A quick angry message to girls

[Anonymous]

You don't want to chat, just let us know instead of ignoring messages!

Don't tell me you appreciate the friendship and you want to be friends and then after a while just cut things off suddenly without explanation when we've been friends for so long!

Don't pretend to be busy when you're clearly active on social media! I don't know if they assume we're stupid or something I don't know...

I also think one word answers are not nice! Especially if the person cares enough to ask about you! You should at least return the question. I think it's way less rude to just be honest that you want things to end (i.e the friendship, the relationship or whatever) than to just ignore the person suddenly like they don't exist.

Be nice and please
BE HONEST!

I'm sorry, but I'm just VERY hurt by a girl who did exactly that... I know that some girls are not confrontational, but I think they should bother to do some explanation at least out of respect!

Thank you

[btbc92]

You're entitled to rant about it. And I agree with many aspects of what you're saying and understand perfectly how you're feeling. At the same time I also think that you need to calm yourself down, and try to rationalize and understand why certain people do the kind of things that they do and don't always assume.

1. I learned that sometimes some people are just not in the mood to chat. Or busy speaking to other people especially if they speaking to a lot of people, and has to find room like appointments, to fit you in. This is something that you got to communicate very early before establishing any kind of relationship. Like I always do.

2. If you dealing with a person that just cut you off and there's no closure, then you're dealing with a toxic person. Now if they fully explain to you prior of an incident that causes them to feel a certain way, and you still do it. Then they have the right to door slam you out of their life. And there's no begging for that. But if you have been communicating on your end, and it's always one-sided, then you don't deserve that.

3. A person doesn't always got to pretend to be busy unless they simply just don't want to talk to you. To be honest most people are not stupid about this, people just choose to be stupid when they know they're being ignored. Just because a person is active on social media, that doesn't always mean that they are literally active. There's plenty of times where I logged off of a site and had not officially logged myself out. Thus I an still online even though I am not physically there. Not smart, I know. Especially for potential hackers. But that is also one possibility. Otherwise, I think it's wise for others to he honest.

4. Don't take one word sentences personal. If you dealing with a personality that is not always verbally expressive, then you need to be with people who are. That's what I had to learn. Otherwise, if you start behaving as if you're entitled to their attention, they're going to cut themselves off from you anyway. Because they don't need they toxicity. Sometimes for myself I'm not well. Sometimes I go through a lot of stress. And when I speak a lot, sometimes that just adds more stress than necessary. So I rather to remain silent than to keep going.

But your overall rant is Justified. It is hurtful, and people should be more realistic about what they can and can't handle pit but sadly a lot of people are not that. I had to happen to more than enough times to know how that feels, but I also take responsibility for my actions as well and cannot expect other people to be happy about my actions and choices. There is a lot of relationships that should not happen. It doesn't always mean that everybody is bad who do it. But a lot of people not being responsible. I always say don't get yourself involved in something you can't handle. Because it's going to hurt worse when you know it and you still did it anyway. I had it happened to me recently by a guy. Had to cut loose.

[myTake Owner]

Yeah, well, sometimes finding a way to let it out works for the healing process. Like it's harmless like I'm not raging at her surely.

1. I had that happen with her and even when she was busy, we used to talk. She used reply even when she was busy. It's not a matter of being busy I believe she just doesn't want to chat anymore.

2. We did have our arguments like every friendship and we usually reconcile, because we're honest. But the last time I mean after she started acting differently, she just didn't care whether or not I was mad or upset. I was upset about her acting differently, but she just calls it overreacting and that's it. And as I mentioned, it suddenly started to become one-sided. It wasn't before. She used to reply right away.
I gave her some space. She deleted me from Instagram for no reason. After several months, I contacted her and it's the same. This time she didn't even reply to my last message.

3. I'm not talking about activity status, I'm talking about them making activities on social media. (Likes, comments, etc)

4. I'll admit I have taken them personally before. And we argued about it but that was a long time ago. And it didn't happen as often. In fact she used to reply as soon as she's available to my messages. I don't know what's going on in her life obviously since she doesn't talk to me. We used to chat, but not anymore.

It's a lesson learned btbc92. I won't settle for people who don't put in any effort ever again.
"There's a lot of relationships that should not happen." I disagree. I think they should, because pain makes the lesson stick. We have to go through it, because that's life.

