My girlfriend doesn't want to get intimate?

[WannaBeStranger]

Hey all,

I am in this relationship and everything is fine. She loves me a lot so do I. We are in the same college. But the thing is whenever my talks come to intimacy she ignores it. And on asking why she just says she doesn't want to do this before marriage at any cost. She asks me to leave her if I am not happy but she can't get intimate. She says she doesn't LIKE it and doesn't WANT to. Also she says she can't see me sad due to this. Now how is that possible to not get want I want and don't even get sad. :/

So people please help me out with the correct reason with explanation so that I can figure what's going and also tell me what should I do.

Another thing is tell me the average time of the relationship to get intimate.

[Gerduxas]

If you really like her (more like, love her), you will wait until she makes up her mind. And if she likes you, I could bet you that yes, she does want to get intimate and yes, she does like it. However, she might only be saying that so she could control herself better. Do you know her family and background? Maybe she's very religious or wants to make sure that you won't leave her right away? Or maybe she wants to make sure that she can support a baby before getting all intimate, because, admit it, there's always a chance she could get pregnant (as a matter of fact, I was an 'accident', my parents used condoms and were both just about adults, my mum was 19 and my dad was 20 when I was born). So, just talk it through, ask her reasons for this choice she made and I'm sure both of you will feel better. :)

[WannaBeStranger]

Yeah you are right. Also I am doing the same. Supporting her and giving her time to make up her mind. And she isn't afraid of a baby but I guess I will wait. I truly love her and I can wait till marriage for all this. But just her saying she DONT LIKE made me sad. Well I guess I will control myself. Thanks anyways. :-)

[pooper89]

Another thing is tell me the average time of the relationship to get intimate.

There is no average time. It's whenever you want to get intimate. Different for everyone.

As for your girlfriend problem, does she kiss you and makeout with you? What about a handy? What does she have to say about that? Her saying she doens't LIKE it seems a bit weird if she loves you.

[WannaBeStranger]

ya she smooches me and lets me do everything above her stomach. She had held mine too. but that's it and says she doesn't like it but does it for me. I told a clear no to her to do it again. I don't want her to do it FOR ME. Rest all NO NO NO. She doesn't talk with me and gets sad and says she feels weird when I have feelings.

[yopyopyop]

It's emotional blackmailing.

Firstly she says not before marriage, then she doesn't like it and doesn't want to.

So there isn't even a guarantee you will get any once married.

Dump her.

[yopyopyop]

Also, from personal experience : sex occurs between the third and the sixth date.

[trouty42]

Break up with her, she doesn't want to have sex before marriage and you do.

[Anonymous]

tell her what you need from her