Don’t Treat Me Like a Princess

[Anonymous]

I am not royalty. I wasn’t born into a rich family, and subsequently I was not privileged. We struggled to get by for most of my childhood, which meant that birthday and Christmas money often went towards putting food on the table or getting the water turned back on. It wasn’t abnormal for us to have to miss school because we didn’t have lunches to take with us, and we didn’t want CPS to take us away. Like I said, I’m not royalty.

I have done more favors than I have had favors done for, for me, never expecting anything in return. I don’t accept handouts and I have difficulty even accepting help because of how I was brought up. I’ve always taken care of myself and the people around me, because I’m not privileged.

I am not delicate. I have worked since my youth and I have had many jobs. I have worked for 10 days straight; I’ve worked hundreds of extra hours; I have had more than one job at once. I have shoveled horse shit with a baby strapped to my chest for a pay check.

I am not a princess

I’m not the kind of girl who expects a man to pay for everything, to prove his affections for me with dinners, flowers, and materials. I make my own money for a reason. I’m not the kind of girl who is enamored with pearls and diamond earrings. To me they’re just sparkling rocks. You don’t have to go out of your way to buy me things, to impress me; I don’t need to be taken on expensive dates and have you dote on my every desire. I don’t need you to make six figures, I don’t expect you to have a fancy car, I don’t expect you to wear high end clothing and have a damn rolex watch for me to consider you worth my time. I don’t expect you to bend over backwards to make me happy; you don’t have to open every door, carry every grocery bag, put every piece of furniture we own together by yourself or sacrifice your friends and hobbies to focus all of your attention on me.

I don’t care about any of that crap

What I value is love. Connection. Having a best friend I can mess the sheets up with who won’t take it easy on me when we play Mortal Kombat. I don’t need you to make a certain amount of money; we just need to be able to be stable some day. I don’t need you to build us a dream house with a white picket fence; an apartment is fine. I don’t need flowers, chocolates or jewelry; I just need you to be considerate, tell me I’m beautiful and awesome and then pick up some takeout when we’re both too tired to cook. I’ll pay half of the cost.

All I need is to know that you love me; you don’t have to sacrifice everything to prove to me that you do, hearing it and seeing it in small gestures is enough.

I’m not looking for a prince, a knight in shining armor, or a sugar daddy. I’m looking for a partner in crime to share the weight of the world with, along with all of love and affection, which only has the “price tag” of wanting the same in return.

I’m not a princess, don’t treat me like one because I’ll never be one and I don’t want to be one. I’ve worked too hard, sweat too much and fought too hard to be treated like a princess.

... But some people are just meant to be a princess. Have a good weekend, guys. #noshadeforprincesses

[vishna]

Awesome MyTake.
This is exactly how I feel about relationships.
My boyfriend is so happy to give gifts and do fancy things for me. But I don't like people spending their money on me, so much so, that I've cried and felt guilty over expensive gifts. I think it's good to be self sufficient and live a life focusing on the simple yet important things. And also :) it's ok every once in a while to be pampered, as long as you pamper your partner occasionally too.

[Bluemax]

Hmm...(raising my eyebrow)

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[MaskedSanity]

This take is so overbearing in its attempt to bash the writer's chest in pride of how strong and independent they are, it just comes of as obnoxious.

I went all through my entire school years without ever having a breakfast or lunch because we were that broke. Do I get a medal now?

How about not spiralling down into obsession over one's struggles and moving on?

What's wrong with being treated like a princess? Would that hurt that warrior status you've assigned yourself due to the hardships you had to go through?

Surely after all the sweat, blood and tears suddenly getting someone that shows you that much attention would be met with great appreciation as such treatment was never even considered a possibility?

"But some people are just meant to be a princess."

How predictable. Didn't even need to scroll down to the bottom to know there would be a passive aggressive remark towards women that always had it easy.

Don't get me wrong, I agree with the general message of your take. However, the amount of contempt it's dripping with is seeping through the screen and I wouldn't recommend getting into a relationship until you've come to terms with your anger over the hand you've been dealt with.

[Mekkalyn]

I guess with that logic no one is ever able to open up about their experiences to explain who they are today. You move on from your past but it always stays with you. You can forgive your past, but most of the time you can't forget it. And why should you? If going through what you went through made you the person who you are and you are proud of it, why can't you reach out and talk about it?
But apparently you can't do that without coming up like you are bashing your chest..

