As a White man how do I approach a Black women in hopes for a relationship?

[Table4YTwo]

Just gonna give some history so y'all can understand my deal.

I was adopted by a black lesbian couple, I was raised by them for 18 years, I have 2 siblings both are older sisters that are from my moms other relationships.

I grew up in a predominately white neighborhood in a very culturally black family. I feel detached from people of my own color so much that I don't actually find white women attractive, I have only ever found black people attractive because of my family.

I am not very social though because I am autistic and I suffer from a lot of social anxiety, My moms didn't really know how to help me with socializing too much and I am scared people might think I am fetishizing black women since I am white.

I have found that I do not really know how to approach these women, I also don't seem to be ery approachable? Any advice?

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1 y

I can tell some people have not read the full info, I do not approach white women, I do not find them attractive

[Guy13]

Try hello with sincerity. Lose the stereotype “all out crazy black women”. Listen more and talk less…

[Avicenna]

Since you’re on the spectrum, this may be the defining factor for you rather than race.

[Table4YTwo]

I may be on the spectrum but I have a Doctorate, a house and no student debt I also have a good paying job would that help to balance my chances since I am on the spectrum?

[Avicenna]

Of course it would. As you know, black women like it when a man handles his business. I don’t think you have as much to worry about because of your background, but tell women about it right away- I think it actually works in your favor.

[Duck_Riddell]

Man, talk to her like you would a white girl. They gonna be some douches out there but dont listen to them. Listen to your moms. Theyll surely support you.

[Duck_Riddell]

wups my bad my guy. Yeahh definitely, dont do what i said. Just talk to her the way youd talk to anyone. But still dont care what others gotta say about it

[FunkyMonkee]

What does skin colour have to do with it? Think of her as woman, first.

[FunkyMonkee]

Ask your sisters. Practice on them. Besides, if you happen to fall in love with one, you CAN still get married since, you're adopted.

[skeetskeetskeet]

You got an uphill battle there... black girls don't really go for white guys that much... maybe if you start saying my nigga a lot

[Hulk30]

check out the book of alpharonomy dr. boa on youtube but what i would do is just use your white privledge and ya should be good

[RonnieRay357]

As a white man. Treat her as if there is skin tone involved. Tell her your intentions. If you believe she is beautiful, say so.

[Anonymous]

Approach the same way any other race, they will reject you the same as all women do by your looks not your color , just keep trying

[crossdressingrihno]

Ok let me explain why this might be an issue.

He's White but he grew up in a black family.
Pardon my example but an example must be made.
If white person were to say *sup nigga how ya doin?* They would likely be veiwed in negative light where someone who is black wouldn't. However that said because of the family he grew up with something like that may or may not be seen as "normal" however to the outsiders without this background knowledge he may just come off as a racist.

[Opinion Owner]

@crossdressingrihno well I guess you have to act a certain way or they think something is wrong with you. You just don’t know which black women will be attracted to you unless you try, I was married to a black woman , she just happened to like white men, but I met her online

[Birdlegs]

@crossdressingrihno if anybody black, white, or anything else says “sup nigga how ya doin” to me I’m calling the police😭😭

[SeekingVirginWife]

Go to the black church. good wamen there,.

[Table4YTwo]

I choose to avoid church since I come from lesbian parents, we went a few times when I was 12 but it got pretty violent at times.

[Anonymous]

You approach the same as anyone else.

[Table4YTwo]

This is not true I have been peppered sprayed and called a fetishist/racist for approaching

[Anonymous]

Can you approach white woman?

[Anonymous]

The same way you would approach any other race.