My last take touched basis on my love life, which is nonexistent. I'm 18, which is very young, so no, you don't need to point that out. I realize I have forever, and never in that take did I say I was even looking for someone. However, that was that take and it's over with. Anyway, that got me thinking, I haven't dated anyone, in fact I haven't even kissed anyone. Yet, I have had plenty of crushes and I think I'd like to tell you about them. This is obviously more personal to me than you all, but I find my past interests to be very amusing.
My First Real Crush
I won't give out names but let's just say it was the name of a state, or two. North and South. Think cold and Crazy Horse Monument. You with me? Good. I was in 7th grade when I met this boy. He was tall and a little husky. Not chubby, just bigger. I think I liked this boy because, he gave me attention, which no boy ever had before, but this kid, gave LOTS of girls attention. Some girls he would constantly tease and flirt with and I happened to be one of the exclusive girls. So, obviously, I fought it. I would tease back, minus the flirting.
But then 8th grade started and I had most of my classes with him, and I kept getting my seat assigned next to him, so our flirt/tease game really blossomed that year. I was full blown obsessed, not like, smell his hair when he wasn't looking obsessed, but refresh his Facebook over and over, and like his TBH posts. However, high school started and I just moved on. These days, I don't really know what he is doing, think he's talking to some girl a few years younger than us.
The "Sneaker Head"
This boy was tall and skinny. Really skinny. He was one of those guys who was tan with light brown hair so everything was just the same shade. In 9th grade we went on an art field trip to D.C. at the end of freshman year. I ended up with a small group of friends and he somehow got mixed in. We spent a lot of time walking side by side, falling behind the group. He laughed at all my jokes, really hard. What was this? A guy, who thinks I'm funny, is super nice to me, and cute. He was the quiet type, which I wasn't used to but was so willing to adjust to. I didn't see him over the summer but somehow I still had the feels for him. This was when ask.fm was hotter than ever. If you don't know what it is it's when you can anonymously ask people questions, great format for secret admirers.
So I, like the creep I am, filled his inbox daily, and talked to him through their, always flirting and also just being genuine about how neat I thought he was. He desperately wanted to know who I was. But I just couldn't tell him. I tried to grow some balls and through a mutual friend, I tried to get a feel about what he thought about me. She said he said I was "cute". I never found out if it was true, if he just said it to be nice or if he even said that at all. Skip ahead, I texted him told him the secret admirer was me, he said thanks basically and that was it. I soon learned that there isn't much to him, I don't say that to seem bitter but he is just a naturally kind of boring person. He's just flat, nothing wrong with that but it doesn't make me feel a little better that we weren't mean to be anyway. These days, he has a very large chest tattoo and has become really into to drinking, smoking, sneakers and rap music to each their own but it seems he wasn't my type in the end.
My best friend
One of my best buds used to have me completely heart eyes. I met him back in 6th grade but I didn't know him, just sat beside him in language arts. He disappeared, later found out he was home schooled. So fast forward to 10th grad gym. HE HATED ME. I had finally become confident and bubbly again for the first time in years. Some called me fun, some call me obnoxious. He couldn't stand my personality and I also refused to participate in gym to many of the guys liking. He was so in love with my best friend and if I'm being honest, he still has a soft spot.
They dated for a week and a half. Anyway, I fell for him harder than anyone in my entire life. I was almost miserable, about a year and some months ago, I told him the truth, how much I really truly, truly cared for him. We were really close by this point. He took it well, but expressed that he feared I would stop being his friend. Fast forward and I got over him, you could say I still have a soft spot to this day. But we are still close, I talk to him most days. You can scroll down some of my past questions and you can find quite a few questions about him. Today, he is dating a friend of mine and they seem rather happy.
The Male Version of my sister
Oh boy, this kid. I liked him for ALL the wrong reasons. There was a time where I thought that I wanted to lose my virginity and experience all these things. I was friends with him but not tremendously close. I had heard a story through our mutual friends that he had sex with some girl he met at a hotel over the summer. He was cute, but not so hot that I thought he was out of my league. Oh, this guy has had sex and we are in the same league, this could work.
This was junior year and I was finally out of my ugly stage so I decided I had a chance. But he's one of those guys you have to write it on your forehead for him to take a hint that you like him. I literally texted him EVERY SINGLE DAY without fail, we literally would talk about his dick all the time. Our conversations were so suggestive. I really did think he was cute though. I wanted to go to junior homecoming with him, but he liked another girl. I was bummed but okay. Moving on, buy around Christmas, I threw in the towel, I wasn't brave enough to tell him, my friends had tried, the lust has started to wear off, I gave up.
I ended up going to prom with him. Neither asked the other, we just didn't have dates in our group, so we paired up. I had gotten to know him better by now, I realized he had the EXACT same personality as my older sister, which is very nerdy, if that doesn't kill the mood, I don't know what does. I hang out with him from time to time. We went to a concert together about a month ago. Sometimes he comes off as flirty and I just think, if only you knew, or if this was like two years ago.