[btbc92]

Pain in be honest actually don't do anything. If anything it teaches people, the wrong kind of experiences that's this going to end up hurting other people. We are protected from certain relationships for a very good reason. But it's up to us to decide whether or not we're going to push based on selfishness. And sadly if that's the only real person is ever going to learn then you'll learn the hard way.

[myTake Owner]

How are we protected from certain relationships?

[btbc92]

1. If she doesn't then it's no lost if it was never found. I learned that if people wants to be there, they'll be there.

2, 3 and 4. It's also possible she is seeing other guys and is fooling around with them. Therefore neglecting your needs as a friend or is around toxic people.

In my opinion I just say for you just to mourn your loss of yourself right now in this relationship that you had with her. But don't mourn over for her, because she never deserved you in the first place. Real friends don't do stuff like that.

[btbc92]

Well, God gives us certain people in our lives who have wisdom, foreknowledge and at times the personal experience to guide us. The same with Intuition of its part of your personality like myself. I can sense when things are wrong and foresee a bad future with that person. Sometimes the main issue is not always because is person is bad or evil. But because of many factors. Either they're making bad choices that are not good, will hurt/effect You and others, or will show you of things to come IF you continue to pursue that relationship.

[btbc92]

Toxic people change their allegiance like the wind.

[btbc92]

Is a lot of relationships that God help protected me from, as well as relationships that God wanted me to protect my friends from. But as much as I did my best to be a mother figure for my friends, I could not control their choices. But they learned it the hard way when everything that I was told and reveals came to pass. And sometimes it ends up even turning out to be far worse than I even expected. Well I know if I get that gut feeling something's not right I don't care how good that person is oh, I do not want to just please God let alone get myself caught up in situations I can't be responsible for. I know a place that wisdom to you. You feel something is wrong, I don't care how good it sounds to be true with anybodu. Listen to it.

[myTake Owner]

She didn't seem to want any relationships with anyone. At least as far as I know. But that's the only explanation. Because it's so not her. Like even when we didn't know each other as much, she wasn't that cold. But then again, I've had enough! She's been on my mind for WAY too long. It's so not healthy! I shouldn't think about her anymore and I try not to... I did what I could and more. That's what she wants and there's nothing I can do about it.

Well, I'm an Atheist, but I do think that some things should be experienced. For what it's worth, we learn. We grow.

[btbc92]

It's not about you being atheist or me believe in God. It's just the way how life is in way how this life is. Overall, if this is what it takes for you to learn, then there's not much that you can do except learn from this and try not to get yourself in that situation again. There is always patterns about things and people that you can pick up if you learn to pay attention to these things. In my opinion I think you that way too emotionally invested in a person you didn't really know. And she has shown and proven her true colors. No, you care about her and she was somebody that was important to you. You have every right to feel the way how you feel and you shouldn't downplay your feelings or emotions because of other people. Your feelings and your thoughts are yours. They don't belong to others. She's just very disrespectful, and seems like a very shallow person who doesn't respect relationships that she have. But always wanting more and something that they think is better.

[btbc92]

There are Christians who go through the same things you go through and they still don't learn. They still don't ask God for guidance because they think they know everything when they don't. We have to learn to pay attention to the signs that are around us, and be vigilant to guard our minds as well as our hearts. When you lack wisdom in these areas you're going to constantly be stuck in the same areas throughout the rest of your life. It's not worth being in that same cycle of hell. But if you had a feeling that she was a certain way, as you just admitted in your own words, that should have been your cue not to get yourself involved with her from the get-go. The fact that you knew that she was somewhat of a cold person should have been a red flag to you.

[myTake Owner]

Well said! Yeah, it's so true; we have to listen to red flags as sometimes they may give us a clue that this is a potential pattern that we should avoid. Although in life we should expect anything.
The reason I mentioned learning wasn't isn't just the acts she made. So because of her honesty, there were times where I learned about myself from her. Like how I tend to act in certain situations. I was able to notice a few things and improve upon. I believe there's always some meaning or a lesson to what we go through. Some things really challenge us, our emotions, our patience, etc. We just have to find out what it is.

[btbc92]

Of course. Hopefully it won't happen again.

