Approaching a girl in a coffee shop?

[Anonymous]

Is this a good idea? I've sometimes been tempted to ask a girl if it's OK if I could sit at her table. The tables at starbucks are so small though so it seems kind of weird to sit so close to someone I just introduced myself to, but oh well. Girls, are you OK with a guy asking if he can sit at your table and then tries to get to know you a little bit? Is it OK to directly ask?

[martyfellow]

In my teen years, this was considered ok..but not today, people are much more..hostile, I would say.

You might well be accused of stalking or something if you tried that in Starbucks these days.

But that doesn't mean you couldn't try it, if you have vibes that she wouldn't be against the idea.

I mean, if she has smiled at you or something like that, or if you know her from somewhere else.

But if it's completely a 'cold' approach, with no previous contact and no signals given by her...it's more than I would chance. But if you're feeling lucky..go for it, I say.

Good luck my man! There's no law against it--not quite, anyway. Hopefully she won't pull out her phone and contact Obama to have an air strike on you.

[Cromartie]

It actually is a horrible idea. Usually while people talk about meeting others in coffee shops and their ilk it's sort of a rare thing and generally speaking the person in question is busy and not really looking to hear your nonsense to begin with. Places that are not dateshops tend to stay that way.

You can be courteous and strike up a conversatoin with anyone but doing so just to get to any form of "I wish your panties would slip off" without being damn near psychic is just not going to work.

[Daph81]

If the place is busy and all tables are filled, then I surely won't mind sharing a table- But if the place is not that full and there were plenty of vacant tables, then it would be obvious why he wants to sit at my table. If that's the case, if I like him, I'd let him sit. But if I'm not interested and just want to do my thing or just not in a chatty mood, then I'd say no. But yeah I agree with a small table it's usually already filled with my coffee and my book, so it would be uncomfortably tight if he also sits there and does his own thing. If the table is bigger I wouldn't mind.

[Solitude2]

I have been approached at coffee shops/cafes a few times but I never go back to those coffee shops/cafes again because those who approach me are guys working there and I'm really not interested in them,And I can't chew my food properly when they keep looking at me.

One exception is that unless that guy is already my crush.Otherwise it is a bad idea although I feel very flattered.And you won't even know if the girl is single or not and might get into trouble if she isn't,right?:)

[Anonymous]

May as well give it a shot and see how it goes. It'll be an experience at least. It's a bit hard though, because everyone has their own stuff going on, either reading, listening to music, studying, being on their laptop, etc. I'd make casual conversation and gauge how she reacts to that. If she seems comfortable and happy to talk, go from there. I wouldn't randomly sit at a girl's table, though.

[cavmanier]

I think it makes sense if you can do it in a comfortable way. It's a gamble.

[yopyopyop]

You can still try. But don't be astonished, if you get turned down ;)

[Anonymous]

You could just as well write then an anonymous letter - both are horrible ideas, no matter what girls say

[kangaru]

Y not :)