I normally don’t do sequel Takes, especially so long after the first one, but this has been in the making for a long time because I still have more I wanted to talk about with guys concerning this classic issue. This time I go into a little more, deeper detail about these chicks and their mindsets, and how guys who aren’t badboys can know what to look out for in chicks who like them.
I would've begun this by detailing my own recent experience with a bad girl that gave me some amount of anxiety, but unfortunately, just like the first Take, this one is a bit of a volume already lol. But just sit tight and follow me through.
“Nice guys” and girls who like badasses are really the same…
You see a lot of females on GaG complaining against nice guys and how they aren’t really nice, and we see so-called nice guys trying to defend themselves. In truth neither one is really in the right. Is it true that a lot of “nice guys” aren’t really what they proclaim to be? Yeah. But a lot of the females who are against “nice guys” are generally crud themselves, and often are the types who like badboys.
Even if the guy really was a nice, decent man who didn’t even proclaim himself as such, these females still would not want him because ultimately they crave the badness in other guys. They simply don’t want upright, behaviorally-intelligent men. And they themselves are usually putting up a pretense of being a decent girl so no one will really know how she is and what she likes. She can fool you just as easily as a man putting on a good guy persona.
So at the end of the day “nice guys” and girls who like badboys really might as well be with each other anyway because both are dishonest with unseen motives or intentions.
Bad girls also do like you because you're "clean"...
Believe it or not, some of these girls - although they are rare - are also attracted to "clean," decent men. But make no mistake, their intentions aren't as good as you think.
They do find your decency to be very sexy, and some want to get with you so they can feel like they got a good guy now and are actually worthy of having you, and others want to get with you just to use you for your goodness because they perceive you as pure and naive and think you'll be a gentleman for them whenever they want, without being the wiser.
Then some others want to get with you because they actually want to turn you bad, and usually with sex, as if you're like the virgin female being deflowered by the sly guy. Believe it or not some of these girls really do have a mindset of wanting to take your goodness away or being thrilled that they got to sleep with a high quality guy. You usually will figure out what they're trying to do by the way they're showing much interest in you, sending hints, or giving you outright flirty looks or stares.
But there are also some situations where a bad girl really does like your goodness and decency but knows she wouldn't stand a chance with you. She's aware of her own inner self, behavior, and lifestyle but can tell that you are a guy who really is just too good for her. Even in this I would not be quick to show her any interest. Bad habits are hard to break, and it isn't your job to make her a king's queen.
They want to humiliate you or make you jealous…
Sometimes girls who like badasses think they can humiliate you or make you feel bad about yourself if they think you’re too pure, innocent, soft, or “boring.” They will especially do this if you’re into her and she’s not into you, and you may not even know she likes badboys. She will make it a point to act quiet or blahzay and distant if you’re around, but then when the badboy walks into the room she gets lively and talkative with him. She wants to make a sweetly malicious show of who she’s into, a sideways message to you that says, “This is the kind of man I like, and you aren’t it.” They want to see how you’ll react to her being cool with him and if you’ll get jealous.
Don’t take the bait. What I’ve done in situations like these is act normal with yourself and be oblivious to what she’s doing, and what really stings her is if someone else walks into the room - especially if it’s another female - and you start chatting with them like normal, like you didn’t even notice the other girl or her malicious intent. They really hate it when you show yourself unfazed by it.
They’re sizing you up…
Just like I explained in my other Take a while back, A Guy Can Tell If A Woman Has Slept With Several Men, women are sizing men up in their own way, and for females who like badasses they are especially sizing you up sexually and rating for themselves how manly, tough, or sexually capable they think you are. They’re judging you by the way you speak, your body language, how you respond to situations even the simplest ones, how you interact with them and even other guys and comparing you to them, and even judging your body sexually to figure out what your dick might be like, your energy, or if you could fuck like a real man or a hard man.
Hell, one time two of my old female co-workers and I were talking about sex and they said how they can’t handle big dicks because they were both petite, yet one judged mine by my shoe size and was surprised when I said I use Magnums over Trojans which really are shit condoms. To me anyway.
