I Was Rejected By My Crush But I'm Better Than Ever

[mikimouse13]

Crushes.

If you've ever looked at my account you know I posted a lot about this one guy who I couldn't figure out. Well, a couple months ago, he found out, and decided to text me to tell me that he didn't like me back.

It hurt.

For a second at least. See, I've been in this dreamlike state when it came to him; I basically treated it like we were dating, even though I knew we weren't. So I sat on the couch, dumbfounded, for about 2 seconds before I realized this was exactly what I needed.

I believed that I needed this one person to make me happy for years. When I met my best friend, that need went down a bit, but it was still there. But here, being rejected, and noticing that I, in fact, was still as happy without him as I was with him, I realized I didn't need him. And ever since then I've gotten happier. Little did I know that happiness I was experiencing often came with a lot of tears and frustration that I blamed on school, or my siblings, or friends. I didn't understand that he was the problem.

My parents were a bit freaked out at first, from how happy I was. They don't know about him, or the texting or anything. But they're happy I'm happy.

I still keep in touch with him. We decided to restart, as just friends, and he's a great guy.

I've moved on, and I want everyone out on this community to know that it's okay. If they didn't choose you, it's honestly their loss.

[Bananaman177]

The pain comes from the amount of fiction you wrote about this total stranger in your head.

Stop making people into idols. Learn how to judge people accurately, not whimsically. Start with accurately judging yourself, because you'll master that last no matter what, might as well give yourself a good head start. Better judgment comes with time and experience. Some people learn fast, and some slow. But the lesson is the same for everyone.

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[mikimouse13]

Thats very true. If anyone else is reading this, please, please listen to this guy. I thought up so many scenarios I fell in love with a more fictional version of the guy I liked--that's what made it so dangerous for me.

[jul4a]

Good piece. Inspired me to not take things your crush says or does by heart all the time, let loose a little and step back. Your crush isn't everything, they are not a godsend.! And good point on how it's their loss if they didn't choose you (I always think this too! lol)

[Lopezz1999]

I'm very glad to hear you say that. I once had a similar story with my last crush in over 6 years.

There will be other people out for you, and you shouldn't tie yourself down to one person just because you like them.

If they don't like you back, it is not your loss, and it is definitely not their loss, however. Though it is your ability to move on from the person you're crushing on that makes things better after realizing that everything will be just fine, just because they don't like you back.

[lol20075]

I friggin wanna hug you girl... for me that's been my life there. Guys that I've crushed on and thought that liked me back, I found out in the end it was just my imagination. I really want to applaud you for staying strong and realizing that even with this awful thing you find a reason for keeping your head up :) You're truly a strong girl!

[mikimouse13]

Thank you! I'm hugging you back ;).

[Marsha003]

I'm kinda in the same position but he doesn't care about what I post about him. He actually likes that I swoon over him. But I'm curious did your friend ever get touchy feely, are have tickle fights with you that resulted in a lot of skin touching. I'm kinda thinking our friendship may be taking a different turn, and not sure either of us realize its actually happening

[mikimouse13]

He'd hug me a lot and like would "warm up my hands" because my hands are always really cold, but no tickle fights or any thing. Maybe this turn is for the better?

[Marsha003]

Yes it does, mine started with poking my sides, pulling my hat down over my eyes, and little playful pushes... then short tickles on my belly, hips and ribs... full blown tickles fights, that lead to tickle fights under my shirt, touching everything but the breast... then it lead to me massaging his legs and feet and he massages my back and giggles my small fatroll, not sure why that tickles him so much... anyways this process took two years... and I was patient the whole time and so was he... pretty sure I know exactly where this is going now... so YES your situation can turn for the better

[John_Doesnt]

Good for you to learn at a young age how to move on. A lot of guys/girls find out much later and they get crushed because they're so old when they get rejected.

[mikimouse13]

Thank you so much!

[Unit1]

"If they didn't choose you, it's honestly their loss."

Bing-GO, girl! That's it!
That's the perfect way to see it.
I wish you luck in the world of dating in the future :) Stay like this because in my opinion girls, who move on like that are AMAZING!!!

[iRachitGurung]

The Best Revenge is to move on, to show them that you are better off without them.

[mikimouse13]

True. It's kind of funny--He's my go-to when I have guy problems :D

[AlwaysBelieving]

We really can't help who we're attracted to. Good on you for (kind of) moving on.

