Why don't/can't women cook anymore?

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It seems as if most women, I'll say under 30, can no longer cook. What happened ladies? My own girlfriend is guilty of this. My best friends wife can't cook, she insists on having him take her out to eat every night (poor soul). I work in a male dominated field and most of them can cook really good, which is a plus for me, FREE FOOD.

dancing_in_nebulas · Accepted Answer

Sounds like a white and privileged problem.

Not to be rude, but most women under 30 who can't cook, are white, or minorities that grew up in white non southern families.

Minorities grow up more poor, so knowing how to cook was cheaper and more effective than obviously eating out everyday.

Southern people just love food lol, so white southerner women know how to keep a family nice and plump.

Most latin, Asian and black girls in my middle school I knew, knew how to cook spaghetti / pastas, chicken, stir fry, casseroles, etc - at a basic level, since our parents were usually still at work for dinner.

Its actually quite disgraceful if a minority can't cook, since it really is a big cultural identifier.

Both my parents were like, "dont no man, NONE, want a woman that's dirty and can't cook."

Universal rule, to the point where both white girls and minorities who didn't know how to cook, were picked on and kinda like shamed in high school.

I mean, look at the stereotypes- white women are mostly thought to not know how to cook, or to cook bland unsatisfying foods.

Is that true? Somewhat.

I know white girls that can throw down in the kitchen, and if course numerous professional white female cooks.

But in a wealthier population, it seems it was more common for whites girls to be entreated, or food bought for them, so cooking isn't really a necessary thing in womanhood anymore much for them.

Fuck, it wasn't no minority first proclaiming that we dont shave, don't cook, work too much to cook to compete with men, not eat meat and rebel against feminine and even basic adult skills.

That was white girls lol.

I'm not sure where the rebellious attitude comes from with them, besides a trained idea that they're above conform and the world should suit views that make them non accountable and catered to I guess.

Anyway,

I've taught most my white chick friends how to cook upon entering young adulthood.

Their usual response?

"My mom always cooked, so I never had to."

For some odd reason, white moms just stopped telling their daughters this necessary life skill lol.

I live in the West, so it's a lot different here than the white mamas who teach their girls to cook.

But - southerners are a poorer population stereotypically, so it puts them in the same position as minorities, where cooking is a need, not a luxury...

queeneemy · Accepted Answer

I don't think it has anything to do with women being busy because my mom has always been busy and she's an amazing cook. I think it's more because of necessity and what's it's frowned upon in our society. I'm going to use myself as an example.

My mom was almost forced to learn how to cook by my grandmother when she was a teenager because 40 years ago it was just a scandal that a woman didn't know how to cook. She met my dad when she was 22 and she's had a house and a family to take care of since then. On the other side, she never forced me to learn how to cook. I only started cooking when I started living alone at the age of 21. And now I'm 25 and I can cook a few things but I'm still no cooking expert because I have no family to cook for. So what happens 90% of the time is that I don't even bother cooking a meal for myself and just eat whatever I want. However, I do realise that one day I'll get married and have kids and I will have to learn how to cook 'cause I ain't about that feminist life and I still believe in gender roles and I want to keep believing in them so I will learn how to cook for my future family.

Another example is a very close friend of mine who's one year younger than me and she got married when she was 20 and already has a kid. She had to learn how to cook 'cause she had to cook for her husband and she's an excellent cook. But her sister who is 32 years old can't even boil an egg and she also happens to be single.

And even though I do believe in gender roles, I also think there's nothing wrong if a woman doesn't know how to cook. She will eventually learn when she needs it.

sagevvalentine · Accepted Answer

First of all, I feel as though it's necessary to say, it's not really a woman's job to cook... unless you are going for traditional housewife type of thing where only the man is working in that case, it is more of her obligation to cook.

However, I am so surprised by that, eating out every night? Is this what people are like in the US? That's so unhealthy for you, and not economical. I have plenty of money but I wouldn't eat out every night, there's better things to waste your money on. Besides, cooking isn't always necessary, things like soups and salads require very little knowledge, why can't they make something like that? Together even? I mean my mother taught me how to cook, but she is from China, and cooking is much more important to us in China than it is in the West as far as I've noticed.