[Jackieboi]

Man... I get where you're coming from but no, just no! Bad Anonymous bad! I've been there several times myself, it can be quite frustrating especially when you think there is something going on, even if just friendship, with emphasis on "think". But you gotta ask yourself if maybe you are looking at it from the wrong perspective. All these things tou mention could be viewed as clear hints for you to spend your time one someone else. I agree its frustrating not to just get a clear message but fun fact, most people will never give you a clear answer about anything in life. If the signs you mentioned are there they are trying to let it go peacefully rather than getting into a whole thing when theyre not interested in you in the first place. Not to mention the more you push for clarity the more obsessed you'll seem which gives the scary creep vive too. Very bad... So dont obsess about it. you'll find yourself in the opposite chair soon enough, having to turn down someone who is cleary really into you, at which point you'll realize you're just like the gals you're not chiding for doing it to you. And you'll realize you're doing it because you dont want be a bad guy and be abrupt possibly hurting their feelings or even worse scarring them. Ofc some individuals from both sexes use this area to play people. Thats very bad ofc. Buy theyre usually easy to tell apart as one versio clearly wants as little to do with you as possible while the other will always keep you in their vicinity but never really respond to any adcances. Go watch a movie called 500 days of summer, its a little wtf throughout most of it but you'll realize why i wanted you to see it at the end. It certainly gave me a small aha feeling, and i have a friend who changed a lot after seeing it, only for the better. Srsly go see it rather than venting your frustration at people most likely to laugh at you, further making it a/your problem. Because from how you are describing it i think you only have yourself to blame, no hard feelings man! Feels

[Jackieboi]

... the gals you are now* chiding for doing so...

[myTake Owner]

It's true that sometimes there will be lack of clarity when friendships/relationships end and I probably need to be more comfortable with that. I get that she's not into me, but why act like you care in the first place? Like what hurts is that we were honest with each other most of the time when something bothered us about one another. She was a nice person.
No, I've not pushed for clarity I understand that that's not a good thing. Though I tried before when I felt like something was off, but I didn't get it.
"you'll find yourself in the opposite chair soon enough" Man I don't think I'll ever keep someone wondering about something. If I'm not interested in talking to them I'll probably create boundaries. But suddenly ghost that person?
I've already seen 500 days of summer. Man that sucks. Just watching it you can feel the pain...
It hasn't gotten that far at least. Like she already told me she just wants to be friends when I confessed that I like her.

[Jackieboi]

Well at least then you know the power of wishful thinking. Other then that diversify your bonds. No point in keeping all your eggs in the same basket. you'll see its easier to care less when it happens then. Neither will you have time to write angry myTakes aimed at all gals in general😛

[myTake Owner]

I'm trying to forget, to let go. :(

[Sonorous]

I agree with you that it's messed up to not give clear indications of how they feel especially if you're friends with the person. But if you're not close friends with the person or anything more than strangers, then they don't owe anything to you. And I say that in the most genuine way possible. 🙏 It's happened to me many times where girls ignore me, leave me on R, or even lie to me when could have easily told me how they felt. But we can't blame them for that. Some people are just too nice to say no so they'd rather just not say anything. Sure there are the ones that are rude, but that's a very clear indication that they aren't into you. It's best to just leave those types be. When I was younger I couldn't quite understand the hints so I just kept on and on until they branded me as "creepy or annoying."

And the ones that are "friends" but lie to your face, aren't good friends. I could never be friends with someone like that. It'd feel like there's no trust.

I'm all for fixing relationships and stuff.. But some in my opinion, some just aren't worth the time and effort. Especially if they aren't making attempts to be better. I've cut off "friends" from my life that were just negative influences, and I think you've got to do that as well. Make sure you don't go for the girls that will do you wrong. Go for the ones that respect you!

[myTake Owner]

Thank you and yes you're right. We've been acquaintances for two years (we message every now and then) and then due to circumstances we became friends who talk almost everyday for several months. I saw an opportunity to confess, and I did, but she wanted to remain friends. We were honest with each other. That's what hurts. We remained friends for three months things were going great. I feel like we got closer, she used reply to my messages almost instantaneously. That's until she started to act weird. Like something suddenly happened. She starts to reply with one word answers and that's when I stopped communicating. I gave her space, but I messaged her again, and it's worse this time. She didn't even respond to my last message.

[myTake Owner]

So unusual of her. She didn't do this even when we were just acquaintances. What happened to our friendship? Why did you say you appreciate the friendship then?

[Sonorous]

Ahh, did you confess your love for her? If so, then that may explain why she's distant. She may just think you're only talking to her because you're attracted to her and want to date her. Try and reassure to her that that's not all you wanna do and are fine with just being friends if that's really the case. She may be more open to replying back.

