How many times have you been rejected?

[foxsquirrel]

How many times have your approaches, advances been turned down, declined or rejected in one way or the other.

[musicbrain5]

I haven't been single for awhile, but when I was, I was rejected by 5 guys. Two of them said I was too ugly to date (and guys think only girls want good looking partners, wtf. And I'm not ugly btw), one said I was a gold digger (how he determined that without even going out is a mystery), and the other two said they don't go out with women who approach them.

I was never approached by men ever, so I've never rejected anyone. I was determined to become an old spinster until one of my guy friends made a bold move and kissed me.

[kangaru]

No you are definitely not ugly and don't look like a gold digger to me too.

Yes exactly, guys here always claimed girls go for looks and I believ both genders do.

[musicbrain5]

Thank you! At least those guys were honest.

And yes, guys say girls only want attractive model type partners, yet they are rejecting the average looking girls themselves.

[kangaru]

your welcome:)

we all are attracted by someone physical appearance at initial stage just that the attractive level varies.

[Nana_4]

I've been approached and all, but after the approach and talk, I'm the one left hanging.

I also feel bad, but I have done a lot of rejecting, mostly to strangers I meet on public transportation. I don't mean to be rude, but they're creeps and I wasn't ready if they weren't. I'm a shy, inexperienced girl.

[Nana_4]

- I never approach, sadly.

[Bbbella]

1) my brothers friend rejected me with "i can't your my best friends little sister"

2) guy at music shop after one date used "I just can't date at this time, I'm too busy"

3) asked a guy out at work via text message and he just ignored me, and still does now everyday

[kheserthorpe]

I don't know. When I was single, I'd more kind of flirt etc and see if they flirted back and go from there. I don't remember getting a lot of outright rejections. I guess some kind of obviously de-escalated, and others I did the same.

If I were single again though, I'd be more direct, and I wouldn't keep count.

If I told you there was a slot machine you could play for free that paid out once every 50 pulls, you'd go play happily. You wouldn't pull once, not win, and go home crying 'it doesn't like me'.

[UncleScrooge]

I don't generally approach women, but I would say my success rate has been maybe... 12%?

I find it interesting that the vast majority of women who answered can count their rejections on one hand, while nearly all of the men have lost count. I guess that's because women don't generally approach men, or perhaps because women are more careful about who they pursue.

[Krypt0nite]

Twice ha ha it destroys... never again.

One guy was so rude about it :/ I was crazy about him (not forward, manic crazy), I only had eyes for him but what he did and said just tore me up and I never saw him (or myself for that matter) in the same way again, I just retreated into my shell. People ... such bastards sometimes.

[foxsquirrel]

I'm sorry for that.

[Krypt0nite]

Ah no prob :) I can laugh about it now

[Asor_ducks]

And what did he say to you?

[sovetskii13]

Zero. Never approached a girl. Never will. I wanna be single forever. I thought hard before making that decision.

[kangaru]

Why

[foxsquirrel]

Ye, why?

[sovetskii13]

Numerous reasons. Some include never being liked, very little experience with girls, and it just seems easier not having to go through all the hard stuff with girls when I can still accomplish everything myself. Except having babies. No offense intended.

[Anonymous]

Every time I've ever asked a girl out I've been rejected except for once, my first and only girlfriend when I was 11, she dumped me after a month and half. Probably at least 10 rejections in total. 2 girls even shared a laugh with their friends when I asked them out.

[tokioangel95]

Twice, one time I asked a guy out...it awkwardly backfired, and one time when I was 13 I asked a guy to dance and he disgustedly said no haha.

[foxsquirrel]

I can't believe a guy was disgusted about the idea of dancing with you. You look like a hot blond. Unless of course the girl in the picture is not you!

Me I was rejected twice at least and they were the only 2 I asked. :) Well another few times when I dated or have been in relationship the girls orchestrated everything one way or another.

[tokioangel95]

yes the image is me, but I was a lot different at 13

[ImSoSozzled]

A ton. Getting over your fear of rejection is one of the best ways to improve yourself (and not just with the opposite gender).

[30YearOldVirgin]

Iv been rejected about 2 dozen times in my life I would say.

Then again I haven't approached a lot of women for a guy my age.

