How often do you get rejected?

[Anonymous]

Not trying

90+ % rejection

70-90 % rejection

40-70 % rejection

Below 40 %

[molonski2]

This is a hard one to answer because rejection is not always rejection and is hard to classify , if I'm single and its possible I go for it , so rejection is probably pretty high , but you can do that here , as reason being , they will think " Ohh he would be good for xyz " this kind of stuff , plus they might be married ( I never have any idea ) , and just keep it fun , so its kinda not straight rejection..

One comes to mind , I had asked her and asked her , it wasn't rejection as such , but it wasn't happening either , maybe 3 years later the planets aligned , and she came to see me in Kho Takiab , well she was sexual dynamite which was something I never expected.

So , there is rejection long and rejection short , and its like being in sales , if you haven't been knocked back a lot , you haven't had a real go. I find an answer nearly impossible to pick.

[Anonymous]

There's obvious and blatant rejection, and then there are the "little rejections." The little things that tell me "Don't you dare try to talk to me." I invite her to sit at my table, she laughs, or rolls her eyes, and walks off. I get grunted at.

Then there's the obvious stuff - like asking her out on a date, and I get shot down (and usually in a way that makes me feel like crap).

I don't bother much (and haven't for a while)

When I was sort of at my best, rejections seem to be around 99+%, which is why I pretty much stopped trying.

[Asker]

Its not nice when people treat you like shit for approaching them, and for that hit rate it is not worth the effort you put into it. If they treat others like that they also will stay single forever, that's for sure.

[linka_pat307]

That is because I have never asked for a guy to be in relationship with me

[Asker]

Guys are supposed to be the ones asking, so as long as you reject them with respect you are doing 👍 .

[linka_pat307]

Ohhh didn't know that

[hopegirly]

Very often i guess
Maybe it is only in my mind but i am not sure

[hopegirly]

I don't mean about partner but about friendships

[Asker]

If you mean they don't show much interest in being friends with you, I would say it's pretty normal nowadays.

[Asker]

People are so into themeselves and their phones...

[hopegirly]

Yes, unfortunately i have to agree :/

[OlderAndWiser]

I've been in a relationship since 2020, but before that, most of my requests for first dates were accepted. Rejection rate less than 25%.

[CozyCoffin]

When I tried, 100%. It’s not that I’ve never tried to ask women out at all. I did from time to time from thirteen to 28. Eventually, I got to a point where it felt like a waste of time. I’m not mad at women or anything remotely like that. I feel no entitlement; it just hit very hard. I tried everything.

I have matched a few times across all dating apps during a ten year period, only matching with bots or women that dropped me for something in the conversation.

During the same time I did other things, too. I cold approached. I invited women I knew either through classes or friends to coffee before asking them out. I met some women at clubs where we danced and talked for them to reject me after they went to the bathroom with their friends. I went up to women at festivals and other events. People say that all it takes is one woman to say yes, but, like getting the Powerball or Megamillions, at some point it becomes a wasted effort.

[blueonblack22]

Men and women have different definitions of “rejection”.

For example some women think that asking a guy who they romantically rejected if they can “just be friends” isn’t rejection. Like it’s laying a guy down with gentle hands. That is actually the worst form of rejection a guy can take. But that’s a different topic

Then some guys think that just hooking up with a girl who really wants a relationship (but is too afraid to give to give a verbal ultimatum) isn’t rejecting her since she gets “moments” of intimacy with him. Some women torture themselves with lofty love expectations that don’t come to fruition. But the guy doesn’t feel like he rejected her just because he hooked up with her. But many women feel wrecked in this scenario. It’s not the guy’s fault if she didn’t speak up but still more experienced/thoughtful guys will tread more carefully here.

[D_Bone_Steak]

I picked not trying. I just sort am around and I sort of sense when a chick wants to get her back broken and that's the only time I'll ask if they're interested in fucking. I sort of approach that situation like "let's make a deal" just to see what's up. Sometimes I'll post myself up online... but they hit me up... I have no idea how many chicks look at me and say "I'll pass." Probably a lot, but I don't give a fuck... It's not like I'm in a pussy desert, and it's their loss. She could've been one of the lucky ones.

[Valentino45]

So I’ve been having a bit of trouble not sure if it’s cuss of stress or lack of sleep or porn addiction but every time me and my girlfriend have sex , We start with the 4play then she would cum and I put it in and we get started. As I’m pounding slowly she gets wetter and somehow I can’t keep up cuss I’m in it raw and next thing you know after a few pumps my shit shrinks and can’t keep up again. Please tell me where I’m wrong. Cuss we did laugh about it but it’s still embarrassing knowing that I want to give her the business but now I don't know if I’m comfortable and in my head a lot with maybe someone could be doing her better

[Asker]

After you cum there is something called "refractory period" which is basically the time it takes for tou to be able to orgasm again. In the case of women it is pretty much non existent, so they can have multiple orgasms one after the other as long as they are stimulated and are in the mood. For men however that time is pretty long, around half a day or so. So that is why you can't keep up after you cum, if thats what you were asking. The effects of porn and masturbation are making you less sensitive, and it therefore will take you a longer time to orgasm. (Which is a good thing in this case?)

