How many times have you been rejected by someone in your life?

[Anonymous]

And what did you learn and so on

[Faith18letsgo]

I’ve been rejected 18 times. I’m glad for it because I’m less scared to put myself out their because I’ve learned 18x that the world goes on.
1) I told my crush’s (L’s) best friend (B) that I liked her. She did not say anything back.
2) I told my best friend (N) that I liked her. She asked how she could help me kill this crush.
3) I asked my best friend (N) if I could kiss her. She said no.
4) I asked my friend M to prom she asked what the English homework was and then when the prom was.
5) I asked my friend (K) if she wanted to go see end game with me in theaters she told me she had already planned to see it with her boyfriend but I could join them. I declined.
6) I asked my ex boyfriend (C) if I could kiss him and he said no, he was exclusive with someone else.
7) I asked my girlfriend (K) if she wanted to get boba with me, she said she was busy.
8) I asked my girlfriend (K) if she wanted to come over for home made white hot chocolate with the Starbucks recipe she likes, she said she was too busy.
9) I asked my girlfriend (K) if she wanted to go bowling together she said no.
10) I asked my roommate (C) to kiss me and she leaned in but then jerked back and said she tried but couldn’t bring herself to do it.
11) I asked my roommates boyfriend (A) to give me a hickey but he said no.
12) I went to my friends with benefits’s (A’s) room to say goodbye for winter break and he said he could kiss me but they were brushing their teeth.
13) I lied next to my friend (R) on his bed and he asked me to not cuddle so close to him.
14) I told my roommate (C) that working out made me horny so then my gym buddy (J) stopped going with me.
15) I lied to my friend (N) so they said they could never trust me again.
16) I freaked out when my friends with benefits (Z) came on my hand so then we stopped messing around like that.
17) My girlfriend (K) said my dislike for her best friend (J) and my constantly trying to break them up meant we couldn’t be together.
18) I texted my ex boyfriends (L)’s mom (J) who I thought was totally hot but she left me on delivered.

[SnowedIn]

This is a beautifully impressive list!

[MCheetah]

@Faith18letsgo
It's much harder to get a woman to like you than a man, even for lesbians like yourself.

[Faith18letsgo]

MCheetah, that’s facts.

[Faith18letsgo]

SnowedIn, thank you!!!

[Cynicaldreamer]

More than I care to admit. Put it this way: I knew was the "friendzone" was before it became a common term, I got rejected so much.

It taught me that you're not everyone's type. No, not everyone will find a relationship or love, contrary to what social media, movies, and books brainwashed us into believing as kids. And no matter what a "catch" you are, that doesn't mean people are entitled to like or want to date you... but you still go on with your life. Rejection sucks, it hurts, but eventually you get over it.

[kramchancel]

its useless to worry about their well-being. No, seriously there is no point even IF you really care about them. This girl rejected me, being a dumbass, I was worrying whether her rejecting me and me ignoring her did damage to her mental health and what not. I reconnected with her to apologize for ignoring her and offered to see her face to face. She said sure but I can only do it at a certain time. I said ok let me know when you are availabe... certain time came, not even a phone call, text or anything. fcking coward. SO yes if you got rejected by someone, don't even bother with them. You are not in their priority list. If anything you are on the list of "folks that will give me attention"

[MCheetah]

Probably thousands of times, if we're counting online dating, which I do. As far as "what did you learn?" My height makes it near impossible to find love, and that's made me more cynical in life. There is literally nothing I can do to correct being stuck at 180 cm (or less), so there is nothing I can do about it, but move on with life. And I guess, try not to harbor that resentment within me, not that I blame women for not wanting to date a midget, but I do blame myself for not avoiding ending up as one.

[Summeroflove]

People have rejected me before. Sure. Romantically and just as a person. Whatever. Not everyone will like you. No point in trying to force them

[Apple1996]

a lot of times especially in my preteen/teen years. It got to the point where I thought I'd never be able to date anyone

[Aerissa_Jade]

Lots, and what I learned is, it doesn't matter... like any other thing in life, if you fail at it, you get better next go around.

[AviatorTom]

Enough times to know what rejection feels like, to realize that it's part of life, not my fault, and that when it happens, it's time to move on.

[Belgie]

More than I can count. You have to though. You have to get rejected so often that the rejection doesn't bother you. Then and only then can you take a crack and anything that catches your fancy, and count your blessings if it works out.

But at least you always know, and never spend ages wondering what if.

[SnowedIn]

More times than I can remember or outline.

Sometimes you learn nothing: there's nothing to learn; the rejection was entirely them. Maybe it was something they didn't like about me but not all things can or should be changed. Or maybe they dumped me for a guy they liked better -- that's not call for me to change.

Otherwise, learn to communicate. Learn to be confident. Don't be so confident. Be all in. Not clingy or needy.

[XHopelessRomanticX]

Many times! But I’ve also had my fair share of doing the rejecting. I’ve learned that I’m not going to be everyone’s cup of tea, and not everyone is going to be mine. Dating is not always going to lead to a romantic relationship, and that’s okay.