But I would say, there's a lot of food that doesn't require much expertise, like baked vegetables, or rice, or things like stews, you just throw all veggies and marinated beef in a pan, add some herbs, leave for 6 hours. Easy peasy.

adidas0169 · Accepted Answer

They dont teach home economics anymore that much in schools. most woman now adays can't cook can't so. we are living in a society of gender roles that are no longer around. i believe thats why our most kids now adays are complete morons and fuckups. they are lazy rude disrespectful pussies. when we had the women staying at home and the men working we didn't have these issues as much. im 37 years old when i was growing up my mom stayed home or took me to work until i started school. she would work and be home by the time i got home from school. married my step dad she would still work and get home before i got home from school always had food she took care of the house the yard and pets and me until i was older then she would still work and also helped out with the family business which was roofing like my sis bro and myself would. i know how to cook clean and even so but i also took home economics. all those skills were pasted down from grandmothers to there daughters so and so forth.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I cook more than my girlfriend. Sometimes it’s annoying because I get home after her and I’m usually starving. But it is nice because she cleans up and does the dishes, so after the food is made, my work is done!

It’s seems to be common with women in the age demographic you listed though, and I’m not entirely sure why. My girlfriend CAN COOK. Pretty well too. But once she gets home she’s tired, and while she can survive on whatever chips or snacks we have lying around, I want an actual meal after a day of work.

Anonymous · Answer

Many of us had no real need to learn how to cook 3 meals a day. Many women CAN cook but prefer not to do it every day for sake of time. I am 22 years old. As a child and teenager my mother did the majority of cooking but my dad also cooked (he was better at it actually) and he enjoyed the few times where he would prepare the food. My mom taught me the basics about cooking like cleaning the meat and veggies, how to properly season my food, how long to cook certain items and how to make a few good dishes but it wasn’t all that big of a deal to me because I NEVER needed to cook. I had no money for groceries as a child and if the desire came for me to cook I couldn’t waste my parents groceries on practicing. It was much easier to just eat the meals that were provided or (more often) for us to just order takeout. When I went to college I was more focused on studying than cooking. After a few years I dropped out and started working and got my own place where I FINALLY buy the majority of my groceries. But i work every day. I have bills to pay and don’t have time to cook. Most days I still just buy takeout. I don’t have anybody to cook for but myself and I think that a guy who does the same amount of work as me should be understanding that I just dont prioritize cooking when i can afford to eat at the restaurants in my area or just make noodles like the college days

MzAsh · Answer

Research suggests that despite being bigger breadwinners, women are still doing the majority of cooking.

www.pewresearch.org/.../

Maybe they are irritated and don’t always cook to their full potential for a reason.

I know I could be a better cook if I wanted to. Truth is, I hate cooking. I seriously hate standing there. But I try still, because get I gotta eat.

AlienParasite · Answer

I have a lot to learn but I usually eat at home and prepare my own meal. My dishes are not the best but I belive that's cooking. When I'm with my partner we take turns or cook together.

There are some factors that can lead to a person not to learn to cook.

- They just hate it
- They have always had a busy schedule and few time to learn other basic skills
- At home parents never worried about teaching basic cooking or encouraged kids to do so
- At school there isn't a mandatory subject that teaches basic cooking or at least kids aren't encouraged to cook

However, my mother never stopped to teach me, the few I learnt was with internet and because I was in a college residence and the food there was awful so I wanted to move to a flat and cook by myself, as my own food couldn't be worst than that.

DailyIntrovert · Answer

My mum actually taught my brother to cook instead of me. She had this whole thing about she didn't want my brother to be a burden on a future girlfriend/ wife. Whereas her reason for not teaching me was that she didn't want me to be able to cook because she assumed I'd just end up being stuck in the kitchen and expected to cook all the time. It annoyed me tbh because I needed to learn how to cook because I need to eat too.