[Asker]

In case you can't keep up before you reached orgasm, then perhaps try different positions, lubes, or speeds at which you move it. I guess it depends on the person, but if the attraction is there you should definitely be able to finish properly. Reducing porn and masturbation would also help to make you more sensitive down there.

[LiamJHayden]

Somewhere around 90% because I am the type who will cold-approach a random stranger. My friends hit for much higher percentages, but I take far, far more swings so I end up dating a lot more than they do.

[Asker]

It takes some balls to do that, because it may look weird or seem like you're not serious about it.
So even for 1/10 to work out is impressive for such approaches.

[BoopBoopBeep]

And you didn't die. I don't get people who never swing then complain they didn't hit a home run. One necessitates the other. Good job man. Swing away.

[Asker]

I don't complain, but as of now I'm considering my options and therefore its interesting to know how others manage. I'm not an extrovert and the success rate will probably be 1% if I do it this way. As well, from my understanding girls prefer other kind of approaches.

[LiamJHayden]

@Asker I do not find it difficult. I just expect most to decline and don't care because there are so many women out there. I am also nice after they do so, and sometimes the girl, or one of her friends, will come over to me later and engage.

[aceleon]

never rejected, i never went for girls who were not already interested in me and sometimes had girls find girls for me so i never really had to chance to get rejected.

[Asker]

That are some good social skills!

[aceleon]

i just don't play games i might lose.

[Asker]

Yeah, but I meant not everyone has those female friends to find girls for them... and that obviously makes it harder and more risky.

[Asker]

Either way I don't think anyone is already interested in me.

[aceleon]

my advantage here is i always find it rather easy to have female friends for some reason, it was male friends who was and still hard to find for me.

[NathanDavis]

never been...

But is not like I go around asking people out... most of the second half of my life I've been with someone, in a relationship

[deus_ex_sisyphus]

Online or in person? in person, I am usually 80% effective at being able to walk away from an interaction with the same girl's number. Although online, I'd be lucky if I could get 4/10 interactions leading to a phone number.

[Asker]

80% is a lot... Either you are extremely attractive or approach girls you already know are into you.

[deus_ex_sisyphus]

I work out and I make it a point to take care of myself; everyone could and should do what I do. But let me ask you this, how often outside of virtual means, do you make an honest attempt to strike up a conversation and make a genuine connection?

[exitseven]

i was unemployed for over a year because of covid. I had a hundred remote interviews and a couple of dozen in person ones. I was rejected from all of them except the last one.

[PeachyPie93]

Most the time I get rejected, since I am not willing to put out without commitment.

[KrakenAttackin]

When I was dating, I almost never got rejected in person, online is a different story. Being alone becomes addictive just as being in a relationship becomes addictive.

[TheSpaceGnome]

I've never been rejected.

I've been cheated on and lied to, but never rejected.

[JHAYES317]

Directly? Never…since I don’t ask people out.


Indirectly, like on dating apps? Probably hundreds of times a day…

[Anonymous]

Well, I mean... when your name's Chad, you've got the suave hair done up, skinny butt crack pants, left eye wink and metrosexualism perfected... how can they ever resist?😉

[Vegasrunner]

Probably about 70% of the time which would easily put me in the top 1%

[grega239]

So often i take it for granted. Not even trying

[muscles_glasses]

I go on a loy of first dates but never get a second

[muscles_glasses]

lot of*

[Jmmmfi4]

WELL I LITERALLY NEVER TRY SO 7 DAYS A WEEK

[Monalisa77]

Probably everyday, not necessarily by blokes.

[Monalisa77]

But I've never asked anyone out. I've never been out truly rejected, i just dont get replies to messages.

[Monalisa77]

and I've only sent a handful of messages and some i dont even know if they got them or read them.

so yes i dont really count it as a rejection

[Asker]

You mean you meet someone, get their number and send their messages they don't answer?

[Monalisa77]

Yeah, or social media. But the 1 i got their number from a whatsapp group, it was just a friendly message and i hadn't given them any sign irl i liked him

[Sonorous]

Never because I've never asked anyone out.

[IslaTheWitch]

never happen, lol

[Nikki1989]

Never.

[Katebfun]

Not trying. I surrender 🤣😅

[ChicoFromThe305]

Its never really happened to me 🤔

[TiaNour]

Never rlly, I don’t ask anyone out 💀

[JHAYES317]

Neither do I but I’m a guy so it’s worse lol…though I guess if someone don’t respond to a message, technically I guess you could consider that rejection in which case I get rejected nearly every single time.

[serious_miss419]

“but I’m a guy so it’s worse lol”
?

[Asker]

Its probably worse because guys are supposed to take the first step. If he doesn't, no one will.

[serious_miss419]

Take a step for what?

[Starrrboy]

Never happened.. I'm very calculated 🤣..

[wiltingrosepetal]

50% ig

[pickles77]

Rarely, I mainly go for girls who already like me.

[Chthou95]

Most women dont get rejected. Only men do

[Akam93]

95 percent for me.

[Anonymous]

For sex?

[Asker]

For asking somebody out

[Opinion Owner]

Oh dw worry about it. U will find someone

[PrettyCrumblBb]

Never.

[legalboxers]

I lost count