In a minute he’s going to starve because I’m tired of cooking for him and he says he doesn’t like this or that. Cook yourself then. And it’s always something different it’s driving me crazy because I cook a lot.
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I’m going to need some of you to stop saying I don’t know how to cook. His own mom struggled with feeding him what he wanted. And he looks up the menu when we go to new restaurants so it’s not a struggle.
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**He slightly complained about what I cooked tonight and I told him to order out then he just picked at it soooo maybe he’ll get the hint soon. I’m full though ☺️
My boyfriend is such a picky eater. What should I do?
Dump him and run to me. I'm not picky and I know how to cook. We'd have fun in the kitchen...
Seriously though, make him cook for himself then. You're not gonna be slaving in the kitchen only for him to go "I'm not a fan of that". Or, even better, make him the same damn thing every night. You make what you want, then make him something he likes, but do it every night until he's sick of it. And you keep doing this. When he's tired of the chicken nuggets, start making the hamburgers. When he's tired of that, make the mac and cheese out of the box. When he's had too much of that, make hot dogs. When he's had enough of that, make him the pasta. Once you're out of options, you start the cycle over. Get him one of those plates with the animal plates on them and make a big thing of Kool-aid and when you serve him, go "here you go, honey" with a slightly higher pitch voice. Not enough that he'll know what's up. Just enough so that he goes "something about that voice is off, I just don't know what". Big baby. Buy a bunch of microwaveable pizzas. Don't even make them for him. He knows where to find them. Make him go shopping himself. Make a gourmet version of mac and cheese, then make the box mac and cheese, give him the box stuff and keep the good stuff to yourself. If he goes after your stuff, just go "oh, you won't like it. I actually had to put effort into making that". Do the same thing with chicken strips. Make real chicken strips and buffalo sauce, serve him microwaveable chicken nuggets with ketchup. Make a batch of cookies, go out and by a package of Chips Ahoy, and keep the cookies you made to yourself. Yeah, I'm being a bit mean and most of these suggestions aren't meant to be taken very seriously, but picky eaters bug me. It bugs me so much, I dated a picky eater who put ketchup on EVERYTHING and now I cannot stand the smell or taste of ketchup.
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If this isn’t the definition of Passive Aggressive I don't know what is😂 lol I got a laugh out of this comment though
Gotta get the message across somehow. You're not working hard for a picky eater. If nothing else, I'm happy you laughed and didn't take what I said seriously... Though you can take it seriously if you wish...
In response to your second update, I was going to suggest that, but that wasn't nearly as entertaining as what I suggested. To your first update, hey, screw those people saying you don't know how to cook. This guy doesn't appreciate the art of cooking. That's fine, but that doesn't mean you don't know how to cook.
That can be a challenge. I had an ex that was a very picky eater also and unfortunately a couple of the relatively few things she liked are among the relatively few things I don't like.
We came up with a set of core things that we both liked and ate those fairly often, but sometimes we'd cook two separate things. We often had two different vegetables because there were very few vegetables she'd eat and I wanted a lot more variety.
It's manageable but it can be challenging for the person that likes more variety in food.
Geez! How old is he? He shouldn’t expect you to feed him. You aren’t his mother. He’s old enough to know what he likes and doesn’t like. He isn’t a child. You need to be firm with him and refuse to cook for him if he’s going to behave like a child. If he’s hungry, he can get up and make it himself. You couldn’t feed him like a child forever.
Now... before other people rip my head off. I will say I could understand if he has allergies to certain foods but, by the sounds of it, he’s fine to eat all food without any issues.
My brother is too! He's not married but seriously the comments he makes about mom's cooking makes me so mad I often end up telling him, go cook by yourself. He's 25 but still acts like a giant baby in case of food ugh.
I hope his future wife makes him cook by himself once she is tired of him like you are, lol. But it has a lot to do with upbringing as well.
My brother was really skinny so mom would only cook his favorite food to make him eat more and gain weight. It is also common for Asian parents to take greater care of their sons than daughters especially if they have only one son so my brother is literally spoiled. I hate it.
It depends how determined you are. If you aren’t really determined, dump him. Otherwise, you can ask what flavors, specific flavors, like tomato, instead of saying pizza. Then you can kinda sort out a bunch of things that he’ll eat. Also, you can always resort to premade stuff if you don’t want to cook.
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We live together and I wouldn’t break up with him over this I find that a bit childish. Everything else in our relationship is strong. I’ll probably just try doing that! Thanks
Depends on how extreme it is. I once dated this incredibly hot sweet guy. The problem is the ONLY thing he ever ate is a hamburger. No bread or toppings, just a cooked hamburger patty. Breakfast, lunch, dinner, etc. It was all he ate as a child so all his mother ever made him. He refused anything but a cooked hamburger patty. I knew that this was a deal breaker. Dumb maybe, but imagine only cooking hamburgers for every meal forever. And I LOVE to cook, and and awesome at it. I said goodbye to him.
Forgot the rest - sorry. Maybe your guy is not as picky as that - if not then you are lucky. What I would do in your case is cook together. Maybe if he gets involved it might evolve for him.