And I realize now the mistakes I was making before. And why my low self esteem was instantly turning them off.

[guitar903]

Please... Get over yourself

[T-shirtsandkneehighs]

You're so meeean

[ImSoSozzled]

Don't mind guitar903...he's one of those sad individuals that just goes around giving short, dickish answers and comments. Somehow he is single...

[T-shirtsandkneehighs]

He is not sad, I think he's great

[hotstudlovercupcake]

gitar903 but dress nice but those see my visions

[confugirl]

3 times. And those were all of my approaches. Once I like someone, I don't let go easily and I keep thinking about him for months. So I don't approach other guys for a long time afterwards.

[kangaru]

same as me

[hLovebughelp123]

One time. I don't approach guys but I was I 12 and my classmates told him after one of my friends slipped up.

[Phoenix1991]

Jeez, I wished I knew the actual number but I don't but if I had to take a guess, probably 10 times or more.

[T-shirtsandkneehighs]

I've never been rejected. Let's hope it stays that way

[foxsquirrel]

We have a champion then :)

[hotstudlovercupcake]

me to hun

[Anonymous]

Zero. I never approached a guy and I think I never will.

[foxsquirrel]

They come in all shapes and sizes I'm sure that there is a category that fits your description ;)

[Opinion Owner]

Yes, there's a category that fits my description :) But I don't have courage to approach them and I also don't know how to talk with them. Plus, I have a feeling that I will be rejected. I know I shouldn't think this way but I can't help it.

[foxsquirrel]

Well I understand. Try to test the water first to see the reaction without totally having committed yourself into saying that you like him or that you want to get out with him.

[Opinion Owner]

That's a good suggestion. I will try to do it next time, thanks :)

[Anonymous]

More times than I can count. It doesn't bother me. The only times I focus on are the times I was successful.

[kangaru]

Hmmm once ..I was like 12 and I didn't approach him he was my classmate who heard from another I liked him

[Anonymous]

I've never really approached since most guys turn gays these days! How sad!

[foxsquirrel]

Oh come on I don't think that is a good excuse. Find another reason to tell us why you wouldn't approach men.

[Opinion Owner]

nah not an excuse! it's a fact! By the way I'm not American so I don't know if it's common for American society to accept homosexual or bisexual but it's surely common here. The reason I don't approach men is because I'm too shy, ugly and not confident to do so. I only make an eye contact but if they look away then I give up! :P

[AndyWes]

There's not really a significant amount of homosexual guys in the USA, only 4% of the population or so. And if you approach white guys and avoid blacks, your odds of finding a gay guy are even slimmer. link

[Opinion Owner]

cool I'm moving there then! hehe

[hotstudlovercupcake]

Im really but date one time make feel better.

[hotstudlovercupcake]

I mean I'm not really gay but go out with you once to feel specail

[Anonymous]

5 times, but then I stopped approaching because the guys at my school started saying I was a hoe for approaching so much (I didn't know 5 was a lot). Since then I haven't approached at all and I most likely won't ever again.

[GoodManDave]

WHAT?! Those guys are morons. I'm (probably) an old guy (to you), and my opinion may not matter, but... I don't know in whose little world that simply asking out guys (and getting rejected by them) makes you into a "ho." If you sleep with 50 guys within your high school life, or you get money or special favors for sleeping with a guy, then yeah, you'd get a reputation. But for just asking guys out? Forget them. They're idiots.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah I guess you're right. I'm not really scared to approach after I get my courage up but I really hate being judged by people so I guess I'll just do my approaching outside of school.

[gotoku15]

About 5 or six times for a whole number of different reasons

[foxsquirrel]

Mention, all the reasons. :)

[gotoku15]

Girl was not interested, She was interested but I left it to late, She was already going out with one of my friends.

[voit3]

Can't think of any time. I never hit on girls at random, they gave a hint first.

[Calex]

I haven't been rejected a lot.

I've only rejected someone once, and it was someone I really liked too.

I'm so weird.

[Anonymous]

1,456 times. All types of women. I work out, keep my self groomed well, etc. I'm pretty sure someone will tell me that its my 100% my fault. When you can't succeed at something in life and you're a guy, everyone blames you.

[moviedude714]

Not enough, I think I should endure more and treat it like the lottery