I said that? When?

[myTake Owner]

If that's the case she would've probably cut me off several months ago. I mean like after I confessed. I feel like our friendship grew stronger after I confessed I don't know why. She even said she doesn't want to lose the friendship and she asked me if I was mad at her back then which is why I'm so confused. But since she's not responsive and I tried to ask her a couple of times about why she's acting this way, and I didn't get any definite answer, I don't want to push her any further.
It's out of self respect man.

Lol I was talking about her...

[Sonorous]

Hmm... Maybe it's something totally different then. Maybe her problem isn't with you, but with herself. Maybe she's just not feeling okay? Or maybe she feels you'd be better off without her.

If I were you, I'd message her and say that's I noticed she's not responding like how she used to. And I hope everything is fine within her life. I'd mention that she can always talk to me if it's not.

And I'd leave it at that until one day she responded.

[myTake Owner]

Honestly, it's tempting to message her again, but I'll tell you where the issue with that is. After I realized she was acting weird and distant, I told her that I was mad about it and she just brushed it off as overreacting. After that I found out she deleted me from Instagram. So I delete her from Facebook because I was mad. When I tried the last time, I tried adding her back, but she didn't accept. Nor is she responsive. And so I feel like it's unwise to keep trying with her when she clearly isn't responsive. Again, it's out of self respect. I know it could be something going on with her, I don't know. Which is why it's tempting. But let's assume that that's the case, does she have to reject my messages because of something going on with her? Besides she's clearly active there, she just chooses not respond to me.

[Sonorous]

This is for future references because the damage has already been done. But In my opinion, It's best to not react in a vindictive way even if it seems the other person is. I think it's best to take the safe/optimistic route and never assume negative intent unless it's very very irrefutably clear. In this case, it wouldn't necessarily only have to be her telling you that she doesn't want to speak with you, it could just be repeated signs of her annoyance towards you. But still, hostile gestures like removing each other off social media is not a good route to go when things haven't been cleared up through voice to voice. Plus, it could make the situation worse especially if there's unclear communication, and seemingly weird motives happening.

"And so I feel like it's unwise to keep trying with her when she clearly isn't responsive"

^ I think if you send her one last civilized/orderly message making it known that it's your last message to her, while also clearing up how you truly feel towards her, then it wouldn't bee viewed as "unwise." Just make sure it's not an accusatory message. That may trigger a defensive response and close her off from seeing your perspective.

"does she have to reject my messages because of something going on with her? Besides she's clearly active there, she just chooses not respond to me."

^ Well nobody has to do anything. We just do what feels right at the moment based on the emotions were currently feeling. Past experiences heavily influence our decisions as well. She may be more inclined to do certain things because of the way she was raised and what she has experienced. So that's why it's tough for me to pick one side when it comes to human emotions. Her emotions probably feel just as valid as yours do. She may just have a harder time expressing them properly.

[myTake Owner]

I think she has to respond to my message at least in order for me to message her again. This will just make me appear needy and that's the last thing I want. She has given me no reason to message her. And honestly, in retrospect, I just think I'm too blinded by my emotions that I only looked at the positive things with her. We have the same background and I just used to enjoy talking to her generally speaking.

[Sonorous]

So what if you appear needy. So what if it goes against social norms. If you really care for her, I think you should clear everything up to her. Even if it's the last thing you ever send to her.

But what exactly did you send recently?

[myTake Owner]

I asked her how she's been doing, I mentioned that it's been long and she responded the next day despite being active, with just a one word reply without returning the question. Then I joked about it (about replying with one word) and that's it. She never replied. I just did it as to not seem serious like I was before, because I used to get mad when she delays replies. I think she replied like this because she doesn't want to chat.

[Sonorous]

Oh okay, well she probably knows how you feel then. I do think it's just best to leave her be until she stops acting so distant. But by then you may have already moved on. Find you someone that will treat you right though. Cutting those negative people out of my lives was very beneficial! It sucks that it has to happen, but some people are just so difficult to love. So you gotta love them from afar, behind a couple of thousand-million walls give or take.

[myTake Owner]

Exactly! You can't beg someone to be in your life and you shouldn't stick around for someone who doesn't appreciate you. It's gonna hurt in the pong run. I know it did for me. I can't stick around knowing I don't get any attention. It hurts, but that's life I guess.

