I am a black woman into white men help?

[Anonymous]

I am really attracted to white men, have always been, I literally have no interest in black men, it actually annoys me that they hit on me. I even like Asians and Hispanics, I love diversity, I have attempted to date black men, but it felt like I was settling, and I don't want to do that to myself anymore. My problem is that I don't think white guys are into me, I'm chocolate toned, I have a big nose, big lips, I'm super small " athletic build", I have a baby face, and I have a faux bob haircut, plus I have a small gap. I have a little a** and I am a b cup, honestly not much to offer. I think if a white guy wants a black girl he's typically looking for one that has something to offer like an 'a**'. Or that he'd prefer someone with a small nose, small lips and that's at least light skinned. I do see white guys stare at me, but I don't think their attracted, there are a lot of other beautiful black women, so why would they look at me...I have good personality, I'm super nice, very independent, goofy, I will say I'm different, and others say so as well ...My love for white men, is strong, I think if I don't eventually meet some, I will be alone for the rest of my life..please give me some real advice! I will select a best answer-er

[Anonymous]

Correct me if I'm wrong, but you don't do anything to help your cause, do you? I may be reading too much into the "why would they look at me" line. You can't just sit there and expect things to happen. Similarly to what 1stPlace wrote, how would a guy know what you're into? Because most black women want nothing to do with white guys and white guys know this. Most aren't going to unnecessarily be shot down, so you'll have to pick up a little slack by going out and flirting with them and getting the word out that you prefer white guys or Asian guys or whatever.

Your description doesn't sound bad at all by the way.

I think your taste is a little strange considering what a lot of other girls are into, but the opportunities will be there.

[Cottoncandydreams]

" most Because most black women want nothing to do with white guys and white guys know this. "

aw buddy not true...

[pickledxtofu]

It's actually the other way around. Black women do have interest in white men, but white men aren't interested in black girls

[Opinion Owner]

@cottoncandy: The keyword is "most" so that is true. I didn't say all.

@pickled: lol No

Let's not pretend white guys are popular among black women. "It's actually the other way around." lol gtfo with that. This site isn't a proper representative of that population. Something you mention quite a bit. I suppose that's only true when you say it is, eh?

[pickledxtofu]

Well:

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[Opinion Owner]

It's the internet. I could post links to white guys into black women, and plenty of black women that are turned off by white guys.

Post more. It's baseless. We're talking actual perceptions. Not whatever you can scrounge up on the internet. You can find groups of anything on here. Surely you're not that stupid.

[pickledxtofu]

You won't find as many threads from black women bashing white men as you will white men bashing black women. Furthermore, statistics show black women are the least likely to date or marry interracially while white men are the most likely to date or marry interracially.

It's not a cultural thing, because if it was white men would not approach Asian or Hispanic women.

I should also note that you're being defensive because you're assuming I'm implying racism when I'm not.

[Opinion Owner]

I didn't assume you were implying racism. I just think you're a dolt. That's all.

You'll find quite a few threads actually. But again, it's the internet. You can find anything here. Maybe you are that stupid. I can't tell anymore.

I know about and agree with the statistics you're providing. However, you just take them for what they are and couldn't possible care less what the reasons are behind it. The fact that most black women are almost exclusive to black men has nothing to do with it, huh?

[pickledxtofu]

Nope. Because there are no stats on that at all. It seems to me like you are taking this as racism which is why you're trying to blame black women in this instance.

White men are open to Hispanic and Asian but not black. There's nothing wrong with it. It's simply not politically correct to say.

The stats stand as they are. But you're looking much deeper into it to avoid white men being labeled as "racist"(when again, this has nothing to do with racism)

[Opinion Owner]

What am I saying that makes you think that I'm taken it as racism? I never said that. However, I do know you're a shit stirrer. That could be it

You have to look deeper at the stats because that's the whole basis of my answer, isn't it? Who looks at stats and takes it as face value all of the time? That makes little sense.

I'm not blaming black women. They can have whatever preference they so desire. It is what it is. If they want to stay loyal to a group of men that aren't that loyal to them..

