me

-there was this one time he was being mean to me and when I asked him why he was so mean to me, he told me that he was mean to me because he likes me. I don't know if he was serious or not as I was walking away from him when he told that to me

These are a few examples. I just don't understand why he used to be really sweet and then just recently he is so mean to me. Before when he was really nice to me, I kinda had a slight crush on him, even though he could be gay (I'm not positive if he is because he's never straight out told anyone that he is.) But now that he's being mean to me lately, I don't know what to make of his actions and I'm not sure how I feel about him anymore because what he did made me feel hurt. What does his behavior mean?

[ALWAYSclassy]

Some guys think that being a jerk will get you to like him. This is a guy who should not be taken seriously and ignored at all costs. Seriously, if he is this misinformed to be rude at this point in your friendship, think of how bad it would be to date a guy like that! Just tell him off whenever he says something rude to you. Don't let him have the power to hurt you. Even if it does hurt you don't let him know that. You have to put guys like that in their place and let them know their stupidity gets them nowhere or else he will think it's OK.

[arkansaschick17]

that is how boys flirt.. It is not always fun, but when they feel comfortable enough around you to joke and make fun of you than most of the time they really do like you. :) The fact that he turns red and blushes when you confront him on it is just another sign. He is trying to get your attention by making fun but the last thing he wants is for you to be mad at him.

[Asker]

The only other problem is that he could be gay, which is why his behaviour is confusing me. Can I ask for your opinion? if he is doing all of this from the perspective of an actual gay person, what would it mean?

[arkansaschick17]

Well the only thing I can think is that if he was gay he would not act like that. I have a lot of gay friends and they act completely different then the straight ones. So if he is gay he is a jerk, but honestly I have so many straight guy friends who act like that and it always comes out that they like/liked me. there are other things to look at to see if he likes you like his body language. You might try looking into something like that too..

[monster]

That means he read some crappy "pickup" site and thinks that he should behave like a jerk to have success.