[Sonorous]

Something similar happened to me with an unrequited crush. I had to completely stop looking at her pictures, following her, and trying to contact her because I knew she wasn't interested in me. I was just torturing myself trying to get in contact with her/get her to notice me in a different way. It still hurts that she never saw me differently than a stranger. But I knew I just had to move on for my own mental health! xD

[myTake Owner]

Yeah man it sucks, but we have to be strong.

[myTake Owner]

I have to ask, did you move on? If so, how long did it take you?

[Sonorous]

I had to block her in order to keep myself from looking at pictures of her. I tried to keep her in the back of my mind. Preoccupied myself with things. I watched many videos but the one that stands out the most has to be this one:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HKviVOv-XGU

[myTake Owner]

Yeah, I have seen this one and many more to be honest. It's a reality check, but I already know I shouldn't get attached to that person. It's just the memories with her just keep coming back.

[Sonorous]

Ahh, I've got no idea. The closest way I can relate is when I think of the old friendships I've had and lost. But the only thing I can think of is to just keep on living, adopt a stoic outlook upon it, and try to not think about it much. It may not feel right at first, but the memories will soon start to be less vivid and emotionally triggering.

[myTake Owner]

So time and mental distance is key.

[Sonorous]

Time, mental and physical distance (depending on the severity), and mental recovery (in whatever positive form it may be in).

[myTake Owner]

She's already out of my sight, so that's not an issue. I have this need to know what she's up to and what's going on in her life which is a problem.

[Sonorous]

Do you think you could keep up with her life and be okay? Like your feelings for her will still fade?

[myTake Owner]

No. It's just difficult to resist the urge especially when the person is someone you used to know for so long. I know I shouldn't, I know. But it's so hard sometimes it seems impossible. I just try.

[Sonorous]

You may have to set up a little discipline system. But you have to honor it or it won't work. It helped me at one point.

Block her or delete all of your apps. Then tell yourself that you won't look at her account or follow her in any way or you're gonna____________

______= something that you don't want to do. Like: mow the grass, take the trash out piece by piece, give a prized possession of yours away to someone

[myTake Owner]

Interesting piece of advice! I will try. Thanks! :)

[Sonorous]

No prob! You've gotta force yourself to do the discipline. It will be easy to just say no you won't do it, but you can't let yourself think about it. That's what made it work for me. If I messed up, I told myself that the only outcome is the disciplinary method I set for myself, then did it as fast as I could.

[Bella9191]

Maybe don’t just take your anger out on women. A big reason women act like this is because of men. So blame them too..
Many times a woman will let a man know how she feels and he then verbally abuses her. She doesn’t want to hear that response anymore so stops letting a man know.
Or sometimes a man can not verbally abuse and not accept. And continue to act like you’ve said nothing as if by ignoring reality it will change the truth. Both these scenarios are common for example. So the woman gives up, damned if she does damned if she doesn’t,
Also sometimes there’s more to someone’s story than you see. I know many people in deep depression who act in ways that make you feel they are just personally withdrawing from you but they are not.
There are shit people and good people.
There are mentally healthy and not mentally healthy people.
Don’t make it a gender issue. Harbouring resentment to women will stick with you for a long time. And lead to even more frustrations with women as they will sense your subconscious feelings.
Your dealt with some shit people. Find better people. Try to not focus on hating a gender. Because as you can see both genders have roles in behaving in retarded ways,
That’s my two cents anyway x

[myTake Owner]

I'm only saying girls is because I'm a man and I've had this experience. I didn't think people would get upset for that. To make things clear, I'm criticizing the behavior, not the gender.
"Damned if she does, damned if she doesn't." I disagree with you there. I think some explanation is nice. I think it shows that she respects the person and providing him with closure is definitely worth the risk (if there's any). Leaving someone or ghosting them is just confusing and leaves the other person wondering what they did wrong or what happened and that's no good place to be.
"I know many people in deep depression who act in ways that make you feel they are just personally withdrawing from you but they are not." I honestly have expressed interest in her life and that's what a friend is, but the more I look at it, the more I realize that she never did the same for me.

[LIM1T]

I understand the pain man, it hurts. You're right, women don't like confrontations. I guess you could say they think what you don't know can't hurt you. It's a messed up logic - they don't want to deal with that kind of drama. They just hope for the best that things will magically fix things by itself. Im all about honesty and being straight up - but remember we aren't perfect. Sometimes they might be scared from response they will receive if they are honest.

honestly takes courage.