Miss_New_Booty · Answer

I can cook. I just won’t if I feel as if it’s expected of me. I’ve never been the type of person to do something if it’s forced upon me. Nope, I’m much too hardheaded for that bullshit. If I feel appreciated though & someone asks nicely? Then I might be inclined to return their kindness. Relationships are about give & take. Equivalent exchange, so to speak. Same as how you better not expect your dick sucked if you refuse to lick pussy.

I’m lucky & grateful to be with a man who understands this sentiment. He has no intention nor interested in treating me like a slave. (Unless we happen to be role playing, of course!)

desidoll · Answer

Maybe because they are tired since many women these days work hard too just like men. I can understand. It is not easy to divide your time accordingly especially when you have kids!
However, I do think that both men and women need to know at least how to cook some simple meals for yourselves.
For me I was raised to learn how to cook. It is part of our culture. All of my siblings can cook. I cook for my family, friends and fiance too. It is part of my hobby. I just love everything that is homemade. They are healthier and cheaper. The issue I have here is most people assume I don't cook, just because of how I look/dress 🙎‍♀️

Barrabus_the_Free · Answer

Hatepigs convinced them that it was oppressive. Being a mother is oppressive. Being pleasant to be around is oppressive. Weighing what a woman ought to weigh, rather than what a field-dressed elk weighs, is oppressive.

Much better to be a lardass insufferable bitch who spends her entire life in a cubicle, drinks boxed wine every night, and pops antidepressants like candy. Oh and dying younger and having no one in your life but the food delivery guys and a cat or ten is a capital idea too.

They listened to the hatepigs, and they're unhappier than ever. And instead of taking everything the hatepigs ever said and putting it in the bin, they double down.

Women obviously have next to no understanding of correlation or cause & effect.

Whatever. It's their problem, not mine. Enjoy those antidepressants, I hear the pharma companies are about to make them in grape, orange, and cherry flavors.

WhiteSteve · Answer

I feel like people in general are cooking less for themselves, just because takeout is so easy, in some cases affordable, and most of us have more shit to get done than we have hours in the day.

So women may cook less now as they are now also members of the work force. Some men, by necessity, may have learned to cook for themselves, and since they didn’t used to do such things 40, 50 years ago, there’s an appearance of more men cooking and less women cooking... but it’s probably a net loss over both genders combined. But honestly, I think most of us are just so busy that it’s difficult to do it consistently, or it’s just too draining, so many people are just doing takeout or relying on ready-made frozen meals, etc, or just very simple meals that don’t require much time and effort. Tough to work 8 hours, commute another 1-3 hours, handle everything you gotta handle and still just whip up a pot roast haha.

pansy49 · Answer

I can cook a few meals but I think what contributes to it for me, and for most young women, is the high access of ready made food. I grew up eating mostly microwave meals, cereals and other processed foods, or fast food. It's honestly an epidemic that's effecting everyones health. I hope more people learn to cook and have at home meals! It's a hard thing to get into though especially when you're stressed and tired from working or going to school. I can't even imagine how hard it would be doing both of those and raising kids on top of it.

Blitzkrieg_88 · Answer

This is true. My father gave some great advice years ago that if I wanted to eat well like at home I better learn to cook from my mother as modern women won't learn and won't cook so that's what I did. There are many great women out there that can cook. What's really important when settling down with someone is deciding what they bring to the relationship, its not enough for a woman to bring nothing but looks and a big rack.
My advice to any guy dating a hotty who can't cook, won't clean, can't drive, works part time, Is doing gender studies, has never got no money and expects you to pay her way is too pump and dump her until you get bored.

Anonymous · Answer

With the advent of food home delivery services, a lot more women AND men are no longer spending much time in the kitchen. It's basically the evolution of what happened in the last century where microwave dinners and canned foods were invented to cut ones cooking time in half and women who mostly cooked at the time, hailed it as a miracle that they no longer had to be a slave to the kitchen and now in this century, you tell both men and woman all you have to do is pay someone to cook everything for you and you can do other stuff with your time, and they take it. We as a society are running away from any form of manual labor in spades and women in particular are the most educated they've been in centuries, spending more time on career and education, than they are in the kitchen because they no longer have to as the world has changed quite a bit.