[MaskedSanity]

@Mekkalyn

She can open up all she wants same way I can point out how immature she's coming across.

There's being proud of your accomplishments, and then there's having a snotty attitude:

"But some people are just meant to be a princess."

[Mekkalyn]

I am thoroughly annoyed with the people in these comments that are completely missing the point and focused on things that are read between the lines (probably falsely).

The point is that no woman should expect to be showered with money and expensive things. No woman should be put up on a pedestal and treated like they are the most amazing thing that ever graced the earth (big head much?).

The point is that you should take appreciation from the smaller things in life! You should appreciate the kind gestures your partner makes. You should appreciate the time you spend together!

You should not be focused on how much your partner makes or what he buys you/can provide for you. That is not okay. It's not okay to be worshipped like a princess and have everything handed to you your entire life.

I don't believe for one second that she is saying she wouldn't be appreciative of nice things, but only that it isn't NECESSARY! If it's not possible, ITS OKAY. It's not a crime to not have the opportunity to buy expensive things, and it's not required/necessary. She doesn't want those things because those aren't what matters at the end of the day! Her guy can show her he loves her in all the little things he does.

You would think more people would be accepting of this and on board, but I guess not.

[benthurber]

That's a really long dating profile right there.

My initial reaction is that what you wrote seems prideful to me. Also, that I would absolutely suffocate in a relationship with someone with this attitude.

I am crazy romantic because the "gestures" have deep meaning to me. It's just one of the many overlapping ways I'm going to show my love for someone. If they're unaffected or indifferent to the way I show love, or simply don't reciprocate, that's my cue to leave rather than be constantly frustrated.

Your take is kind of narrowed to just you and those who feel the same way. What should be said is that everyone gives and receives love in different ways. You can love someone with everything you have, but if you never use their love language to show it, you're wasting your efforts and potentially hurting them unnecessarily.

[myTake Owner]

First and foremost, this isn't a dating profile, secondly what's wrong with me being proud of who I am?

I never said I didn't appreciate romantic gestures, but that one doesn't need to feel pressured to provide me with materials or with overly extravagant things to prove themselves to me.

[myTake Owner]

Also: if people deserve love in a different way then why is it not okay for me to just want the person, simple gestures and affection instead of extravagance? I also never said anything about not reciprocating so I have zero clue what you're on about.

[XxLumierexX]

i want to be treated like a princess by my guy but at the same time i am like you in the sense that i dont really care about him buying me stuff? thats not what treating someone like a princess is about in my opinion, its not about buying you things^_^ i would feel bad if anyone spent like too much money on me i guess and i couldn't care less about what my partner actually made but money is irrelevant for me i feel like you could be treated like a princess without having everything spent on you? o:

yeah thats what i think :)

[tyber1]

#princessprobs

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[Cookies_AndMilk]

What you described was being treated with love vs being treated like a gold digger. To my knowledge being treated with love is being treated like a princess, only caring about material items and rich guys is being a gold digger. So from what I know, you do like being treated like a princess.

[archiz]

I agree to this

[pavlove]

to each woman her own i guess.

this is the real way the rich stay rich i think. the poor over generations of poverty lose the desire to be rich. a few even despise it and find being poor central to their identity.

so thanks lol you keep your inferior access to health care, across the board poorer performing schools for your children to be educated at, and inability to have the best out of life including seeing the world, the best food and drink you could ever imagine tasting, ability to enjoy your life without having to work full 40 hour work week. being able to retire whenever you want, pursue passions, art, etc. thank you for not being a competitor in that and throwing in towel to being poor and having your kids be poor for at least another generation

[FallOutBoy2001]

That's not what she said.

[pavlove]

@FallOutBoy2001 well, that's how i interpreted it

[FallOutBoy2001]

She said she doesn't feel like a man should have to treat her like a princess, because she's fine if they don't

[pavlove]

@FallOutBoy2001 I’m not a princess, don’t treat me like one because I’ll never be one and I don’t want to be one.

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[pavlove]

^^the mentality that helps the poor stay good and poor while the rich enjoy the best the world has to offer get to travel get to live longer get to make sure their children have wonderful safe childhoods and don't have to work and can enjoy time with friends can help their parents live longer etc etc etc... while the poor are forced to drop out of school, often never leave their birth city, have children get beat up daily and die in street fights, but, hey, being rich sucks right?

