I started a new job, and people are un friendly with me. ?

[Cara20]

I started a new job and people just don't seem to want to get to know me or talk , or they are just kind of rude to me , even some older receptionist just gives me dirty looks and is really cold to me. I don't get it, cause I guess someone else is new in the afternoons and one of the managers was talking to a coworker saying " she's training again today' and the coworker went "oh!" All happy , but I don't get that. Is it my looks that makes people unfriendly with me for no reason? Am I that much of an eye sore...

[rosemilk]

don't take it personally. most people go to work, do their job, and go home. i remember when i tried to make a friend, they turned out toxic and eventually they were slowly kicked out because of how much trouble they were causing. so i don't make friends at work lol, completely ruined my mental health and made working very uncomfortable and she just spewed a bunch of negativity and it really seeped into my personal life and it wasn't fun. so i keep friends and work separate.

not saying you will have that experience, just saying don't take it personally because people are usually only there for a paycheck. the rude looks are probably because they are miserable in their lives, nothing to do with you.

[mooky06]

Everywhere you go, everyone is going to feel iffy about the new person. Just give it some time.

[dynamicyandere]

Sh*t rolls down hill. In some places, you need to earn everyone’s respect before they respect you. I’ve been in a couple of places where they give the rookies a hard time. Focus on performing well and be tactical with your interactions. Sometimes it’s an office politics thing as well. If you manage to be beyond criticism, you will have earned everyone’s respect — but it will take hard work to get there, and it’s not always possible if there’s a bad apple in the bunch.

[dynamicyandere]

If you gain favor with the boss or CEO though, that would be your most strategic move. I’ve done that a handful of times, becoming the CEO’s go-to guy, and that grants you a form of immunity to any other drama that may happen in the workplace.

[Bricealan]

@cara20 Get used to it. You are the new person, and THEY think you have to "Pay your dues" to be in the in crowd. Been there, done that. Fuck em' ! I had to go to the 'big boss' and straighten their asses out about the "new guy' in the group.

Let them come to you.

[Kingofkings1992]

Don’t worry about them, they will warm up to you with time. There’s always an adjustment period with new people when it comes to jobs, rentals, whatever. Just do your job the best you can, and go home. You’re there to earn a living, not make friends.

[laly520]

focus on urself n performance, others can get used to u by time or not who cares

[Cara20]

But has this happened to you before?

[laly520]

yes but I ignored em

[Cara20]

I try you I guess just care what others think too much. Is it cause I'm new?

[laly520]

its cuz they r jerks