Many of you males have lately been involved in a 'Good Guys Finish Last' movement. Many of you females have been involved in this movement by denying that this is the case for you. Whatever your stand on this movement, you're leaving someone out. 'Who?' you may ask. Good girls. Most of may say, 'Good girls?', and are looking at your phone or cumputer screen with such a look that you'd think the answer would just jump out to prevent you from making that look again. I vehemently hold my stance that you're leaving the 'Good Girls' out in your movement
1. The Dreaded Ten Years of The 'Dating Game'
I call it the 'dating game' because it's more of a game than anything else. The serious relationships rarely take place until later in life.
As a teenager, I was never selected to participate in relationships with any guys from my school due to the fact I would not sleep with them. At first, I chalked this up to the fact that they were horny teenage guys. I went through school without the normal heartbreak most teenagers feel every other week or so. (My heart break was spaced out to when I had serious-almost stalkerish-crushes who never failed to dispiont me.)
The reason this was the case for me was based on the fact that guys can't emotionally handle a relationship at ages 0-30(ish). So, they tend to base their relationships on sex. Girls, in desperat need of male attention, tend to go along with it. Thus, when the first bump appears in the road, the young couple calls it quits because maturity trumps sex every time.
2. Being Friendzoned is Hard, But Not Impossible to Achieve
Girls can be friendzoned, too. I can't tell you how many guys I had a vague interest in treat me like one of the guys. As a younger teenager, I wasn't concerned, but as graduation time crept closer, I began to wonder if there was something wrong with me. Was I not pretty? Was my sarcasm too much? Was my inteligence too average? How could a young girl not ask these questions? Much later in life I came to the conclusion that I'd been friendzoned. Meaning, I'd become such a good friend to them that they simply saw my female body as the housing for the much needed female mind to hack other girls mind's. Besides that, I'd never expressed an interest.
3. Good Girls Suffer From 'Niceness' and 'Selflessness'
I can't tell you how many times I've stood in the shadows to allow another female a chance with a man. A man whom they'd later leave for the next man, but it was the thought that counted. It always hurt and it never lasted long enough for me to be happy for them. Lately, I've been trying to be more assurtive, but after so long in the shadows it takes time for your eyes to adjust to the light.
4. Good Girls are Rarely Taken Seriously
Before my job as a waitress, I attempted at being a secratary. It lasted for only so long because when I spoke, my words were ignored. I'd offer my advice to my boss when he truly seemed too flustered and ruffled to function and he'd simply ignore my councelings. However, if and when he finally made it home, his girlfriend would fill his head with ridiculous plots, notions, and schemes whilst fufilling his every want and need, which resulted in the near death of the company. In the aftermath of the unsueing carnage, I was 'let go'.
5. Good Girls are Rarely Sepperated From the Bad Girls
Going through life with the goal to remain a virgin until marriage has been difficult. The men I've been involved with, wether 'good guys' or 'bad boys', have assumed I'm OK with having sex. Each time a man would try and I'd explain myself, I could see the disapointment and confusion in their eye's. Try as I might, the relationship always failed after that.
6. Being Asked to a Party Where Bad Things Are Known to Happen
Over my teenage years, people have invited me to grand parties where historically, bad things happen. I always avoided them, but I was looked down upon by my peers because I wouldn't prematurly consume alcohol and did not want to be in the presence of those who were foolish enough to engage in such activities.
I believe that the list of things I compiled is very close to the ones men have come up with, but I'd like to be sure that 'good girls' are not left behind in the 'good guys' movement. Young woman, you can still be a 'good girl' and express your opinion. Don't go through life making the same mistakes I did. It would be foolish not to learn from my errors as I just took the time to type them out.
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