Anonymous · Answer

most mothers nowadays doesn't teach their daughters at home. so many things are done by their mom. they don't complain how lazy their daughter because they only want their child to work in the future. and wish don't be like them. rot at home, cook, clean, etc. just because we (women) claim that we are busy, when we got some free time we are just stay lazy, have fun, and never thought to do anything that can make us as material wife.

to be honest. I would rather cook by myself because I prefer eating healthy and clean foods and also tasty ♥️. most foods are not clean except foods at the 4-5 hotels and franchise fast food restaurants. I became phobia since I watched on YouTube how dirty workers at food stalls. unless if I got so freaking tired and unable to get up from bed.

hellacray · Answer

I think it's just the USA where it's like that. But yeah you right I've met a lot of girls that don't/can't cook and prefer to eat at restaurants.

On my yelp it keeps notifying these same few girls that always check in at restaurants. I think it's because they've become lazy.

Like they have jobs and their own money. They don't need skills like learning how to cook, sew, or even clean.

I've seen girls rooms/houses that was even messier than a guy before.

I have a feeling pretty soon in the future women are going to get penis prosthetics sewed on to their vajayjay or something.

nerms123 · Answer

Cooking is so easy nowadays. All you have to do is google a recipe with reviews and you can even get groceries delivered. Plus there’s all these gadgets like instant pots and waffle makers. I’m guessing these people who supposedly can’t cook just don’t want to which is fine really.

hvydna2018 · Answer

It's not that women can't cook, they could do anything if they wanted to I guess. The interest isn't there whether due to pure lack of interest or time constraints. Many women find it hard to come home and cook after working all day (if they do work) which leads to eating out and spending more money than necessary. Plus extra calories from usually unhealthy food. NOT cooking in my opinion is usually not recommended.

Marilynjuana · Answer

In my case - just never had any interest in cooking. I make MEAN sammiches tho. And I prepare my man's workout smoothies and porridge in the morning. But anything more and I could probably accidentally poison someone.

Might be a good point - a man cooking for me is so damn sweet.

morimeme1 · Answer

Not sure really, I have seen an equal amount of young people of both sexes whi can and can't cook. I'd say it comes down to necessity, if you have parents who pamper you all your life making food for you and you have enough money to eat out - you just won't learn to cook. This guy my age was once complaining why would he need to cook if he can have it made for him (as if cooking was for poor people).

Vesuvius87 · Answer

- Focus shifted to getting a higher education and eating outside
- My mother never taught me and she's not a good cook herself either
- Overall, cooking isn't exclusively the woman's role nowadays

I'm Latina myself (several other Latin female members in my family don't know how to cook either) but it's only been 3 years since learning how to cook some recipes. I've gotten better than my mother by now but not at the skillful level yet.

Georgia1234 · Answer

That is incorrect. I am 21 years old and I work in a kitchen. I cook for a living and also cook at home. I can't wait to have a husband one day and cook for him when he gets home from work❤ Its not in everyone to be like this as we all are brought up differently but my Mum is a housewife and so was my Nan. However, Its not a womans job to cook and care for a man/family. Some of us want to do it.. some others want a different life. 😊

MissDawn7961 · Answer

they are to busy with their jobs to rush home and feed you a home cooked meal ! grow up and fix your own food , lazy butt ! you lazy butt with your free food? you will pay for that free food for what is in the food may be bad for you ! ha ! ha !

