Why did she give me a wrong number? What did I do wrong?

[Agrojag]

Me and a girl were sitting close to each other in my school's enrollment center. We were both waiting to be seen, so I started talking to her about her classes and all. We chatted for a bit and it was going well. I made her laugh. So then I asked if we could trade numbers so I could give her tips about the school because I had been going there for a while. She said okay and gave me a number. So I waited until I had finished what I needed to do, then I texted her, said hi and asked how her sign up went. Some person replied that I got the wrong number. I don't understand why she did this or what I did wrong. It kind of upsets me because it makes me feel like, no matter what I do, it isn't good enough.

[vmw2008]

That's a little mean, but ultimately she wasn't attracted to you, and didn't know how to tell you in that setting. Since you weren't asking her for her number in a romantic way (but she knew that's probably why you wanted it) she had a hard time saying "no" in a polite way.

I don't mean for this to sound shallow, but are you asking girls far out of your league? Or perhaps are mistaking friendliness for attraction?

[Agrojag]

I guess. I don't believe in "leagues" so I just approach how I think is attractive. I'm not going to lower my standards and try forcing things with people I'm not attracted to. I know I have a lot to offer and they're missing out as much as I am by not giving me a chance. I just wish people were more open. I just wanted to get to know her. I wasn't hitting on her or doing anything crass.

[TouglyforaGF]

Why does it seem Ok for girls even the ugly ones to approach good looking guys out of their league? If a guy does it everyone assumes he's ugly or he's trying to get a date with someone out of his league. No one says much when women do it?

[vmw2008]

Like I said, I didn't want to come across as shallow or make it seem like looks are everything. But, I'll be the first to admit that looks are *something.* So if you're always going after the very attractive, then it might make sense why they are only going after the very attractive. Perhaps if you were more open minded like you want others to be, you might begin seeing results?

[Agrojag]

@vmw2008: I don't know how. I mean, I wouldn't say no to any girl who approached me. I'd always give her a chance. The problem is girls never approach me and I'm not going to go approaching every girl I see because that's just not me. I still get a little nervous approaching girls and it takes a lot of energy to overcome that and be confident and relaxed.

@Tougly: You're right. I've seen girls ask this same question and nobody ever says "maybe it's because you're ugly." It sucks, but I'm used to it by now.

[TouglyforaGF]

@Vmw2008 I disagree it comes off a little shallow telling a non good looking person not to approach good looking people. But that's just me. @ Asker I know the feeling believe me.

[vmw2008]

I wasn't at all trying to give the impression that you're ugly. On the contrary. I just don't typically give that advice to women b/c women never approach, so it's a non issue. I give that advice to men, because I read a research article from a man about men, that they all go for 9's and 10's as their first picks regardless of how they look.

I'm not saying relationships like these can't happen or that you shouldn't try, but you were asking me why this happened and I was trying to give a realistic or helpful viewpoint if you're really looking for a girlfriend. If you don't care that much, then by all means continue. I was giving a real life girl's honest opinion.

[vmw2008]

@TouglyforaGF lol believe me, I've learned my lesson trying to give an opinion next time.

[TouglyforaGF]

@VMW2008 So you don't think girls go after 9 or 10's? Girls can approach but they choose not too.

[TouglyforaGF]

Oh believe me I am ugly Look at my username.

[vmw2008]

I promise, that if a girl who was average or below average, and was approaching a lot, was asking this very question, I would give the exact same response.

Particularly if that girl was only going after 9's and 10's. I'd let her know that you can't expect others to do something you will not do (be open and accepting of looks, when you are targeting the hottest). If it ends up working out, great! But if you're wondering why you keep getting turned down and want something more that you can do to increase your chances of getting a boyfriend, then maybe take a look at the fact that you may be being shallow (the very thing you hope they won't be toward you).

[frozenflame]

Beauty is in the eye of beholder. This hot guy that she would possibly be approaching, could possibly be ugly in your eyes. To tell her who is "for her" or not is impossible. Beauty is totally subjective. There is no law when it comes to approach physically wise. I have guy who are not attractive, and still manage being with a girl who is hot. To her he's probably hot stuff, to other he isn't.

