Girl's Behavior

Flirting: Why it's counter productive

We all have different ideas of flirting, so we need to come to a common ground:

"Flirting is non-physical sexual communication between two people to negotiate mutual attraction through body language and verbal tactics. It is an initiation ritual of human mating and consists of a playful sequence of reveals and challenges that serve to communicate, test, and amplify attraction." - Wikipedia

What do you think everyone does to communicate attraction? They flirt:
- Insecure guys flirt
- Good guys flirt
- Insecure women flirt
- Good women flirt
- Assholes flirt
- Players flirt
etc

So if everyone flirts and in almost every relationship we all go in to, we get hurt; don't you think it's symbolization that you're just like everyone else? Me personally - I love to flirt and i love it when people flirt with me. What i don't like is when people use it, alone, to try and attract me. Let me explain:

Ladies: Remember those guys who flirt 24/7 but never make a move? ;)
Guys: Remember those girls that you can never tell if they're interested? ;)

Here's the truth of why it doesn't work, according to what my lifestyle has been like:
1) People who flirt without any other sign of interest, are just flirting in general. They could be friends, perspective dates, attention whores, etc.. If i stopped to chase every single girl that flirted with me then i'd be too busy for school, work, etc.. And in turn, the woman who saw me chasing every girl trying to get to know if they were sincere, would think i was a player or that i didn't have ambition for my life.. Hmm counterproductive... Can't chase because I'll look bad, but can't figure out (without chasing) if they are sincere.

2) It builds hope and desire where that same "hope and desire" was crushed in the past.. Imagine if i tried to build a tower on top of a wreckage and rubble of an old building, it just wouldn't work. So instead you've gotta find a new lot or hope the guy has the time and patience to clear the rubble.. Obviously you don't own the property so trying to clear someone else's lot isn't going to give you any benefit.. So basically -> Thank your next door neighbor for flirting insincerely and leading the opposite sex on over and over; and rarely fulfilling those desires/hopes. Hmm, counterproductive -> Flirting where everyone before you has flirted and it lead astray from sincere interest.

3) People who realize that flirting is a false promise of real attraction tend to get turned off by flirting unless they can spot it as being "sincere".. Think about it? After 100's or 1,000's of dates wouldn't you get tired of the same old material and heartbreak?? If you think you would, then how do you think that other person feels? Probably the same way. Hmm counterproductive? -> Flirting, by itself, is not a signal of attraction.
etc

Make up your own reasons -> What I'm saying is that, "by itself", flirting is not a great way to communicate attraction or sincerity.

If you tend to refute this statement, then ask yourself what other things you do:
- Are you impeccable with your words/plans?
- Are you teasing or physically interactive?
etc
Flirting: Why it's counter productive
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