"Why are you always angry?"

[Starfishlover]

If only I had a dollar everytime someone asks me this question. I got asked this the other day and I sat down and reviewed as to why I am angry all the time. This may or may not be the case for every angry person out there, but I would like to share my views as to why some people, such as myself, might be a little pissed off and hot headed from time to time.

Yesterday, my boss made this joke "What's the difference between a pitbull and Noora (me)? Noora wears lipstick"...everyone laughed. I admit. That was a little funny.

This take might be a source of amusement to the people that may hate me, but one thing that I am proud of is my ability to be honest. Even if it comes at a cost.

So here are the reasons why I or other people may always be angry.

1. No one ever told me they loved me

I will admit that in 27 years, no one ever told me that they loved me. I have tried hard to make myself lovable but no. This sort of makes a girls heart turn to stone. So in a sense, I have become a little mean.

2. When you were never popular with anyone and the friends that do become your friends never want to hang out with you.

A few weeks ago, my supposed friends of five years made plans, ditched me and left me waiting like an idiot. I wrote them an angry email and they laughed at me and never spoke to me again. Also, I have always been the "back burner friend"- Someone they would turn to when they have nothing else going on. So yes, this hurts.

3. Whenever I am a little nice to someone, people take advantage

So I have to be careful not to be too nice or too naive.

4. Life experience

I am not going to get far into it, but I have had to deal with a lot of wolves in my time. From abusive ex boyfriends to abusive everybody else. So this made me have a tough exterior.

Overall, I and other angry people, aren't all that bad. A heart can heal. Look at a fighting dog such as a pit bull. After years of abuse, we can be rehabilitated. It is easy.

So next time you see an angry person, maybe try to be a bit of a genuine person and just like a pitbull, they will see that you're not trying to harm them and will be a loyal friend to you.

[KDA20]

Interesting take. My feeling is that most anger is borne out of frustration at how things are going in your life. When things are out of your control you are mad at the people and the things who are not doing what they should , what you want to make things better. This one is a bit of a kicker the things within your control that aren't going right, you get angry with yourself and think somehow you are failing most likely at a subconscious level.
The most important thing to consider is that it is okay to feel some negative emotion. I honestly think that we will not appreciate positive/constructive emotions/things unless we have some negative/destructive things in our life. Next thing is that nobody is perfect I defy anyone to deny that they have not lost their temper over something unless they are robots, My own admission is that I am probably one of the worst types I bottle everything up and it is usually something small that is the final straw that breaks the camel's back so that means some poor sod gets both barrels of my ill judged rant over something trivial.
I am going to look at each of your points from the view that I know very little about you just what I see here
(1) Being loved in the way you talk about only happens maybe one to a couple of times in life so at 27 it might just mean you haven't met the right person or your soulmate. If you took it a step down and thought "Am I appreciated by people?" - Your family, friends, work colleagues and guys you dated.
Sometimes you talk about being hated and being a GaG villain but I find you nothing of the sort. I think you are very attractive, intelligent, honest and articulate with enough self awareness to analyse your personality maybe a bit too much since often we are our own harshest critic sometimes you deliver a very hard verdict on yourself without taking into account the many positives you possess, So in essence a guy would be very lucky to date you and many other people would be very fortunate to know you as a friend.
(2) There are times when we all feel a little out of the loop with friends. What does it mean to be the most popular, would you rather have 100 acquaintances or one true friend - I have honestly all my life being described as likeable and because of my work moved from area to area, always getting along with people but sometimes not really knowing anybody in the area not having someone to truly talk to which can be quite lonely. I am running out of space may have to add a comment.

[KDA20]

(3) This part is solely up to you but I like to think that for every asshole I meet there is 1,000 lovely people so I will not let one person ruin my interaction with a thousand other people. I forget the asshole and allow the joy of my interaction with the majority wash away any bad feelings I have.
(4) Life expierence - Everyone's is different but at the bottom of it all, we want the best for ourselves and the best for others too so therefore others wish the best for us too. I suppose what I am trying to say is that there is more good than bad in this world of ours. I wish you all the best in your life and your future.

[HoneyButterCup525]

Exellent and very well written... totally upvoted.