Remember the guy who I'm good friends with now just two paragraphs up? Yeah, so last summer, I met some friends of his. I didn't really remember this guy. Fast forward to a football game at my high school, this kid kind of ambushed me towards the end and quickly asked for my snapchat, I gave it to him. I asked my good friend what it was about he said "don't talk to him" jokingly. Almost to say, he's an idiot, don't worry about it. He messaged me that night and we talked a little the next day, really casually and then we just stopped. Forgot about him for the most part.
Fast forward to last month. I saw a snapchat of his buttcheeks being exposed on our mutual friend's story (he got pantsed). I didn't know it was him. I replied to it saying something about how I didn't need to see it. Anyway, he said how the guy thought I was hot and I totally remembered again. I stalked a little bit, he was really cute, cuter than I remembered. But I believe he was talking to someone at the moment. So today I saw on his story a very cute cuddly picture of him with a girl. Good for him. I didn't know him well, but I was hopeful, guys seldom think I'm cute and I also think they're cute. But I hope he is happy!
Moral of the story: There isn't one, I guess it just felt good to reminisce on the past. It was just fun. I'm completely aware that for many of you, this was pointless and boring. I just like to tell stories honestly. I've got forever for guys. No need to pine over one. I'm just a hopeless romantic, I think. Now, I'm focusing on me, I know things happen for a reason. I've been focusing more on my religion and happiness. It's good to have my mind few of boys for awhile, I would love being able to just relax. I'm a happy person, and intend to stay that way, regardless of the boys I encounter.
Oh Boy: Crushes I've Had, and Why They Didn't Develop Into Love
I can relate to this My Take so hard, lol. What I've found when I look back on all my crushes from over the years, is that although being rejected sucks, I know now that I was better off w/o any of them-- I even say it's like something was saving me from myself. When you have a crush you have these rose colored glasses on, and the object of your affection can do no wrong... they're totally perfect, until something happens to make you realize they're not, and the glasses are forced off. -- My first major crush lasted 6 years., from 6th grade to my Jr. yr. of high school. We started as friends, but when I told him I liked him in 7th grade he started ignoring and avoiding me... then about a month later he started going out w/ my best friend. The two of them wound up getting into major trouble though when one of our teachers went to the counselor on them b/c they would purposely come to school in gym shorts so they could sit together in class with their hands in other's pants under the desk, fondling each other. Something I wouldn't have been comfortable doing... so there's that. -- Then my Senior yr of high school I started liking a guy who I realized, once the rose colored glasses were very much forced off, was nothing but a rude, passive aggressive, shit-talking-behind-people's-backs, whiny little bitch with an ego bigger than he was, that no one liked, who was always over dramatic and who over reacted about the stupidest stuff, and was a complete asshole to me and others... yet considered himself as-- yep-- "a nice guy". -- And my most recent crush is a guy at my college who's literally every little thing I've ever wanted in a boyfriend, and I was sure he liked me too... but of course he already has a serious girlfriend. So like you, I'm just focusing on myself and my education, b/c obviously I have really bad taste in guys, and bad timing and a curse on my love life (jk, but only a little, that's what it feels like at this point)... maybe it'll work out one day, maybe it won't. But I'm sure you'll find love someday :)
Pursue someone because you believe in that someone's personal causes yourself, or at least some of them, or admire their passion, and the two of you genuinely get along.
Do NOT pursue someone just because they're good looking, pretended to be nice to you one time, or because you feel like life is not being fair to them and you take pity on them.
Great mytake. Right now I'm crushing on the twin of my freind that I view as my sister. In other words I'm crushing on my freind whose is the twin of my close freind that I view like a sister. And I'm almost out of the freindzone with my crush. :)
Just a thought. If you want a guy, don't wait for him to choose you. That's not what it's about. You're thinking: I'm a good nice kind decent girl, so guys should just go crazy about me. Nope. No way. That's not going to work. You want a guy, you go out and get him. And that means the first thing you have to do is beat competition - meaning other girls. That's all. Learn how to seduce and manipulate. Also the only self confidence you get will come from inside of yourself, not from some guy's love. First, be your own best girlfriend. Find lots of friends. Go out and have fun. Build a great emotional support network. Don't bury your head in studying or work. Then go out and get that guy. Even if you have to elbow other girls out of your way to get him. And when all is said and done, a guy will never fill that void in your heart. He is a good treat, but good girlfriends are what truly matter.
I never said I'm waiting for him to choose me. I set he will come along, that could mean anything, he will come into my life, I never said how. I'm not looking for a guy right now. You conclusion was that boys don't fill voids, well yeah, that was kind of my point towards the end.
And always remember this: Crushes are temporary and potentially painful, but they're memory-makers and launching pads for future relationships, which will have a better chance at success simply because of the very introspective nature of crushes.