[surebruh]

Many times! When I was younger it was a blow to my self esteem and hurt. As I got older I saw in most cases relationships are just a numbers game, I used to say something like "there is 7 billion people in the world, not one person is special" :D

[Anonymous]

If we’re talking romantically and sexually rejected, only a handful of times. It’s normal to be rejected by some people. Not everyone wants to be with you. So I tried to never take it too personally. Although one person who rejected me, I took it quite hard. I was in love with him for a year before having to force myself to stop feeling that way.

[Mimi_loves_her]

I have never got rejected and I have 9 or 10 exes only like 3 or 4 broke up with me out of those 3 or 4 two of them broke my heart and the rest I either broke their heart on purpose or on accident or to like 1 or 2 of them broke up with them and didn’t break their heart.😅😅

[Mimi_loves_her]

So never

[Heolurt]

If I also include all the times I was left unread deleted, read deleted, read, on dating sites, then I'd say a rough estimate would be 4digits for sure and even without counting all the online dating rejections, the number is still that high. I learnt not everyone is meant to or will ever find someone out there for them. Sometimes giving up is the only thing to do.

[DarkCarousel]

Many times— but only a few meaningful times. It was like a rewiring of thought, to undo all the imagined possibilities. Took some time to recover from the hurt of rejection but eventually you move forward.

[Snakeyes7]

Too many to count. The most common reason I was given was that they were already taken. Other than that they don't tell me why becuase of ghosting or something similar. I am sure there are lessons I need to learn but I don't know what to work on unless I know what they are.

[letuswaltzforthedead]

Uh, exact number I don't remember but I'll say anywhere from 2-6 times to be safe.

I've learned to be confident but not too confident, to work on yourself first, and that I don't/didn't know crap about dating or men in general

[DenizLikesTennis]

I never ever count rejections for the sake of my self-esteem and well-being. Not needed for my knowledge. Out of all, what I have learned was, that people are very different and it takes some time to find your mate

[TenderFantasy]

A lot. It's not even about romantic rejections. It can be about work or job. It can be about ANYTHING. It sucks. I don't know why God (if he does exist), allows rejections sometimes even no sensical or unfair and discriminatory ones!

[Anonymous]

For many women being rejected means: "He didn't approach me", "He made out/had sex with me, but didn't commit". They still got some sexual pleasure. For many men being rejected means: "She didn't go out with me", "She dodged my kiss", "She led me on". I know men and women are different, but the dating world is a lot harsher for young men than for young women.

[NathanDavis]

never...

and what I learned is that, if I never ask anybody out... I won't get rejected, lol...

[exitseven]

Do you mean rejected by the same person? If I got rejected I never went back for another helping.

I have probably been rejected 10-15 times. One time it really was painful.

[Reece12345]

I've been rejected so many times. What did I learn? That people with autism don't have much hope in finding someone. We're not good talkers.

[mobiusforniner]

More times than I can count...

As for actual relationships... I've been dumped twice. Been the dumper twice.

[Anonymous]

Enough to know what it feels like and enough to know that women will never have to deal with or experience even close to or not even a fraction or even 10th or even a fraction of 1% of rejection that men have to deal with

[LiamJHayden]

Literally hundreds. I learned long ago to cast a wide net and to only worry about the catches, not the misses.

[Anonymous]

I have never personally been rejected, because I have never put myself in situations where I'm subject to being rejected. Mainly because I'm short and since my height is an easy target for rejection, I refuse to let that person be me.

[Anonymous]

Sadly more than j care to count. And honestly some I wish either didn't happen or if they did. I was the emotionless shell I used to be. So it wasn't sad and disheartening. And tbh just think how many different types of rejection there are.

[Jltakk]

Many times, only felt worse after all of them. Just live for myself and leave a good example to my younger siblings to follow.

[Lookitsmadmax1994]

I've been rejected too many times to count. I just moved on.

[Anonymous]

Everytime. What have I learned? To stop asking.

[CoolCatMar1]

3 times by guys who had gfs

[CoolCatMar1]

I didn't know they had a girlfriend then

[Akam93]

A lot but you get use to it.

[alcorriher]

none but have been lied to tons

[Luopio27]

Too many to count. Maybe over a 1000.

[Anonymous]

I have never been rejected.

[cheetocandle]

It's never happened but one day it will.

[Sparkie460]

I lost track how many times

[BJP21]

Its always a constant learning curve.

[EaterPeter]

Ha ha ha, who keeps the count?

[Camson22]

like 4 actual times but id say 5

[Anonymous]

Over 1,000 and counting

[alaska-butterfly]

i have been rejected about five times

[Anonymous]

Just once and it really hurt.🤣

[CateM]

Zero

[AsaKyo]

A lot

[MCheetah]

What number is "a lot?"

[AsaKyo]

@MCheetah I don't know, probably like 100 or more

Couple times in person and a ton of times online, but I've kind of accepted that I'm just not people's type and it's aight lmao

[MCheetah]

A hundred? That's it? 😂 The typical man probably goes through that in like, a single year. Or, half a year.

"I've kind of accepted that I'm just not *some guys* type and it's alright."
Fixed it for ya.

[LemiaOfThunder]

185 times

[LavLavLuv]

Probably once

[KerriH]

Never

[Gabriel-Chicanito]

Plenty.