[mikimouse13]

Thank you! It's gotten so much easier since then :)

[Anonymous]

If someone can't love you for who you are they don't deserve you. Good on you for taking it well.

[mikimouse13]

Thank you :)

[Sometimes12]

well at least you didn't get pumped and dumped right?

[mikimouse13]

Lol, yep!

[lazermazer]

Haha, good for you, but it's just rebound situation, lmao. Are you happy yes, you still miss him , oc you do. Yeah, that's dark.

[Ahmidouse321]

You have a high level of understanding. Seems like, to me, you have passed a test, most girls would've failed

[razor97]

I am chuck norris it is not possible for you to be better than me

[mikimouse13]

True. Very true. ;)

[razor97]

I am leaving you. There is a pattern of abuse in our relationship and I do not think it is healthy for either of us

[mikimouse13]

Maybe we should go to counseling and talk it out

[razor97]

This sounds great. Do you want to go shopping shoes? or maybe eat a snack.. There is no snack, but you can find some strange rocks :( it's ok, i have you. you can be my snack, yummy

[mikimouse13]

I guess rocks are good. And yay!

[razor97]

Indeed. But are you small enough for me to put my arms around you?

[mikimouse13]

If 5'2 is small for you... then yes, yes I am.

[razor97]

You just sounded like Phineas off of the tv phineas and ferb.

[mikimouse13]

That's my favorite cartoon so that might be why

[Anonymous]

"it's okay. If they didn't choose you, it's honestly their loss": but we were the ones who were crushing over them. we lost what we wanted to have. we loved to someone who didn't even care about our feelings. we are hurt just because we loved someone. If they didn't want us at all how is it going to be their loss? I think we just wasted our time on something we shouldn't and trying hard to get over it even after knowing that we won't

[mikimouse13]

What I'm trying to say here is everyone here is a great person, and if someone doesn't realize that, then its unfortunate for them. I didn't phrase it the best, but I'm also 14, sooo...

[Anastasiya00]

happy for you!! but also: when you said he found out you mean he found out about your crush or your account in here and your questions about him?

[mikimouse13]

The crush, haha. Thank you so much! <3

[Anonymous]

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[pretty-kitty]

It's takes a strong person to learn and grown from painful situations. Good on yo7b

[mikimouse13]

Thank you! I'm happy I'm over him :) <3

[NatalieIsHere]

I believe this happens very often. You have to be strong to be able to move on quickly.

[mikimouse13]

Thank you :) <3

[xBreezy]

It's not his loss at all if he doesn't date you, its only your loss.
he doesn't find you attractive its not his loss. You're the one upset not him. You're not better than ever you're pissed that he rejected you. Stop bashing him just because he doesn't want you.

[BaileyisDarcy]

Where did she bash him?

Learn to read and comprehend before you continue commenting on peoples shit.

[xBreezy]

@BaileyisDarcy This entire post is her trying to imply how she's better than him and doesn't want him after he REJECTED her.
So lets say if i ask out a Vicotria's secret model who makes 100k a year and she turns me down, but its her loss right? Because i'm the best she could've ever had, right?
Do you know how fucking stupid she sounds?

[mikimouse13]

Hi there!
I'm glad to see you're able to have an opinion. That's absolutely and fantastically great! However, I don't feel you've fully read my article, so let me summarize.

I liked a guy. I was getting over him. He didn't like me back. I was okay with that, and realized I don't need a guy to make me happy. We're friends now.

I never said it was HIS loss. I simply said I was happier without him as a romantic interest.
I'm sorry I offended you, singular person hiding behind a screen. If you have any more hate to throw at me, please, feel free to private message me! I'm completely open to listening to a random 19 year complain about me. Thanks and have a fabulous day.

[mikimouse13]

Hi there!
I'm glad to see you're able to have an opinion. That's absolutely and fantastically great! However, I don't feel you've fully read my article, so let me summarize.
I liked a guy. I was getting over him. He didn't like me back. I was okay with that, and realized I don't need a guy to make me happy. We're friends now.
I never said it was HIS loss. I never implied I was better than him. He's a very good person. If you're going to throw hate, please at least check your facts. If you have anymore hate to throw, feel free to private message me.

[Anonymous]

Well, thanks to him you didn't even have to confess in person, so I guess that saved you the pain of the humiliation to get over with.

[mikimouse13]

Haha, true!

[scooogy]

It took me years to get over my crush, but I notice that I'm happier now