[peachblossomluck]

Noora, could you be in the habit of attracting callous people and reinforcing their behavior by enabling it? Most people aren't total douchebags and it's not normal or healthy to go around pissed off and foul tempered all the time. You deserve better treatment and you ought to be in a better mood more often. Honor positive minded people and their affirmirming attitudes. Be strong and decide you aren't a part of the jerks and being angry so much anymore♡

[Nik1hil]

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[Anonymous]

poisonous anger is born from hurt pride. dont fall a victim of the self victimizing syndrome. only YOU are to blame that you are angry and that you are unlovable. loveliness can't be faked it really can't. it should come from the depths of your soul. i dont know if you are an atheist but from my theist experience ONLY in Christ you find true love, true peace, and true serenity. only the grace of God can trasform you in a completely unrecognisale person. you won't just be "lovely" which is superficial and meaningless, but love incarnate. thats what Christ can offer. i recommend reading Klaus Kenneth's "Born to hate reborn to love". it changed my life since i walked that path.

[GreatnessPersonified]

"I will admit that in 27 years, no one ever told me that they loved me. "

You have no parents?

Reading this, I think you need help, like to speak to someone about how you feel about everything.
I know for a fact everyone doesn't abuse you. I haven't. :D
Take care.

[OpenWine]

people don't know when I am angry, most of the time people think I am being quiet or caught in my toughts.
I find it to be good since I don't wanna pass this anger ball to someone else and I think I also carry a few burdens.
I can understand how this feels, I also had friends who suck dick (a hell lot) and I had to change my circle like 5 times? So now I hang up with my best friend and some people that I don't know but seem enjoyable. The wolf gif represents my inner feel when someone I don't trust comes up to me and I trust almost noone but the difference between us both is that I still try to be nice but other times I just can't.

Kso nao that I've talkd enough bout maiself..

I love you.

[Jager66]

There is a lot to be angry about in this world, I don't know how a sane person can not be angry at most of it, at least from time to time, or even because they can't do anything to change it.

“I felt like putting a bullet between the
eyes of every Panda that wouldn't screw to save its
species. I wanted to open the dump valves on oil tankers
and smother all the French beaches I'd never see. I wanted
to breathe smoke.”

― Chuck Palahniuk

[abundantlyrich]

I know this is really about. You are sexually frustrated at the mo. 😒

[Starfishlover]

Best... answer. . Ever

[RationalLioness]

1)... I LOVE Flapjack!!!

2) Agree with this MyTake. I get told that I'm angry due to my slightly frowning facial expression that I do when I'm thinking. So I get asked why I'm angry a lot. I'm actually a pretty happy person.. when not having to deal with idiots. I'm sorry about what your boss said though. That's not cool, even if it was a joke. :/

[Hannah591]

1. That's really sad. But I've had people tell me they love me, only to find out it was clearly not true due to the way they treated me. I can be randomly aggressive with people but I'm not always angry. I've been abused by a lot of people too. I have a heart of stone also. :(

[Northeast106]

Well I like your blunt honesty, and I always thought you were married for some reason. Either way we all have anger issues or baggage. Everyone gets burned or scammed at least once in life. You're a good person, you just have to trust the right people, not the fuck tards in life.

[bluenose1872]

I love you. There you go. One down already. If everybody fucks you off the same way it's time to stop blaming everybody else and start looking inward. You can't hide who you are inside. People sense it and it repels them if your a bad person. You get back what you give out in life. If you're getting treated like shit you must be treating others the same way. Learn a bit of humility.

[MysteriousFlower]

I had my share of mean people and friends, but despite how angry I am I try to either be assertive according to the situation or stay away from the people. Such as tonight, I can't stand the girls so I'm skipping the girls' night out.

[Anonymous]

Even though I don't like some of your takes I actually felt sympathy for you on this one.

[HoneyButterCup525]

Hey this take totally relates to my anger a lot... anyways here is a hug for you *Hugs**

[heavensgift2girls]

I understand how you feel on all of your points. It can make someone develop anger issues, and make someone very jaded.

[rcmp1234]

those were all good points, I have felt that way at times as well. Here's to your first... I love you.

[takumii]

Sounds like a bunch of justification for someone's bad attitude.

[Mekkalyn]

I definitely have felt every one of these up until about 3 years ago when I met my partner.

[lasmujeressonguapas]

shitty reasons.. haha.. sorry, nobody is owed a good life. work for what you have/want.

[Anonymous]

I prefer biting people rather than rehabbing. But whatever suits you.

[Starfishlover]

... sounds kinky ;)

[Anonymous]

All tge muslim rapes thats going on in Sweden scares me