HAVING A CRUSH
If you suffer from the following symptoms, its is very likely that you have a serious crush:
- You find that person very physically attractive and dont seem to be noticing any flaws whatoever. your friends mention their "flaws" but you dont seem to mind.
- You think about them constantly no matter how many times you try to stop or distract yourself. bonus points for thinking about them right when you wake up and right before bed
- When you're around them, you have sweaty palms and butterflies and everything is a bit of a crazy blur. You may also be a bit nervous or stressing about what you say and how you act.
- You fantasize about them, whether its sexual or just being around them
- Their jokes are hilarious to you and you remember every little detail about their life
- You find yourself frequenting places where theyre most likely to be
- If you can't focus on homework, a conversation or task without your thoughts drifting to them, you have it bad
- If you find yourself stalking their social media or dying when they like one of your posts/photos, this is another sign of your infatuation.
- You get jealous if they receive or show affection to other girls/guys
- you find yourself replaying conversations or things he's said to you in your head. also trying to dissect their comments and find hidden meanings is a sure fire sign.
- If you find yourself mentioning him a lot in conversation without meaning to.
- If you find yourself teasing him or playfully hitting him, there is a huge chance you have a crush.
- You stress a lot about the way you look if you're going somewhere you might run into him/her.
WHEN ITS TIME TO MOVE ON FROM A CRUSH
I know you can't help who you find attractive or develop feelings for. And usually, a crush is totally harmless and passes within a couple of months. But when a crush has dragged on for 6 months and even over a year, without really developing into something more, you owe it to yourself to move on if its becoming toxic.
Signs a crush is doing more damage than good:
- You find yourself miserable if you dont see them for prolonged periods of time. you can't concentrate or find the motivation to do anything and your life kind of revolves around the next time you might see them.
- The crush has not evolved into anything more and its been like a year.
- You feel infatuated with someone you rarely even talk to
- It goes froom being exciting and fun to making you miserable, lonely and disappointed
It's even worse when your crush leads you on/gives you false hope.
Sometimes, a crush will get the hint that you like them and may find you attractive or even flirt back. This can be harmless, or it can get to the point where its really destructive. these signs usually are a good indication that you are being led on by your crush:
- They compliment you but also compliment other girls in your presence
- They are hot and cold with you. eg. one time they will look really happy to see you and will flirt a lot and another time seem indifferent and disinterested.
- They flirt but dont ever actually initiate conversations over inbox or text when you two haven't seen each other in a while
- They make no future plans to see you or initiate plans to hang out
- His friends may make jokes or comments that he likes you yet he has not ever actually expressed anything to you
- He rarely likes your photos, posts, comments, etc on social media. this is only a sign if he is active on social media.
- They will call you hot, sexy, etc rather than beautiful, pretty, funny and every compliment seems to be based on looks
- They dont seem to mind when you talk to or flirt with other guys/girls
- If you are together in a social setting and they are showing a lot of interest in other girls/guys, especially in your presence, MOVE ON. you deserve someone who spoils you and makes you feel special.
- They constantly steer the conversational topic to them/their interests/their life rather than show genuine interest in you/your likes and dislikes.
- If you feel as though you have to fight for their attention/interest, MOVE ON
- They are constantly bragging about themselves and their accomplishments. to a certain extent, this could be designed to impress you. but when it gets too much, MOVE ON...
Take it from me guys and girls of GAG. I have liked the same guy for over a year. Been told by numerous friends that he's into me. Had hope and been convinced at some points that all my feelings were mutual. Had incredibly low moments where I've been convinced that he feels nothing for me.
For some reason, I woke up today so emotionally exhausted and drained from this crush. It hit me out of nowhere that there IS a chance that my crush likes me back, and there is a chance he doesn't like me. The possibility has kept me hooked for over a year.
But the point is, I deserve better. I deserve more than just a guy whos unsure about his feelings and changes his behaviour towards me from day to day. I deserve a guy who fights for me, makes me feel special and makes it abundantly clear that he likes me back. At 20 I dont want to play childish games.
Please if you're going through the same thing or have gone through this, share your stories in the comments...or let me know what you think of this take :) <3
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