JackSmy · Answer

I actually kind of like it, and make it a 'foreplay' thing, because so many never learned from their mothers, and if they can learn something, like sensually, with a guy they like, and he has to be really close, and hold them, and guide them, so they won't cut themselves...
And if he makes it something interesting, like teaching her about flavors, and how they pair with the wine, it can be very erotic, and sensual.
Then there are the Decadent, chocolate desserts. . .

the_imperfectionist · Answer

Because in modern society, individuals are moving out of the traditional roles of each member within a family. In some cases the mother "had no time" or was too lazy to show her daughter or the daughter was just not interested in learning. Also because of the changing roles, things such as the female knowing how to cook is no longer prioritized as the child's focus is encouraged to be directed toward his/her studies so that he/she will be able to make a living in today's society.

Reaperbot666 · Answer

sadly many people from all genders either do not know how to cook or rather do not like to cook.

yet I am a firm believer that no matter your gender. anyone and everyone who is of able body and mind. should know basic cooking skills for if nothing else. the ability to feed themselves and or others.

many might say things like "o I never learned to cook" or "o I have no time to cook" but that is just bullshit.

Passinggas · Answer

Don’t you find it interesting that as women’s cooking skills diminished the obesity increased from eating out sht all the time? You know even if cooking were anti-independent-empowered-woman, one would think they would at least cook for themselves to keep from becoming such fat asses.

AynonOMouse · Answer

Lazy/bad parenting.
It certainly has nothing to do with race and claiming that Whites are too privileged and have too much money to do it like some ignorant idiot may suggest. A high percentage of Whites are poor but stupid people don't realize it. Even when those people have more money that a lot of Whites they still claim that the Whites have more. WTF? Why are people so dumb?

I_Am_Sazerac · Answer

Unmmm how about you open your eyes? Plenty can cook. Every woman I've ever met can cook. It's a basic skill all humans should possess... just because women like to work doesn't mean they are shit cooks.

The only reason I learned to cook real well was to aid in attracting a woman who likes my food and we could cook together. So no matter who's busier. There will always be food. So just settle down. Even back in eras past there were plenty of women who were terrible cooks as much as today.

MrMilti · Answer

People have become lazy and dont want to do this additional work, especially when they are single for longer than ever before.

Its not really rewarding to cook just for yourself and when they get into a relationship, they are most of the time not willing to learn cooking anymore.

Creepazoid · Answer

It seems to be because convenience of fast food and resturaunts. Especially with millennials, however men seem to take interest in cooking as a skill to impress others including attracting women. as for women, along with convenience they are finding men who know how to cook as well. It's unfortunate that this is a dying skill. I've noticed this too especially in women my age and younger.

blutwolfe · Answer

I've noticed this too, a higher percentage of men know how to cook compared to women, not saying there isn't some that do, but a majority of women don't have the skills, they basically just eat out all the time.

Another factor to consider is we usually cook a larger volume of food, where as a chick is fine with ordering a small meal/snack.

themaker39 · Answer

I found it amusing with my exes, they used to mention that they don't cook as if it wasn't a big deal and then expected my reaction, but on the inside I feel disappointed that I cook a lot better than all of them. I like it when they enjoy what I cook, but I really don't like to see incompetence on their part in the kitchen. Sadly that is the norm now.

grizzlybearbite · Answer

I cook very well. And cook often in my home. My wife (God bless her) can't cook at all. Every time she tried, we have to throw away the food, the pits, the pans, the stove, the fridge, fuck, we gotta throw everything away, and move out lolololol. Her mother did all the kitchen stuff, and never let her do it. So she never learned.

TonyBologna25 · Answer

I love women who can cook. Girl I’m dating is Italian and cooks authentic dishes and they taste amazing. She loves it when I’m full from her food. Couldn’t imagine dating a women that doesn’t cook for me at this point in my life lol. It’s extremely attractive.

LordSnuggles · Answer

I've never met a woman in my 30 years of life that didn't know how to cook. I know that's a personal experience, but it's hard for me to believe such a claim when my own life has shown me, without qualification, the opposite.