Your boyfriend needs to suck it up and feed himself like an adult unless you're cooking for him, in which case he needs to suck it up and quit being picky and immature. Not every meal can be perfect and he needs to realize how lucky he is to have food and people who cook for him.
Then stop trying to please him but do not be passive aggressive about it. Tell him to his face exactly what you said here. Something along the lines of, "I attempt to cook meals for you but you are incredibly picky. If you're going to keep being picky I can't continue putting time and energy into trying to feed you and you'll have to fend for yourself." That's how it was in my family. Mom made something and if you didn't like it you went hungry. Eventually he'll get so hungry he'll start eating his shoe if he has to. Don't let his belly aching ruin your day.
you need to improve lady, he's told his mate on Masterchef that he's not happy. Really try and present your food aswell. Its important that it isn't basic: Here's an example, instead of 'Roast chicken, peas, mash' DO THIS: 'Butter chicken with cocunut sprinkles, Basmati Rice, Natural set yogurt with finely chopped mint and a bit of salt and pepper. Instead of 'Spaghetti Bolognese with a jar of sauce' DO THIS 'Tomato cans, sundried tomato puree, basil oregana, dash of wine, cooked mince, fresh mushrooms, fresh onions, add some water.. then slow cook 2-3hrs, top it with parmesan upon serving. Pour a glass of wine. Instead of 'your pussy' DO THIS 'spread nutella over it and wear tight underwear and let him take it off'
Give him a notebook and TELL HIM WRITE WHAT YOU WANT and I will make it when I have time to cause I'm sick of putting up with your crazy eating disorder so why dont we just make this simple. So I'm not wasting OUR money on food that you won't eat. Cause its expensive and a waste to be throwing out excess food that costs money BTW!!! And that money could be better used towards saving or on what we need to survive IE bills and such.
Do whatever you do when you want him to do something for you. If I had a boyfriend like that I would make sure that he tried everything at least 3 times before he said that he didn't like it. After the third time I think he would have proven that he just doesn't like it. But in the end people are different and have different tastes so sometimes we have to adjust.
Additional Note: Studies say that as two people live and meet each other more often their taste in foods start to align. So just weather it out for now.
If he is consistently picky in the sense of not liking a lot of things you can menu plan around that. If he constantly changes what he doesn't like, yeah, tell him to cook for himself or order out.
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No it’s not consistent it always changes and it’s starting to aggravate me. And yea I think I’m going to mention that to him
Everyone has their flaws. I would either accept them and enjoy the rest of him or tell him it bothers you.
I am a very picky eater myself because a lot of different food things I can not eat.
Is there ever any reason he doesn't like what he doesn't like?
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No that is not him I don't know who that is my question was “featured” and the moderator put a picture of a random guy lol. And I haven’t told him it bothers me yet I was trying to get over it but we might have to... we live together so he’s going to have to compromise or just make his own stuff which I’m completely fine with. And no I don’t know only thing I know is he doesn’t like certain textures but that’s not the case here
If it bothers you enough you can't get over it then it's time for a discussion. Communication is important in a relationship. If he can't explain why doesn't like some foods then he needs to make his own food. If he can explain it take it seriously, don't judge him, it may seem irrational but try to understand it. Maybe he can give you an exact list of what he won't eat. I can't for example eat mint, so neither mint icecream or mint tea would I eat. That doesn't mean I couldn't have earl grey.
Adopt the same approach my grandma did with my dad (picky af eater too): made food, if he didn't eat it that day, he will have it on the next day too, while the others get another meal.
Pretty strict, but I see her logic and sooner or later, he will get used to more foods.
Simple. Your not his mom. Does he expect you to serve him? Tell him if he is going to whine, cook himself. If he starves it is his own self negligence... Tell him grow up! You having kids? He doesn't take a good look in mirror and you will have an adult child to care for too. Not sure about anyone else, not spilling my whole life, but ain't no body got time for that. Say beatch, go to applbees and whine what you don't like there.
Stop acting like his mother then, there are things that he needs to understand which are, the chef picks the menu of the day, if its a surprise why not otherwise either he cooks it himself or eat whats there infront of him. Dont encourage that behaviour because the more you do... And by the time you speak up, it will be your fault because he will be already customed to you cooking what ever he wants when ever he wants.
This is simple, if this bothers you, you can either force him to change his personality (a tad difficult / probably immoral), or suck it up and make him do something for you that balances it out to make it feel better, or dump him and let him find someone who has more in common that won't be bothered by his eating habits... then find someone who is open to eating lots of different stuff next time.
Tell him you don't have to go through the trouble of making food for him, you're just being nice. If he wants to complain all the time then tell him he can make his own food. You're not responsible for making sure he eats. That falls on him
Tell him to cook his own food. I'm a picky eater who hates omnivores telling him what he should/not eat, but I cook all my own food and I do not expect or even desire others to pick and prepare meals for me.
He needs to learn to eat, and like, more things. It's ridiculous for you, or anyone, to keep catering to him whims and small number of things he likes.
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