Simply, you learn a lot about yourself and it really helps. ;)
This wasn't boring at all. I felt like I could relate with someone. You were more bold than me though. My crushes never took it anywhere. The ball stayed in their court and I forgot about them over the summer. I'm tired of those crushes where there is tension and the sense of flirting but it doesn't go any where
well my first crush was an absolute asshole that wanted to use me and when i thought i finally found someone that likes me as well it turned out that he's freaking gay
Look whose back. Well think of it this way, usually when girls get asked out, regardless, she will still think it's sweet even if she said no. If not, she was bitch, not really worth having a crush on anyway.
Well, ya did call me bitchy so my first impression wasn't great. But I doubt that reflects who you are as a whole package. Sometimes it's the way you carry yourself. A lot of guys, especially on here don't want to hear the truth cause they can't handle it. Some guys are just too nice. They can be a bore. Don't know if you noticed, but girls like to nag. Also, with really sweet guys, there is this pressure they put on you, unintentionally. Like you're gonna owe them later, even if he tries to reassure you. There is this pressure with a sweet guy "Look at everything I've done for you" and that's just a shitty feeling. With a douchebag, she doesn't have to constantly feel like she's in the wrong, because he's an asshole. If that makes any sense. Now, right off the bat, I don't know enough about you to know why your relationship status is the way it is.
Yeah that's true. I try not to put that pressure on, cause I don't think she owes me anything. I mean my crush has been a great friend anyway because I think that's all she ever thought we were.
I think a lot of people struggle to set a basis and also have in cross over into understand for their interest so that they both understand that it's more than a friendship but more than having sex. I read a good take on nice guys, I don't consider it to be 100% true but it has some truths.
Well, I think I can relate, but although I kinda liked some guys I never had the courage to really talk to them-I would just stare sometimes. I still do this to the very day, and I actually feel like I'm "losing" something? Like, I think I could actually have a relationship-or at least a friendship- with those people. But oh well..
I watched a movie called Blue Valentine. The basic premise is that love doesn't exist. Even young couples who are seemingly madly in love will eventually break up. E. g. the one guy will cheat etc.
What the fuck are you on about? You act like I sat around like "Well they're missing out on me". I basically admitted that I was shy and would have rather not asked. They were crushes, and I didn't expect them to do anything for me. You basically missed my point, which concluded that those guys wouldn't have worked out regardless, mostly cause I was in my early teens.
That's sort of true just saying. But there is no helping it. It's animal nature. The two genders had to take different roles in the family. The male is built to protect and lead the family. This is why the male has to show the female that he is confident enough to do so. That is why it ends up being the male who "asks out" the female.
please don't get triggered people. I'm not saying it has to be this way, i'm just saying this is how humans and other animals are built. It wasn't my decision.
@Unpacuaqueteculthi Okay, Discovery Channel, cool facts. I just think he came here cause some girl hurt his feelings and had absolutely nothing to do with me. Every time a guy starts a debate and a girl responds back, someone hollers 'triggered'. Learn how to talk to people, exchange words.
Ok, just saying to both of you that it's no one's fault that people are like that. by the way Discovery C is shit. Nat Geo is much better if you're going with that stuff. My real source: The city. Like an acutal city.
I think for some, it's important, a lot of people get hurt, but it's kind of building blocks for them. Not everyone works this way but I think it's good for some. It lets them get a feel for what type of people they know they don't want to end up with.
Lots of people are happy being single their entire life. That's not my plan. But it's not like it's a necessity. Thinking I have forever (which was taken far too literally) is hardly a mistake.
I plan on being single my entire life as relationships are a waste of my time. But that is not what we are talking about and you know that. When I say women don't have forever we are talking about the ones investing their time into a relationship. Eggs expire and the later you wait the more you increase your chances for a birth defect. Lots of women rag on teenage pregnancies as if they are somehow more mature for the situation but I find that the most immature and unfit mothers happen to be in their late 20s and early 30's.
But not all women want to have children. I don't rag on teenage pregnancy so I understand what you're saying, but it has absolutely nothing to do with me.
And I don't really care about how you personally feel because when generalizing things personal examples mean nothing. I mentioned women ragging on teenage pregnancy in general not that you do it. It's also common knowledge that not all women want children but that demographic is irrelevant to the discussion being had.
My original statement which is the one you responded too. Someone said it's okay you can just wait, and I replied no you really can't. Women are on a timer, fact of life.
Yeah, if they plan to have children. Everyone is on a timer. Of course I know I can't have children forever, but I'm talking about relationships, I fairly certain that I will have someone in my life in the future, but I'm 18 right now so there is not point in being in a big rush. I'm just repeating myself.
You makes choices in life just be prepared to accept the consequences of those actions. Being 18 isn't rushing it, trust me todays humans are not getting smarter with age.
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