[myTake Owner]

Well said!

[MadnessInside]

I feel you homie. Even though I have looked from many perspectives, it usually comes with the same outcome. Either they just like to ignore you or too hurt to talk. Either one still leaving someone on read is rude. Even if you message back later its better than nothing.

[myTake Owner]

Yeah, exactly! Like you don't care about other people's feelings you just throw them out the window.

[Account]

"Don't pretend to be busy when you're clearly active on social media! I don't know if they assume we're stupid or something I don't know"

Sometimes people do not want to respond to messages in general. They just want to scroll down their feed. Other times they simply do not want to answer to YOUR message but they do not want to be rude about it.

Also, I am sorry but she doesn't owe anything to you.

[myTake Owner]

I didn't say she did. She can do what she wants, but why choose to end a friendship like that? I was probably too attached to her. I was so hurt it was difficult. Difficult. I can't help but overthink whether I did something wrong. I keep replaying my interactions with her to try and see what was wrong and it's so not good. :(
Even though it may not necessarily be about me, I think it's not nice to leave someone wondering like that without any explanation, especially if you know them for so long. :(

[Account]

Odds are that you were being way too clingy.

[myTake Owner]

Thanks that was hepful

[AuroraRoseat]

I don’t like messaging, chatting, texting etc. Its exhausting. I’m a face to face person. It is rude to leave people hanging but it’s something that I end up doing because I can’t stand messaging (such a waste of time).

I also use one word answers because I’m succinct in written word (usually). There is nothing much for me to say. The only reason why anyone should do the aforementioned is for something immediate or to set up a meeting place etc. Not for conversation.

[myTake Owner]

Yeah, well this how you feel about messaging most of the time. She was not like that at all. She used to respond as soon as possible and she used to be engaged in the messages most of the time. But that's how she's acting with me now. She's not even responding.

[AuroraRoseat]

She might be tired of it

[myTake Owner]

Or she someone could've entered her life and she decided to end everything. Honestly though, I don't want to overthink it any longer. I've tried to get her attention many times, I even gave her space, but still she's the same. I'm done.

[Anonymous]

We don't need reasons, excuses and explanations because of ghosting you. We will make sure you keep chasing us women and cry if that's possible. Bottom line: grow up and stop expecting the whole world to respect you if you haven't even earned it. Ignoring you isn't disrespectful, no one will respond to you for your own convenience.

[myTake Owner]

Chill woman I'm just letting it out. Ignore people if that makes you happy.

[TheWaterisFine]

I am one of those girls, but this type of reaction is what I try to avoid therefore I just stop responding and hope you get the point without having to go there all together.

[Jackieboi]

Gotta be the dumbest logic I've heard in along time... Why not just be upfront from the start instead of feeding off his attenrion? Sad stuff.

[myTake Owner]

"This type of reaction" is because there's no closure. Do you have any idea what it's like to feel like you've done something wrong and overthink? Do you know what it's like to SUDDENLY not know ANYTHING about someone you used to know and talk to for so long? How you go back through every interaction just to know where things went wrong, start overthinking little things, but still not understand why the hell this happened? And that feeling you get afterwards...
"Hope you get the point without having to go there all together." What point? That you're not interested in talking? Yeah, well we get that obviously it's the why we don't get. Because it's not like we just met we've known each other for so long!

[Jackieboi]

Ok if you knew her long its pretty shitty move. But you're obsessing man, some people are assholes nothing you can do other than limit how much you care.

[TheWaterisFine]

Yes, I was that exact person you're speaking of for the majority of my dating life and after multiple failures and disappointment, it clicked. You can't make someone see your value, you shouldn't have to beg or force that connection. Or be the only one putting in any effort. You are robbing yourself and wasting your valuable time over the kids of something you possibly never had. "The heart is deceitful amongst all things. "

[Jemini_Crocket]

Why make such a big deal of it though? If she ignores you, then ignore her as well, move on. I never really understood this. I know it may be a little hurtful but it was never a problem for me to forget and get on with it.