#APPROACHWHOEVERDAFUCKYOUWANT

[Insaan]

Many Girls are delusional hypocrite creatures and i always stay away from them...thank god all girls don't have same mentality.

[TouglyforaGF]

@Insaan Agreed.

[Awsdrd1990]

I've done this a lot of times...it dosent mean the guy did anything wrong.or they said something stupid..

they just wernt my type..dosent mean other girls won't like them..just not me , dont take it personaly..(now you got me thinking bout what those guys thought)..if you though she liked u back or flirted back she was just tryin to be nice

[TouglyforaGF]

How hard is it to say no?

[Agrojag]

It's not good. I felt a lot more upset than if she was honest. I wouldn't have minded a friendship or something. Now I just feel lied to and inadequate.

[Insaan]

In the intention of not trying to hurt, they hurt guys actually more...girls play a lot of mind games nad i hate that.

[Awsdrd1990]

just as hard to say no..especially when the guy is being really nice..well it is for me..when their in my face its weird..and I've known lots of guys that get mad of start being rude because they got shot down..dont say we play games when some guys act very imature and ruin it for others..

[Insaan]

Hypocrisy... You need to go deep to think where you girls go wrong...sorry..i am not impressed witg your statement.

[Awsdrd1990]

im sorry you feel that way, i wasint trying to impress you just giving my point of view..(also dont understand why that would make me a hipocrite) also proving my point on some guys immaturity..

[Insaan]

No you don't need to impress me. I am not criticising only you but many and many.
Just think what will you achieve by giving wrong number? You will give the wrong no. and then go your way. But , when the guy later realises this how he was being fooled, then do you understand how insulting is to him? In what sense will he even standing next to you even as a friend next time? Ignorance by this way or that way...ONE & THE SAME.
I understand doing it to the strangers. But doing with the acquaintances is a foolish move.

[Insaan]

In the end, i am Only saying that giving wrong numbers does not solve the purpose.
It is fine with strangers though.

[MissyMel8]

Hmm that sucks. I would have been honest and just said I didn't know you enough to give out my number, if I wasn't into you. And you refreshed her memory and told her you were the guy from the enrollment center? Go hunt her down in school! lol no just kidding. Yeah I don't know she was just being nice in this case. It happens.

[ImSoSozzled]

Don't take it personally. Give yourself major props for having the balls to ask for her number. A lot of guys wouldn't even be able to do that haha. As sad as it is, most girls are too weak to directly reject a guy, so this isn't that uncommon. Just accept that it's going to happen, treat it as a learning experience and move on.

[TouglyforaGF]

But now this poor guy is going to end up being paranoid every time he gets a number. I know I would be not knowing if its real or made up.

[ImSoSozzled]

Well once he realizes how easy it is to get numbers, he will have so many that he won't care ;)

[TouglyforaGF]

He can make a number collage lol. That or do a night of prank phone calling lol.

[melissa2]

In all honesty everyone on here would call that girl a b word if she said "nope not interested" When he asked for her number. Then this toouglyforagf guy would say something about how all girls are conceited

[TouglyforaGF]

@Melissa2 No your 100% right I would say that because you know what I'm going to say before I say it right? Go listen to One Direction.

[melissa2]

Lolol I don't like one direction at all though

[melissa2]

Ya know you could get a SO if you weren't bitter

[TouglyforaGF]

She listens to One Direction just doesn't want to admit to it.

[Prof_Don]

First guess is that she's taken and didn't want to reject u in case you act like a psycho man (for some reason females fear this a lot).

Second guess is although she enjoyed conversation with you, she didn't find u physically attractive enough for her fancy.

[Anonymous]

That's why when you get a girls number at the spot, you text them at the spot to see if its real and make them look stupid. she could have possibly given you the wrong number by accident... Just one number wrong and you are screw. You could have possibly mis read the number she wrote down with a wrong digit or she thought it was to soon to give it to someone she met our she wasn't feeling you

[Opinion Owner]

Or she want feeling you*

[Shottagyal]

That's happened to me before I have him a fake number and then said my friend had my phone and he was like well let's go over and get it and I just thought, "shit shit shit" lol

[Opinion Owner]

Lmfao. That's why you have to think 2 step ahead. I know the game. Guys, who know how how girls play, already have back up plan and thinking ahead

[Opinion Owner]

Think*

[Agrojag]

That would've been funny. I will try this next time. I have a feeling she gave me hers and just told me it wasn't right.