[FallOutBoy2001]

She never said being rich sucks. She said she doesn't want a man to treat her like a princess, because she isn't one. I don't want a man to treat me like a princess, meaning don't want to be showered in gifts and treated like i'm above others and royalty (I realy hate being refered to as a princess as well, I went to Disney once and had to ask a cast member to stop calling me princess) but that does not mean i want to live a life of poverty.

[Mekkalyn]

Are you serious right now? How the heck did you get this opinion out of what she said?

No where did she glamorize being poor or say that she wanted any of that... but you know what, even if she is poor, what the hell right do you have to rub it in her face? Not everyone can be on top. It is literally impossible for everyone to be rich. There is always going to be a upper, middle, and lower class (as long as you aren't a communist).

Who are you to tell her that her life doesn't have meaning if she isn't rich? You're telling me that only the rich people can be happy in life and successful? Screw you to the middle and lower class?

You are exceptionally ignorant.

The only thing she was saying is that she doesn't expected to be treated like a princess because she isn't one. That is reality. She is not a princess. She is a working sweating stubborn woman who has tried her hardest with the situation she's been given and she doesn't want handouts. That's respectable.

[Mustachekitteh]

AMAZING take! ^^

It's sad when some people think others need gifts, rich people, having others do things for them, etc. Just to be happy or be happy with someone. If anything those people would seem the most miserable. Since that would put them at some kind of standard.

As you put it. The simple things in life are what make people happier. Even more in a relationship. :)

Also I really loved the video. I know those videos and amazed how well the dude edits them from skyrim. ^^

[Bitterpill]

All due respect for you in this take, I think its absolutely the right attitude. Having been married to then divorced by a woman who acted like princess I was determined to find a women with this kind of attitude. Two years ago I found it in my girlfriend and I could not be happier.

[Boomer123]

Yes and the girls that are like this tend to end up with the most selfish men ever.
I agree with her completely and I watch the man I am with go from being an active partner in his last relationship to doing nothing because he doesn't feel he is accountable because I don't demand it. Why can't a man just do what's right because it's right not because the woman demands it or her parents/ family/ friends or his parents/ family will look down on him?

[ted22]

Well I'm confused bc Rihanna said 'I want you make me feel like I'm the only girl in the world'. Which I thought meant like a Queen.

[KawaiiPie67]

Yeah, I'd be afraid of this happening too. Women aren't the only ones who can take advantage.

[Anonymous]

Well it depends on the woman I guess I want to be treated like a princess I been treated badly muitple times by men and it wouldn't kill them to make me feel like one no I don't mean kiss my ass but just make me feel like a princess that all I ask for.

[Anonymous]

Beware chameleon women like this one... Like pests adapt, women are adapting to this new environment where men are getting sick of being treated as second-class humans.

They're still the same women... don't expect these creatures to ever get the shorter end of the stick

[Opinion Owner]

Or even be equal

[myTake Owner]

Lmfao!!!

[TadCurious]

How could anyone not admire what you just wrote in this great myTake?

[Chief16]

Sounds like a love better. But, thank you for this personal MyTake. Made me remember a few memories of my own.

[REALisRARE]

Such a great take and one of my favorite that I've read. This is exactly how I feel and I am so blessed to have found my partner in crime. I would rather someone give me all of them than all of the things money could buy.

[myTake Owner]

Thank you very much!

[redeyemindtricks]

^^ That.

[redeyemindtricks]

Now gimme my mouth back, lol.

[sp33d]

Is it such a common thing for guys to do or is it a cultural thing? I agree with your point, but I can't say I see many guys do this. If, then they are teen age boys and they don't think with their heads, so I can understand that. NEVER seen a man act like his woman's butler.

[KawaiiPie67]

Teenage boys aren't romantic @ all usually lol

[KDA20]

Nice take - Good way to show your personality with a stream of consciousness - Love the video

[asiantriforce]

You just decribed my ideal girlfriend. I totally relate

[Eugene]

Your Highness, please, snap out of it! We already hung the peasant that gave you those mushrooms!

[Anonymous]

Whatever works for you I guess. I treat my girlfriend like a Queen, she treats me like a King, we can't help it, we just love to spoil each other.