[myTake Owner]

I'm not sure I made a big deal out of it. I'll tell you what I did. In the past she used to respond as soon as possible and she was engaged in the conversation. That was probably for as long as I've known her, even when she was busy and took her time, she would reply and be engaged. Except for maybe once or twice since I've known her, but that's it.
Then one day something didn't feel right, so you know when a friend seems a little bothered by something, when she doesn't engage as much as she used to, you'd ask right? Especially if it's someone you knew and care about. Well, I asked her why she doesn't talk as much, she dismissed it. I mentioned it a second time over Facebook she said I was overreacting. I then decided to give her space. She deleted me from Instagram and I was upset about it. I didn't tell her, but I deleted her from Facebook because I was upset. Then, something came up and I thought it was a good excuse to talk to her. So I did. She was even less responsive and less engaged then before. It took her a day or more to reply with one word answers. So unusual. I tried to ask her but I didn't get any satisfying answer. Then I decided to completely cut her off.

Six months later, I felt bad. I started to overthink maybe I was too harsh, perhaps I did something wrong, and then I made a bad decision to reach out. Yes, a bad decision. It was worse. She replied once, but didn't reply to my last message. Then I realized she was never gonna reply, so I confirmed to her that it was her choice, wished her the best and that's it. She didn't reply. You know I did all that because I cared about her, but she didn't.

[drewleelee]

Don't attack the girls but the act of ignoring, was ignored too and trust me i know how it feels, and yes it suuucks but dude, if someone ignores you and you have only good intentions, maybe u like them or love them or just want to check on them, its their loss if they ignore that and that doesn't have to make u sad, move on and dont hate on all the gender because of one person s behavior, its their loss not yours keep it in mind.

[myTake Owner]

Thank you and yeah you're right. Though this happened before with another girl. But the previous girl although I was hurt like hell with her, she was just a crush I didn't get involved with her too much. The involvement happened in my head. With this one it's different. We've known each other! She's not some random stranger or anything. She's a friend!

[proteus912]

Guys can do that to girls too. The same thing has happened to me

[myTake Owner]

Sorry to hear... It's so painful...

[leahzrc]

If a girl ignores you just stop trying to talk to her its simple

[myTake Owner]

I know. It's the aftermath of the whole that gets me.

[leahzrc]

What do you mean

[myTake Owner]

All the overthinking, sadness, etc that occurs after ceasing to communicate with her. That's what I mean.

[leahzrc]

I think if a girl is disrespectful enough to ignore a guy that she has been talking to previously, then something is wrong with her and you should recognize that she isn't worth getting upset over. If you get upset, she'll just feel better about herself for influencing your emotions so much. If she makes you feel like you aren't special, give her a taste of her own medicine

[myTake Owner]

Yeah, you're right. I even gave her space. For several months. When I got back to her she was the same and worse. I probably shouldn't have gotten back to her in the first place. I should've ended things for good. I guess it's a lesson.

[leahzrc]

Remember that every girl is different and may have things going on that you are unaware of, but even then, it is easier to tell with those kind of situations

[Just_a_human]

How is it that your profile doesn't have an age range on it

[myTake Owner]

Because this is an anonymous.

[myTake Owner]

*anonymous

[Just_a_human]

There's an age range now.

[FunkyMonkee]

"What's wrong?"
"If YOU don't know, I'm NOT going to tell you!!"
"Well, If I KNEW I wouldn't waste my TIME asking!!!"

[Anonymous]

On the plus side you can tell if a girl is into you, because she is talking to you, not some other guy ;)

[myTake Owner]

She wasn't into me. She wanted to be friends. Now, even that is gone.

[DWornock]

Don't sweat it. Girls are not obligate to give you any explanations.

[myTake Owner]

There's no obligation here. But there's no denying that doing so would hurt the other person. And if there ever was SOME respect for the person being ghosted in the friendship/relationship, then there will at least be some form of explanation. I think leaving one party confused is just immature.

[DWornock]

That probably is imature. However, girls don't care. They have walked away; they know they are not coming back and they are not going to invest anymore of their precious time just to make some guy feel better.

[myTake Owner]

Yes, they don't care.

[highjinx]

bhoo hooo move on thats life. I don't blame her if this is how you whine and snivel to her.

[myTake Owner]

You seriously think that's how I respond to her?

[myTake Owner]

I don't. This is just to express my frustration.

[uniq_username]

1-word answers or no-replies = rejection

but they allow you to avoid the awkwardness

[thehotttguy]

Women love to accuse but don't want to confront any. Just see the comments.

[myTake Owner]

:( :(

[Benny_Oakley]

Dude your preaching more than Obama ever did, holy crap

[Babygirl_S]

You need to calm down buddy.

[myTake Owner]

Yeah, no kidding. :/