[Opinion Owner]

Or you can ring them. And make sure they have their cellphone.

[Agrojag]

That's better, but if they were being genuine and then I call them like that, wouldn't it seem like I'm being an ass?

[Opinion Owner]

No, it wouldn't be at all. The girl being genuine gave it to you because she liked you in the 1st place unless she felt intimidated and couldn't say "No". In fact, I've been told by women they like a guy with this type of intelligence. So it could be very well a turn on when you ring them at the spot because it'll show experience and smart. To not make them feel disrespected, your excuse would be "Now that i ringed you. Write my name such and such. I Want you to have my name under contact spelled correctly" That's it. You have to sound very casual about everything and unaware that you was being "disrespectful", as if there was nothing wrong in the 1st place by ringing them.

[Agrojag]

Thank you. That is a very good idea.

[Agrojag]

Although I'm not sure I'd rspect a girl who said she liked games, but I guess I've got to look at the way the world is and adapt my tactics.

[Opinion Owner]

Np and good luck bro.

[TouglyforaGF]

Forget her chicks like that probably only date the douche bags. But if she ever comes back to you after her douche bag boyfriend dumps her give her a fake number and see how she feels.

[melissa2]

Really you need to get out of the house and stop hating women because they don't want to fuck you.

[melissa2]

You say you're fat and ugly. If that's true, well would you date a fat ugly girl?

[TouglyforaGF]

Oh here we go another big mouth girl who thinks she knows everything.

[TouglyforaGF]

Yeah I'd probably would date a girl who wasn't all that attractive and overweight, because unlike you I'm not as shallow.

[TouglyforaGF]

@Agrojag Can u please follow me, I want to send u a PM on here thanks.

[Agrojag]

Sure.

[TouglyforaGF]

Thanks man. I was going to send u a pm but forget why lol. If I remember it? I'll send it lol.

[Agrojag]

Feel free. This site should be used for people to support each other and help alleviate the confusion all of us are feeling.

[TouglyforaGF]

Agreed.

[BrunetteNYC]

She was probably not cool with being honest and just not giving you her number, and she should have been honest.

[melissa2]

She may have thought you were cool but not in a dating way and wasn't interested to talk to you like that and instead of being mean upfront she just gave you the wrong number.

[Agrojag]

I think what she did was a lot more mean. She led me on and then lied to me. That's pretty low.

[TouglyforaGF]

@Asker did you really expect her to be honest? Girls believe its OK for them to lie, but when guys do it we get called out for it. Double standards.

[Agrojag]

You're right. I guess I just am optimistic sometimes and forget reality.

[melissa2]

She didn't lead you on? By being polite during a brief encounter? It would be leading you on if you two had talked and gone on dates while she had no intention of going further. I'm sorry but some guys...I think some guys think that girls should throw themselves at them. Just to be "nice. " I'm sorry bro but if she doesn't like you she doesn't like you! What she did with the number was just mean. Hold your head up and you'll get a good girl. I'm the meantime quit whining.

[Agrojag]

She led me on by giving me a fake #. If she had respectfully told me no or wanted to be friends, I would have been totally ok with that. She was new and I was just trying to give her tips because I'm about to graduate and know a lot. I could've helped her, but she just lied to me and made me feel like shit. That's fucked up. But you're right, I guess I just have to move on.

[melissa2]

I think she just didn't know how to politely say no. Its hard but yes what she did was wrong and you will find someone. Forget this girl

[Arroxal]

Well maybe she didn't give you the right one intentionally, or maybe she changes her number few days ago and made a mistake? Or maybe you entered it bad in your phone.

[TouglyforaGF]

Mistake my butt she knew what she doing.

[Arroxal]

It's stupid i know, but it can happen

[TouglyforaGF]

True but some like and pretend they made a mistakes.

[Arroxal]

I suppose it can also happens :D

[Anonymous]

It's a pain, I would know, but she simply isn't into you that way. She must have thought you fancied her, but she doesn't and felt that giving you a wrong number would send you the message.

[ImCoasting]

Why can't girls say no? Be upfront.

[TouglyforaGF]

This^

[ironeddie]

She's not into you.