Females who like badboys really are just looking for a fuck a lot of the time, and their minds are often focused on trying to figure out which ones they think are man enough for them. And you figure out what they’re doing and how they’re thinking by watching them back in turn. Like I’ve told guys more than once on GaG: one of the best ways to learn a lot about a woman is to observe the way she is with you vs. the way she is with other guys.
“It’s about confidence,” they say…
It humors me when I hear so many girls defending their love for bad/grungy/tough/wild guys - “They have confidence and that’s what we like,” “They’re not boring but fun and adventurous,” etc. They want a confident man but are still picking and choosing which types they want to go for, and it’s almost always the ones with an edge to them or being badass. It is almost never a truly ‘decent’ confident man.
There are many men full of confidence and boldness, who know how to approach people and situations, how to handle things, how to flatter and flirt with women in clever, entertaining ways, how to take charge and be self-sufficient and provide, without exuding any kind of image of actually being a badass. And that’s why these females don’t want them. Men like that are “boring” and too “clean” for them. Instead they like the dark, sly, mysterious, or even dirty, defiant, rough look/behavior in other men. As I said, it’s true badness they like. A man of defiance more than a man of intelligence. Not actual decent confidence. Because a lot of it comes down to sex for these females.
The kinds of things these women are looking for in men are short-term laughs, thrills, and sex. I’ve learned in my life that quite a few females - mostly young ones - do not actually favor life intelligence in men. And more than once I’ve seen them turn down decent guys for the thrilling flyboy.
These females have no real values…
I am amazed at the way these girls will talk about having standards or declaring everything they want and expect in men, but then contradict it. They won’t date a guy because he works a part-time job even if it’s some place like Subway or Pizza Hut, or because he doesn’t have a car, but he’s actually got a job and may even be trying to get into school or get somewhere in life, but they’ll go after the guys with DUI records, who steal cars or have a new one, and beat women up.
They won’t date a guy who still lives with his parents but is in college or has a part-time job, but they’ll stick by pathetic guys sitting in prison for doing something stupid, or who still live at home and have their mothers paying their phone bills, and these girls will actually drive these guys around in their own car or even let him live up in her house doing nothing.
They won’t stick with a guy who will actually stand up for her in any situation and be her ally when others are wrongly against her, but they’ll stand by guys who beat them up and go after thrilling guys who will leave her hanging when the going gets tough and would never defend her for anything.
They also don’t think about their futures or their potential children. You’re attracted to wild, badasses but would you want your son to be that way? Do you think it would be sexy and admirable for your own son to be a badass too? Is that what you would promote in your boys? And would you want your daughters to also desire those kinds of men?
Looking for a savior later in life…
At some point - and usually after they’ve been used up enough by badboys - these chicks start slowing down in life. The emptiness, scars, or loneliness of going with badasses catches up with them. They start regretting all their decisions, lifestyles, and past. The kid they got, missing college, or never truly being loved by a guy, and now they’re ready to start wanting the “good men” they once scorned as being too soft, pure, innocent, boring, and not tough and manly enough. Now they’re angry because they can’t find these men or because these men are not interested in them.
I’ve met a couple of these, and I will be honest and say I refuse to give them any chance no matter how much they may have changed. They now want good men in their lives who will be like a personal Jesus that will forgive them for their sins, a man who will want to love and respect them and overlook their pasts, a man who will be and give what they scorned once before, so they can feel redeemed and not live out the rest of their lives single or broken. I’m sorry if it sounds mean but I am not interested in being that savior.
Keep your distance…
Despite girls who like badasses trying to tell other guys what they’re doing wrong and how to be cool and attractive for them and other women, and even despite what badboys themselves want to try to tell guys, you do not have to succumb to that mindset as a guy. Your personality and mentality is yours, and there are still other kinds of women out there who do like you as you are and aren’t into badasses. Don’t let the pressure change you. If a girl thinks you’re boring and uncool, let her keep picking the badboys. That doesn’t have to be your problem. You just know from now on to eliminate all association with her or just keep things at a hello-goodbye in passing.
You want a smart woman, and you should keep your search and goals on that. You do not have to let the other girls - and guys - make you doubt your confidence or ability to find a decent girl. They are out there.
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