Likes2drive · Answer

The family isn’t the same anymore and they don’t watch their mothers cook and bother learning, my daughters are not very good at it or really know how, they actually ask me sometimes and I’m not the best but I can manage, the younger generation claim they are too busy but usually whoever gets home earlier is the one that cooks

viajen · Answer

Women are becoming more independent and working more. So yes, if you believe that you don't need to cook, then neither do they. You sound like you're not as independent as you think you are.

1truekhaleesi · Answer

In my senior of high school, I won the award for best student chef. It's not hard to follow a recipe and once you've been cooking awhile, you know what flavors go good together so you can put your own spin on recipes.

1Anon · Answer

Most are able to cook; I can cook very well as my dad taught me (my mum taught me how to bake).

RandomFinnishdude · Answer

I've always loved cooking and mostlt done it myself. Never met a lady of my age that really properly cooks, warming food is not cooking. But i dont mind, i love cooking anyway. I think they are busy with work and stuff nowadays and men dont expect it anyway in richer countries. In countries where male dominate and women can't leave the house, the women probobly can cook very good. Dont think its gender related, more like society.

coachTanthony · Answer

Technology has made it easier to allow people to cook! So if you mean cooking the old fashioned way I would say why?

Thanksgiving dinner these days don't take much at all to prepare unless you do it old school which just isn't necessary anymore.

sejla · Answer

Do you cook for your girlfriend? Your friend needs to stay home and eat something at home and let his wife go out to eat. They are going to pack on some pounds if they keep doing that.

The_White_Queen · Answer

I can cook. I'm making scotch eggs from scratch later.

arabgoddess · Answer

I have been cooking for 11 years and it's getting exhausting.. My body is tired from it. Yet I still do it..

Teahappy · Answer

I can cook, but if I was with someone, I would want my man to do all the cooking. It's so sexy for a man to cook. Cooking is time-consuming and sometimes it's fun and sometimes it isn't.

SamtheDnDgirl · Answer

Funny enough. I'm cooking right at this very moment.  Anyway. Cooking is a skill to learn and one I think everyone should learn. No one really has an excuse for it, men or women.

MlleCake · Answer

Why don't you? Your hands broken?

Taylor_C · Answer

Why waste your time and energy cooking? No need for it.

Account · Answer

I do not have to. I can easily have a sandwich, fries, noodles, spaghetti or a fruit-salad and be content. I also do not enjoy the process of cooking.

EleanorRigby · Answer

For the same reason many men can't cook. They don't like cooking and it's not necessary for them to know how to cook, so they never bother to learn.

Harmseygrace · Answer

Thanks to feminism, women no longer know their role.

DorkVader · Answer

I'd assume for the same reasons men don't/can't cook anymore.

RawIronhide · Answer

Well ur question is wrong, everyone is cooking at home less. Women have taken on other roles in modern times other than houskeeping.

MelissaMarie9614 · Answer

Its not hard to cook. I've been knowing how to cook since I was 13. I'm almost 23 now and still cook. I know how to bake and cook. It's not hard to follow a recipe.

LiamSawyer · Answer

There are plenty of women that can cook, just like there's plenty of guys that can't boil water. Personally I love to cook.

PondyPand · Answer

If i want food i cook it unless I have gone out specifically to get food I do not need to cook.

Anonymous · Answer

Your post suggests no woman can cook anymore I may not be the best cook but I still do know how to cook I prefer eating home cooked meals over eating takeaway

anuragk033 · Answer

Me my girlfriend and every single person of my family knows how to cook you if you don't count the kids

mayur955 · Answer

I don't know why they don't but i can cook.
Sometimes i cook when my mother is sick or she is busy because she is a teacher😊.
I like to do it & did it while i stayed away from home even i was at job.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

... and we wonder why we have such an obesity crisis...

Anonymous · Answer

Because it is not your business. We dont say a shit in the past when men can't cook. It is still like that. Men in my culture are too stupid too cook. Go cook for yourself. Why do you need a mama? Dont you have your hands?

name_is_eric · Answer

Female 'empowerment' happened. They got jobs, attitude, all that good stuff that is sure to be a hindrance on society.  'Give her a pinky and she'll take the whole arm.'

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