[pickledxtofu]

The personal attacks made you lose credibility, but whatever helps you sleep at night

[Opinion Owner]

lol Typical pickled.

[Asker]

I guess I don't lol, but I mean they could be thinking anything when looking at me so I don't act on it. I guess I do need to take a chance "pick up the slack". and Thank You :)

[1stPlace]

As a black guy, I'm not offended that you don'like black guys as I am really into Latina women myself. What I find odd is when you say you are annoyed when they try talking to you. How us a guy, black or not, supposed to know ahead of time what your tastes in men are?

[Asker]

I don't expect them to, but when black guys approach me it is a very cocky way, like they just know I want them, and then act offended when I say I'm not. And many black guys date outside their race, my x-boyfriend was into Asians why he was with me I don't know XD

[1stPlace]

Okay, so you're speaking of a very specific type. Confident. Perhaps, arrogant. Some may even be in a really good mood at the time when deciding to flirt witha girl. A few experiences like that, I xan understand why someone would begin to feel repelled when the next wants to talk to her, as she feels he'll be like the other guys.

[1stPlace]

*can

[Asker]

Possibly, but I never really had good experiences with black guys so that may be the problem as well.

[Shameneyes]

Whoa, slow your boat before this becomes a fetish... color doesn't mean he won't be attracted to you and it certainly doesn't predestined his sense in what he finds attractive. Guys like the "generic" features of women, but each guy has his own personal taste. You're golden if you just worry about taking care of your body from a hygienic stand point. As a woman, you have a lot to offer, just be strong.

[Shameneyes]

Thank you for best answer :0

[pickledxtofu]

Most white men are not interested in black women. If a white man is open to IR dating he'll do the approaching. White men have no problem approaching Hispanic and Asian women, so it's not due to a cultural difference.

There's typically a lack of interest.

I guess you could try online dating though.

[pickledxtofu]

oh, by the way, this response is neither antagonistic nor offensive. I offered her a different perspective. it may not be with what YOU agree with (which is why you have the option of downvoting), but I answered the question and even gave her a suggestion. FYI

[Asker]

Yes, I kind of agree...that is why it's so hard, but some do, and they don't do the approaching, a lot of white guys think black girls aren't interested...i didn't think it was due to cultural differences because everyone has a different way of living. I've done online dating before, It just isn't for me, I also feel like its a cop out.

[pickledxtofu]

I've never done internet dating but I can see where it can go wrong in many ways.

I guess, just make it obvious when you're interested in a guy. Eye contact & smiling help. Treat them like you would any other guy

[Asker]

:) thanks

[rosequartz24]

White men approach me and my fiance is white, so they obviously propose to us as well. Lol. delusional to think and believe that "black women are the least desirable" OKCupid study. OKCupid need to come up with a study to find out why they stay in my face then? They approach me the most. I know it probably makes you feel better to believe we're all fat & ugly to non-black men though, so I'll leave you be. ;)

[puffthemagicdragon]

Im black and I love all men no matter the race. I dated a white guy. Its just skin color. Go for it!

[DodgersGM]

There's lots of white guys out there that are attracted to black women (I happen to be one, but that's not why I'm chiming in).

Just hang in there, and only date people you're interested in. Being true to yourself is the priority. Good luck!

[IvorBiggun]

As a white guy myself I would say most of us are intimidated by black girls mostly for one reason - and that is there’s a belief that white guys have a smaller penis than black guys. We don’t want to jump in bed with someone who will be critiquing our manhood and comparing the size to their previous lovers.

[abundantlyrich]

You might find someone here in GAG who's into you.

[pickledxtofu]

This is true. Everyone on here 'likes black girls'

[abundantlyrich]

lol look if she can't find a nice one in real life, she might find it just here.

[Asker]

lol, sometimes what you see online isn't what you get.

[abundantlyrich]

yes people lie too much in online dating websites, that's why I suggest here where you can befriend someone first before you ask them out.

[Asker]

:) it just isn't for me lol, but thanks for the advice

[Anonymous]

The best thing to do is try online dating. There are interracial sites that can cater for your wants

[Anonymous]

You don't find black guys attractive?

[Asker]

No, I don't, and if I do it's rare.